Dear RedPill, asking there because this sub is more relevant to my situation.
Here is the story of me fucking up and being irresponsible.

I used to have a GF. Let's call her Lucy, for simplicity.
This was quite a hard three years relationship, we lived in different countries but visited each other and even lived together for months. With the COVID situation, it was not easy to travel but we managed to go through it. I was not always a good partner, I met other women and sometimes treated my long-term partner Lucy unfairly. But she is not present as well and can be very hard to deal with. Lucy is young and has a lot of attention from other men because of her big eyes, great ass, and outstanding boobs. Very feminine, if you can open her.

One year ago, I left my LTR GF after an argument. Two weeks after I left, Lucy told me, she is pregnant (classic baby trap). She refused to do an abortion, although it was very close. She wrote me many letters, crazy messages, begging me to come back, she was devastated and destroyed. I even tried to get back with Lucy and proposed to move with me and travel to my country, but she said no. Lucy was crazy(me as well), and in the end, I blocked her from all my accounts. She tried to reach me by different means and cried to come when she will be giving birth. But I ignored her and gave her almost no support.
To avoid paternity questions, yes, it is a mine baby girl. I actually felt Lucy is pregnant because of how her chemistry changed during my last weeks with her. And I am sure of her loyalty (you can never be sure, but the baby is similar to me, I have seen photos). I consider doing a test in the near future.

Back to the story. Almost two years passed, and Lucy was still writing and sending me photos on Facebook. I felt enormous guilt, especially because I have abandoned the child. I wrote her back, we scheduled a video meeting. And... she was very reasonable and nice, I actually was glad to see her. Lucy looked beautiful and lost weight, started reading a lot of books to integrate her uncontrolled femininity, I was pleasantly surprised with the internal work she has done! After a few conversations, I asked her to consider moving together. She suddenly agreed without hesitation.

Honestly, I want to have a family and be the "caption of the ship". I also managed to open my company last year and started earning a lot of money, much more than the average person in my country(I have not disclosed it to her). I feel pretty confident to be able to support the child and even baby mama for the time she still needs to look after the kid.

The choices I have now:

  1. Go to court and decide on alimony, not get together with her, because she basically burned her chances the first time I tried to take her when she was pregnant. And there are no second chances. It was my frame before speaking with her. Actually, Lucy is not getting to the court only because she hopes to be together.
  2. Rent a bigger apartment right now and try to build my own family with a baby mama.

Everything is more complicated because of the location in different countries. I will need to support her fully if she moves. Now she is in a very bad financial situation, relying on friends, family, and the state. YOu can imagine how it is to be a young single mom.

Need some advice on how to proceed. And what mistakes not to make.

For instance, I want to have a stable family and with all her drawbacks, Lucy is not bad. But many times I felt I can do better. Especially now.
I do not want to go to a court and undergo all of the paternity procedures. I do not want to spend my life running from alimonies.

At the same time, I do not want baby mama to take my invitation lightly. After she refused the first time, it was "game over" I really tried to convince her in the past. And now I feel like I am doing too much by offering her a lift to a better life along with a child, especially after the nuclear craziness we poured into each other during the pregnancy. To be honest, I broke my frame, treated her badly, and provided zero support, because I did not welcome the child in my life. I did very immature things, breaking promises and changing my mind many times. She still trusts me, by the way.

Obviously, I will not propose to her or get married, if she moves she will need to support herself and bring something to the table besides the baby.

Sorry for this juvenile post, I realize how many bad decisions I made so far.