I'll just say right off the top that I accept that I'm brainwashed by the media and am biased in the sense that, despite how much I hate feminism, I still think it's a good thing at its core. I still think that it's meant for equality in various things and making sure people feel safe. There's no basis for it other than bad things happening here and there that I hear about and the constant exposure to women having things worse off nowadays.

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That being said, I'm sick and tired of how much feminism has invaded the media. While I still don't think feminism itself is bad, I feel like it enables bad things too much. Constantly it feels like the media is villainizing men and trying to find misogyny where there is none. This is especially noticable with TikTok and its algorithm pushing whatever narrative you want an echo chamber for.

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The media talks about a guy cheating on a girl and it blows up if it's a famous person as an example of why men are terrible. If it's someone not famous, it'll still get quite a bit of attention and have a bunch of people analyzing every piece of the video and pretty much finding any info they can on the guy to absolutely ruin his life or at least make him a laughing stock online. And I'm not gonna defend these guys. They're shitty people so whatever if they get so much hate. What I hate is that when a girl cheats on a guy, noone cares. It doesn't blow up on media and if some people do attack the girl online, they're defended because it's not nice to do that. Fair enough, I also don't exactly condone attacking someone completely unrelated to your own life, so I won't judge that, but why is it always such different treatment? In fact, a lot of the time, you'll see people laughing at the guy or making jokes about it. It's just such a weird double standard. It bothers me because it encourages people like my strongly feminist friend to say things like "only men ever cheat."

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Then you have moments like when some female twitch streamer is extremely upset and cries about seeing deepfake porn of her online and there are people saying that she's making a big deal over nothing. Yeah, those comments aren't great, I understand that. Deepfakes are normal to expect online, but while some people are ok with it, others are going to be understandably upset about it. What I don't get is how those responses get interpreted as a show of objectification of women by people on TikTok. Why push that narrative? It's a bunch of unempathetic people making those comments, but they weren't objectifying her at any point. And while I'm on that topic, I don't get why sexualizing and objectifying men is celebrated so much if there's so much hate to doing the same for women. Personally don't think anyone should be objectified, but sexualizing is whatever. There's this weird idea that if something is bad, it's great when it to happen to men because women had to deal with it for so long. That's not how equality works, but it's just accepted as ok for some reason.

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You get things like that recent trend of accusing men at the gym for staring at you despite them just glancing at best. Personally, I have a habit of letting my eyes wander at the gym and I'll stare at other guys working out before I realize I'm staring. It's not like I'm thinking "man, that guy is hot" (I'm straight), my eyes just want to focus on whatever catches its attention.

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You have people defining what makes a man worth your time by saying they should be taking you on dates, buying flowers, or doing something special for you often. I understand that this is great for the people who are stuck in a bad relationship for no reason beyond feeling like they like their partner, but it also encourages having a guy prove that he's worth your time beyond just being a good match who'll treat you well, talk things out with you, and spend time with you. It's nice to do things for your significant other, but it just shouldn't feel like something you have to do to prove you're worth it.

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You have a recent trend of happy couples being ones where the guy is a "golden retriever." They're literally calling their significant other a dog, but that's ok because it's supposed to be a positive thing? On top of that, I often see the women in those relationships talking about how they have to stop themselves from being verbally abusive with the guy because they have to remind themselves that the guy did nothing wrong and they're just interpreting something negatively for no reason. I just see that and realize that they're saying it like that's a good thing, but it seems crazy to me that such a thing had to happen at all. Why is the default to just assume that the guy did something negative?

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The list goes on and on. It just feels like media has become a thing where we villainize men and point out misogyny where there is little, if any. It became a trend to point out things that men are bad at and women are better at. It's just sickening to me. As a guy, I'm just keeping to myself, being generally nice to people around me the few times I interact with others and it sucks when I have this kind of media shoved in my face telling me that since I'm a guy, I'm a piece of shit who shouldn't exist.