You have to admit getting married in society is a huge risk

I_like_the_word_MUFF · 2021-02-06T14:28:39+00:00

I was married for 18 years and then divorced.

You guys make it seem like it'll kill you. It doesn't. It was a good marriage until it wasn't and then it was over.

That's life.

You can sit in your room all day and be scared of everything or you can live life, chaos and all. But you'll never game life and it will always blindside you.

leho1995 · 2021-02-06T14:37:36+00:00

How do you know divorce rates are high because of infidelity?

I am a woman and I consider myself very faithful. I'm an extremely bad liar, so I almost never lie. I'm not perfect, but I consider my faithfulness to be my strength.

Jealousy and paranoia of abandonment, fear of cheating pushes women away from men. There's nothing worse than being checked all the time.

modestgray · 2021-02-06T12:16:18+00:00

US divorce rate has hit a 50 year low. By far most of the happy, healthy, successful men on this planet are blue pill. Men buy into the red pill philosophy because they are failures in the real world. Red pill makes men feel pessimistic but pessimism is in no way justified. For the people on this planet life has in general never been better. You have bought into red pill because you are either gullible or not very bright.

Jekawi · 2021-02-06T12:11:39+00:00

The sad part is all the red flags where there but people were too blue pilled to notice, thinking that by trying to work harder on marriage would fix the problems when it only pushes them away.

What do you mean by "too blue pilled"?

Look, people suck. We're selfish and often only don't think about expanding consequences from our actions. When it comes to cheating, we seem to collectively think it's a rare thing that only bad people do. That's false. I strongly recommend the book The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity by Esther Perel or, for a more immediate sense of what he book is about, her TEDtalk about it. It really helped me overcome being cheated on but also taught me about how common it is and that I should approach it as "the big bad" but just that humans are flawed to the extreme when it comes to getting jinky with it.

The whole legal system around marriage in the States though I can't comment on except to judge.

Yesm3can · 2021-02-06T14:01:13+00:00

Aren't RedPillers the ones who like to use dread to try to win their partner's attention and affection back, instead of just leaving/divorcing like most normal people?

This 'dread' is very pathetic, some people gives it a more apt name; aka Doing the Pick Me Dance.

Title	You have to admit getting married in society is a huge risk
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Date	February 6, 2021 12:04 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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