I just experienced first hand why we don't inform scrotes as to what their red flags are. The scrote I speak of is not one of romantic involvement, but just another narcissist in the wild.

I got scammed out of $150.

Long story short, I signed up to take a furniture painting class from a specific person, and we paid the shop owner scrote via Venmo. (first mistake ... venmo, when you pay someone via venmo, that's it your money is gone). I knew by looking at his Venmo picture that he was probably a shit-bag but the little voice that makes us questions our instincts as women kicked in. "no silly woman ... don't be judgmental like that, how on earth could you look a a photo and know that this person is a scumbag?". So I paid it.

Not long after that, the teacher had let us know that she has left the company because he is in fact a shit-bag. Stiffing employees out of pay, he doesn't know what he's doing when it comes to the furniture stuff, many disgruntled customers etc. I even found a previous company he had, littered with 1 star reviews and people telling their story of how he scammed them.

I Finally got him on the phone and he called me a c*nt for telling him i don't want to hear his lies, i paid him for a class that isn't happening as agreed upon and i demand a refund. After he hung up I texted him and told him that I knew he was scum the moment I saw his Venmo photo and I never should've paid him the money. Hours later I noticed he changed his photo to a picture of a couch.

I thought "NOOOOOOooooo! I've now helped him to continue to scam people! AHRRRGGG!"

All of this to show and example of WHY WE DON'T EXPLAIN TO SCROTES THE THINGS THEY DO THAT ARE RED FLAGS. OH and also LISTEN TO YOUR WOMAN'S INTUITION!