Maintaining relationship questions

failingtheturingtest · 2017-11-13T06:37:59+00:00

Dread

Check out the 12 Levels of Dread
Dread is greatly misunderstood around here these days. I think part of it is because of the name. Essentially, it should be "Make sure she dreads the thought of losing you, and she knows it's a very real possibility"

Imagine waking up and watching your ridiculously attractive SO crawl out of bed a 4:30am, shake up a pre-workout in sexy tights, and trot off to a gym full of other hotties / badass blokes.
She comes home all sweaty and pumped up, whips up some breakfast, runs through a shower, you crawl your ass out of bed, she gives you a kiss, slaps you on the butt and says "Have a good day, I'm gunna be late home tonight" and trots off.
You don't know WHY she's gunna be late. She's often got meetings, it's not Tuesday or Thursday (which is when she's at her book signing and beach volleyball, respectively). You message her around lunchtime to see what time she'll be home, and the response is "I'm not sure. I'll sort out my own food. x"
You're slaving away at your boring-ass job and she's hanging out with high-class blokes/sheilas all day because she's very good at her job.
She comes home around 9ish and says "I managed to get out a bit earlier, let's make the most of it" and drags you into the bedroom. She fucks your brains out, then gets ready for bed and she's lights out.
You have no idea why she was late, but you just got fucked good so at the moment, it doesn't matter.

She's hot. She's surrounded by options. She's constantly improving herself, professionally, socially, physically. She doesn't rest on her current success, and you know that at any moment you fuck this up, she could walk out the door and any one of a hundred rich, sexy blokes would be trying to snatch her up.

That is dread. Flip the script. Be the man she couldn't bear to lose.
She doesn't know where you are all the time. She does know that the reason you are still with her is that you currently choose to be. Not because you're too lazy to change.
She doesn't know that you aren't having an affair, but she knows when you come home, you fuck her into oblivion, so she's pretty sure you're not.
You always look good, even when you don't. It's not just your choice of clothes, it's how you fit them, and how you carry yourself. You're never lazy, or a slouch. And you never take shit from her (or anyone else).
She knows that should she become boring, a nag, fat, stop putting out, or just generally not the best option anymore; you've got a hundred hot sheilas following you around the gym/office/sportsfield waiting for their moment to pounce.

Back up

Up to you. If you don't want to actively have a side-piece, don't. Just make sure you do covet a little attention when there are attractive women around (to show that you've still got it). Abundance mentality is more than fucking multiple sheilas. It's about knowing that one sheila isn't the decider of your happiness. This is also touched on in the 12 levels of dread.

MattyAnon · 2017-11-13T12:40:37+00:00

I want to know how to maintain an existing relationship

Be her best option, don't commit so much that she thinks "He really likes me, therefore I can do better". [ie dread as mentioned already]

However.... fundamentally... DO NOT CARE SO MUCH. Your attachment will fuck you over. Do not be "trying to make it work", women sniff this out and it feels beta to them.

Dread, when a normal relationship when should I know to do this? suddenly should I disappear from talking for a day and not meet for a while?

This needs PRACTICE. See different girls. Get the hang of it. You can't beat the process.

Having a backup girl, is it really okay? how to get rid of the guilty feeling when I am cheating?

Don't commit. You're not cheating if you're not exclusive.

Always have backup options (abundance mentality). Girls do this relentlessly, you should too.

What are other essential things to in maintaining relationships

It's worth getting good at maintaining relationships, but don't try and maintain any specific one. DO NOT NEED HER.

Title	Maintaining relationship questions
Author	hereforsexaintlove
Upvotes	9
Comments	8
Date	November 13, 2017 4:43 AM UTC (8 years ago)
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