In their seemingly endless campaign to re-define abuse and violence, the feminists in my country (Australia) have made ground in introducing legislation to include "coercive control" in the domestic violence laws. The accepted definition of domestic violence is apparently insufficient to cover the terrible conditions women are currently facing. What they are seeking is to give Police the power to arrest men who try to control the behaviour of their wives. In case anyone thinks this is a joke (as did I), it would appear that telling your wife she is not free to spend the entire family's income on shoes is to be considered "abuse" under the same category as blokes who hit their wives. "Abuse"="violence" and you could quickly find yourself (as a male) to be wearing handcuffs. https://www.marieclaire.com.au/coercive-control-campaign But the problem as I see it, is that this may back-fire on women when it becomes clear that most "controlling" behaviour (IMO) comes from women themselves. In my own (failed) marriage, if I had dared to suggest that the mortgage payments were possibly of a higher priority than the Christian LeBoutens, I would quickly find myself sleeping on the couch for a week. If I hinted that the car may need re-fuelling, it would be entirely my problem to take a container to re-fill it on the side of the road somewhere when she ran out (and cop abuse for the delay) The sad part is that I think attempts to re-define words like "violence " and "abuse" are ultimately going to be harmful to women because they minimise the tragedy of actual abuse.