I have been with my current girlfriend for 4 months. In short, she has 90% green flags and 10% yellow/red flags.

  1. Good relationship with her family
  2. Parents together for a long time
  3. Christian upbringing, but did drift away
  4. Strong father
  5. Loyal to her friends. She's been best friends with a girl since elementary school
  6. Minimal hoe friends in her friend group
  7. She resisted heavily before putting out on the 2nd date
  8. She's shy in general. She was also shy and inexperienced in bed when we first met.
  9. She became more sexually expressive after a few amazing sessions
  10. Her wardrobe is mostly modest and prudish
  11. Positive and wholesome in general
  12. Rather picky when it comes to dating
  13. Not a drinker or party goer at the moment
  14. She puts a lot of effort into the relationship, e.g. paying for meals, taking me on trips, buying me gifts

What's concerning to me is her past.

From her Instagram archive and our conversations, she brought up that she had a party phase in college. She's pretty open about it.

She went to a school that had a decent party scene on the East Coast. She said she did that due to peer pressure and wanting to appear popular.

She said she drank, partied and went out clubbing quite a bit. But she was always the "mom of the group" making sure everyone was alright.

She did tell that she once hooked up with a guy from the club and regretted it.

She said and I quote "I used to struggle with FWB, then I realized that there's someone out there for everyone." Maybe she preferred one solid FWB over random hookups. Maybe she tried to lock down guys out of her league and ended up being a side FWB. Or maybe she simply seeked casual sex intentionally.

I'm red pilled and prefer a partner with a 10 and under body count, if we're talking LTR and marriage. I have a body count of 8. I have never been part of the hookup culture. My body count all came from relationships or short term dating that simply didn't work out.

Am I dealing with a reformed hoe here (20+ body count)? Or Is she just an average girl who had a brief party phase in college and had a handful of ONS? I know asking her directly is pointless, but what are some good indicators or cues I can use to sus out the truth?