She's moved in to an exes house question about dating

NO_PRND · 2020-07-03T00:22:04+00:00

You can't really control who she moves on or in with. But don't move on until you know you're one hundred percent ready. Start preparing yourself for that day leave her in your past but don't start dating until you're ready I should say.

playerknowmore · 2020-07-03T00:40:39+00:00

I would normally advise work on yourself, and process your loss. You my friend needs to move on! Be honest with the women you date. I wish you luck in that department. It seems like your Ex was waiting for her Ex to be free.

I would text my Ex and tell her that I totally expect he respect the love I gave his child, and return the favor by loving my children. I can understand if he didn't respect me as your husband, but I do ask he respects my relationship with my children. Then tell her to send the papers and you will set her free with a fair custody agreement.

warrior_up · 2020-07-03T05:49:00+00:00

It’s just starting bro, accept your situation and learn how live without her in your decisions or mind. Idle hands are bad during divorce - keep your mind busy, soon she, her life, her texts, whatever she’s doing and whoever’s she’s with won’t even be in the rear view mirror anymore...you literally won’t give a flying eff.

Until then, fake it till you make it - females get angry when they’re upset, you’re dealing with temper tantrums

badbrandan · 2020-07-03T01:02:54+00:00

Well he just now started to even have anything to do with his daughter that I had been raising as my own

pugfacekillaaa · 2020-07-03T02:07:26+00:00

I would say no, give yourself time to process what’s happening and grieve. It’s loss, not just of your wife, but what’s probably more hurtful is the loss of the life you had planned and going from seeing your kids everyday to not. You even asking if you should find girls and if it would hurt your legal case makes me think you’ve maybe seen this coming and aren’t as emotionally invested in her so much as the family as a whole. Finding a girl right now would likely just be like putting a band aid on a bullet hole and honestly any girl who’s okay with getting with someone who just lost an entire marriage and family two weeks ago is prolly a little crazy. For the record I am not a divorced man but am a woman married to one and we dealt with all of this( including the crazy rebound who wouldn’t leave). Just focus on healing right now and insist on as much custodial/visitation time with your kids as possible

badbrandan · 2020-07-03T03:37:02+00:00

Thank y'all I think y'all are right but no I still do love her she was my first true love.

PetGiraffe · 2020-07-03T04:44:27+00:00

Moving on doesn’t mean get into a relationship, it means start healing and stop pining for what’s now gone. Plus I gotta be honest, I thought my divorce was the end of the world. I’m SO glad I got my freedom back. I’m living my best life and she’s an unemployed nobody. Let the wind of life guide you, even when it blows you away from what you think you want or are USED to.

dday_throwaway3 · 2020-07-03T18:07:46+00:00

> Would it help me to move on if I also tried to find some one it's only been two weeks this coming Monday.

Read this: https://forum.mensdivorce.com/viewtopic.php?f=5&t=81647

Title	She's moved in to an exes house question about dating
Author	badbrandan
Upvotes	7
Comments	12
Date	July 2, 2020 11:54 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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