Is it ok to call controlling women & etc. feminists?

househubbyintraining · 2023-03-11T12:21:18+00:00

if they label themselves yes, if not no. You'd be turning the term feminist into a term like toxic masculinity.

WeEatBabies · 2023-03-11T14:21:12+00:00

I the same way someone who uses judo moves can be called a judoka.

If the women use coercive control based on the feminist Duluth model of D.V. then you can call her a feminist.

For example : My mother is moving with us and if you don't like it I'm going to call the cops, claim domestic violence and you will be arrested and lose your job!

In that example, the threat of false claims using the feminist gendered laws makes her feminist!

TyNastyTime · 2023-03-11T18:39:29+00:00

I've dated a couple women who would hide behind their femininity to be controlling and abusive. With them fully knowing that you can't properly defend yourself from them without possibly being charged with domestic violence.

I like to refer to them as cowards. It's ironic that it always seems to happen when they see that you are losing interest and breaking up with them. It's certainly not just dangerous for women to leave relationships, but that's not a conversation society is ready for just yet.

Interlocutioniatoria · 2023-03-12T14:23:41+00:00

Not unless they actually are. My exie is from a foreign country where traditional gender roles are actively supported by women: "men are men and women are women!" She scoffed at feminists. But over the years she became an insane control freak to the point I had to divorce her ass (lost a house but meh it was so worth it LOL!). So no, controlling women are not necessarily feminists; bitches yes, feminists perhaps not.

ElisaSKy · 2023-03-11T17:58:07+00:00

Personally, I would reserve the term "feminist" for anyone whom genuinely believes the provably bogus idea that "violence has a male face" (AKA "The Patriarchy"), or anyone lying about or doctoring the stats, or otherwise shoving violence done by men under a spotlight while shoving violence done by women under the rug .

I wouldn't be surprised if some violent and/or controlling woman actually believes that BS (and feel justified in "fighting back against "The Patriarchy"" as a result), and neither would I be surprised that some have figured out that the canard that is "The Patriarchy" gives them a get out of jail free card, and actively push that canard as a result.

But I would reserve that term not to anyone smart and cynical enough to exploit that canard, but to anyone whom either genuinely believes it and/or cynically pushes it for personal gain.

AgeOfReasonEnds31120 · 2023-03-11T17:26:38+00:00

Huh?

jampaanenjoyer97 · 2023-03-11T18:12:57+00:00

odoof12 · 2023-03-12T16:34:39+00:00

not always, the majority of feminists are abusive people for sure. but theirs plenty of non feminist abusive women out there

Ivyiel_focken_doz · 2023-03-12T18:39:24+00:00

Depends on the context, but in general being a feminist is not a bad thing, being a radical feminist or man-hater is. So I wouldn’t label them a feminist because of them being controlling, I would label them controlling, and if they’re manhating in a controlling way call them a femn*zi not a feminist

Title	Is it ok to call controlling women & etc. feminists?
Author	PietroLima545BR
Upvotes	1
Comments	13
Date	March 11, 2023 12:06 PM UTC (3 years ago)
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