I no longer envy younger women, but rather feel bad for them

huevos_and_whiskey · 2021-01-27T20:07:04+00:00

Same. I miss looking young, but not being harassed is nice.

millennialpink2000 · 2021-01-27T20:14:25+00:00

I am reaching this difficult phase myself. I am past many predator's age of interest. It's weird being treated "less than human" by them, as an object that has fallen down the rankings. The ultimate honesty of men's removed masks is what is "hurtful", but we must rapidly adjust from the ambivalent shock and reeling vertigo of less objectification to mobilising to help the "fresh meat". I used to think I was constantly threatened by women's beauty, that's what society told me I felt. I realised recently, I was actually feeling panic at the fact I could see they were attractive, because if a woman notices, what the hell does a man think of her? Yes, I felt threatened...out of empathy. It's weird. And of course, yes, the need for men to find me attractive, which is a BITCH to get rid of (maybe I never will). Men treat women better when they want to fuck us, who wouldn't want to be treated with a little dignity, even if it's a ruse?

Now my drive to protect the young ones is hard to manage. I don't want to be too intense, it pushes them away. I know they think they know everything and it feels patronising to be told you don't know shit at 18 (you just think you do and you want to believe it, but you know he is using you and doesn't care, it just hurts too much to accept it, it needs to be love, because your home life sucks and you just want to be pretty) and having an older woman read your mind is unnerving and removes privacy you thought you had. You also deny it because it's embarrassing.

Worst of all, the meeting of eyes with these men. How do I hide my disgust and the fact that I AM a serious threat. "You're cock-blocking me" is how it will start. They ain't gonna like it. I am going to have to be covert, take girls aside and cover myself so I am not at as much risk. Not all heroes wear capes lol, but seriously, older women need to pass the torch. I am only 26, but that's old to a paedo. I am catcalled and hit on daily, unless there are children present, they get it instead of me. I see men eyeing up 12 year olds in leggings on the bus and I watch like a hawk, willing to get off the bus if he gets off at her stop. I would die for our girls.

It's an odd time. I have heard from many older women, that they are a disregarded invisible class by young girls (of course. They have the wisdom and that must be silenced by society), so I will get to work whilst young still.

squaremarshmallow · 2021-01-27T20:20:52+00:00

I've had men in their 30s and 40s pursue me since I was a teenager. Even though I didn't know anything about fds then I knew something was off about it. In a way you are right to pity women my age because all those men were dangerously low value and immediately tried to establish dominance over me even just in the dating phase.

One of them even straight up told me that the most important thing to men is sex and food and really good women know this and make sure their man is not lacking any of that. Then he would try to convince me to come over and cook for him or let him come into my dorm room. When that didn't work he tried to triangulate me with some random girl from his past and flash his cheap wealth. Looking back now I regret every minute I spent listening to him talk while I should have been studying. This grown man would actually drive to the student center I study at to "study with me". I was too young to really just be bold and tell him to stop contacting me. The one thing that saved timid, younger me is that I was not a romantic at all and was not looking for a relationship in high school or college.

2021-01-27T21:53:53+00:00

As a young woman, I can confidentially say: Ladies, be happy when predatory man-children won't prey on you. We deal with this constantly, it sucks. Many point out they were jelous of young women's beauty and let me tell you: You are all beautiful in your unique ways. Young, old, skinny,big,black, white.....we are all wonderful, beautiful beings inside out and don't let someone tell you otherwise, especially men!

52490 · 2021-01-27T20:07:13+00:00

Yeah turns out HVM stick to a certain age range, within their own age. Older HVM (45+) generally won’t have a wife more than 5-10 years younger from what I have seen/heard/read. The lower under 40 they are, the closer to their age they will date, meaning women 5 years or less younger than them. Any gap more than that means...they are a pedo predator. In my opinion.

Young girls can get young guys easier, I guess. But I don’t want to date younger guys either lol so I’m good.

2021-01-28T19:32:04+00:00

Your ex sounds exactly the same as mine. Divorced. Porn sick. Emotionally stunted. Criminal record. Narc. Compulsive liar. Emotional abuser. Rapist. Financial abuser.

Title	I no longer envy younger women, but rather feel bad for them
Author	rxqueen1
Upvotes	173
Comments	11
Date	January 27, 2021 2:11 AM UTC (5 years ago)
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