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Ok I know this has been asked a lot but I can't get it up I know it's nerves and probably porn induced ed, but is there I way I can just use some brain power and make this happen tonight?

Earth_unit-lifE

September 14, 2017

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Title	Ok I know this has been asked a lot but I can't get it up I know it's nerves and probably porn induced ed, but is there I way I can just use some brain power and make this happen tonight?
Author	Earth_unit-lifE
Upvotes	7
Comments	26
Date	September 14, 2017 1:35 PM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/7028yl/ok_i_know_this_has_been_asked_a_lot_but_i_cant/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/askTRP/ok-i-know-this-has-been-asked-a-lot-but-i-cant-get.114369 https://theredarchive.com/post/114369

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It has nothing to do with porn! Most guys watch porn and fuck every day without a problem, the only downside is you won't have enough cum for a good money shot and that's it. This can be fixed by waiting a day or two for your balls to get filled again.
It's a wrong belief her on trp that if you stop watching porn your dick will start magically getting hard... In theory but not in reality (It's a common belief here because people will copypaste what has a lot of upvotes to get a lot upvotes without a care about the actual problem. In other words, nofap is a just a meme^{letthedownvotesrain).} It's ok to fap, the problem is the addiction to porn, the wasted time and not the actual act of fapping. Your tip is not gonna get desensitized, it's a myth.

The real reason why you can't get hard is in your brain; you're thinking about your performance and not the actual girl. Your state of mind should be "OMFG I can't wait to go deep inside!" and not "Oh shit, am I gonna be able to go deep inside?!". Other reasons can be that you don't like the girl (she smells or she's ugly) or if the only thing you're thinking about is if this bitch has got any STDs "Oh shit did the condom slip off or break, oh it's still there, oh fuck did I just touch her juices with my finger?! I'm dead as fuck!", as a result you're not enjoying the moment and can't maintain your erection. And then there are medical conditions which are far from being as common as the other reasons.

If it's your first time, try a shy girl with lower SMV than yours so you'll feel comfortable and in charge, or start with a girl you really like, you know, the kind of girls you can't hide your boner when they're near you. Don't start with a super hot girl where the only thing you'll be thinking about is "Man she's used to a lot of dick, am I gonna be able to satisfy her?!". Start with the cute innocent shy ones and then work your way up to the hot slutty ones.

It shouldn't be a task, it should be fun.

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How old are you?

If you can get hard with porn but not with a girl, the problem is psychological not physical. When you whack off, pay attention to how hard you really get, and if you are hard without your hand squeezing your cock.

Also you can try different positions. For example I'm rock hard in missionary and doggy; I lose some of the rigidity in cowgirl.

Are the condoms too tight? When I was young and inexperienced I lost a few erections due to too tight condoms.

If you have some cash and live in an escort-friendly city, as an alternative you can try hiring a girl and explain what you're trying to do (get and stay hard). If you get a decent one she'll help you out for her regular fee; with a pro you don't need to try to turn her on so she won't care if you go soft. If that happens, she'll try to get you hard again - she'll keep at it until your time is up.

You can do this with a girlfriend as well, but a girlfriend might not have the patience to work with you; she probably wants to get fucked hard and doesn't want to be your therapist or surrogate. An escort will probably enjoy the challenge and might appreciate a break from getting railed for a full hour.

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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