TL: DR : Escalated on date. From kiss to 2nd base. Showed LMR. Overcame it. Got naked. fingered her for long. In the process lost erection. couldnt fuck. Has happened before as well. Need help !

So I posted this help post yesterday and you advise helped.

We kissed passionately for a long time, while dancing to music and then on the couch. She was reluctant to goto bedroom, which i countered saying 'its uncomfortable at the couch' and 'we wont do anything you are not comfortable with' and i took her by the hand and into the bedroom. She showed a lot or LMR and even bought the 'i need to know you first', 'what are you looking for', 'even if we do i wont enjoy this', 'whats the rush'. This long rant vent for more than an hour. At some point of time i said 'forget it, you lost your chance, its not happening tonight'. I think it acted on her and after a few minutes we kissing passionately again and i managed to her top and reach her pussy by hand, she was very wet. Soon we were both naked and i was fingering her. I think i did that for quite some time to the point my fingers started hurting, but she was not coming. Was not clear if she liked the clit more on fingering more and she kept telling me to suck/bite her earlobes as they are very sensitive. She did came close to coming but didnt actually come.

Anyways when the moment came, maybe it was performance pressure ( 2 month dry spell ) or i got too tired, I couldn't get the junior up. I put the condom when it was erect for a short time but when i tried to enter her she was dry, i lost my erection at this point. Also it became too much and i asked why are you dry, to which she replied 'i dont know' and i said 'yeah i am not hard as well' and removed the condom. We cuddled for sometime and kissed and i asked her to stay the night and i will wake her up and she can leave early, but she was like 'i will have to leave early and i like to sleep in my bed'. I dropped her to the car and asked her to text when she reach home.

She did text ' I am home' . I send a few text after that('i had a good time except the awkward part' , 'good night' and even when i got the erection back later 'seems like it needed half an hour more, you should have stayed' to which she didn't reply at all. Tried asking for movie today, got a reply need not work and relax.

Questions

Now first of all : 1) Is it all doomed. Or anyway to recover ? what to reply/say now? I like the girl for a plate that she is fun and could be crazy in bed. Not looking for LTR though.

2) Did any of you have this situation. How do you handle? I am worried it might happen again. I don't have enough access to sex so dont want to let these opportunities go.

3) I had this situation before as well. But it was usually with my girlfriend and we would sleep and fuck later at night. I am not too confident at my fucking skills( only fucked 4 girls so far ) and stay in my head when it time to fuck a new girl. Plus i have noticed my erections are not too hard, maybe porn(which i cut out completely now), or excessive masturbation (once a day), and i don't get morning wood often. Any tips to fix this ? Will be grateful.

Please feel free to point out where i fucked up, or what should be done different and what should i change. I can handle ruthless criticism .

Apologies if the post text sounds like high school fantasy