I’ve posted once before just for the opportunity to put my thoughts out there. I’ve really enjoyed reading many posts here. My marriage has been tough for a few years with little to no communication from her and many attempts by myself. Tried for two years to get her to do marriage counseling with me with no luck. She was married once to an abusive husband and she told me since it didn’t work for them it wouldn’t work for us. I am not abusive! I finally went on my own just to be able to vent a little and it was absolutely incredible speaking. With someone who was outside the relationship. Counselor told me after a long discussion she saw it was obvious I was done but wanted to know if I would be willing to attend a session with my wife if she would come. Of course I would love that! She said to offer one last time to invite her. I had been hiding the fact that I was even going. She said be clear that this will be the last time I ever ask. After a tough day on Christmas with our two kids I finally broke down at the end of the night and told her everything. I asked her one last time if she would go with me. She never even hesitated to say NO. Not once did she ask how it was going or happy that I was working on myself. All she wanted to know was how I was paying for it since she hadn’t see anything from our account and when I was going. No care at all to how it was going. This was the final moment I knew that it really was over with. I have yet to file but I’m planning on it this week. She doesn’t know for sure yet but I know she has to at least suspect at this point. It’s been incredibly tough but I’ve enjoyed so much reading posts on here. I just wanted to share again.