And this comes down to our biology, for the same reasons men typically form both the most incarcerated per-capita and the wealthiest individuals in a nation:

because it's fucking expected DEMANDED of us (by both genders).

Men form both the bottom rungs of things like poverty and criminal incarceration (along with 4x the successful suicide rates) and the upper echelons of society (millionaires and tycoons).

This "worst of the bottom, best of the top" mentality is constantly pushed on men (throughout any time period), and can be seen in areas of conflict and danger like the military and police, both of which exist as a means of tempering "toxic masculinity", yet altogether continue to insist that men exist not just to keep women safe, but to police other men through violence, force, and other elements of "toxic masculinity" (placed with a neat little collar around its neck) that somehow becomes less toxic when it's "your backyard" or "your man" (he had a family, after all), so long as enough scared women demand it (while also ignoring how, statistically, men are the victims of male violence more frequently than women).

Meanwhile, nowhere will you find a commonly accepted equivalent (that incurs no penalties in polite, PC society) of phrase like "dude bros" that can (just as commonly without offending) be used to describe women who don't express an interest in the opposite gender and whom (seemingly) are content to enjoy the company of their own gender.

I.e., even casual demonstrations of "men acting like men" are ridiculed, while a group of "real men" is seen as the equivalent of a Mongolian horde (or Canadians at a hockey game), leaving us, again, with "no real out" other than to act stereotypically confident, machoistic and, to reiterate, maintain the status quo of "oh yeah, I'M not one of those bad men! I can police other men I demean as 'lesser' AND pay taxes!" (or otherwise be "at risk" of not being one of the upper 20%, since you're still "grey in the middle").

We're not expected to be people, we're expected to be more (the biggest and strongest and most empathetic Mongolian men), trying (thus the joke of women hating happy men), or dead.

And we're expected to do that to our fellow men, too.