We had the biggest fight of our marriage. In my heart of hearts I believe my position was right and just. I dug in and so did she! We immediately starting sleeping in separate rooms. One week turned into one month and one month turned into six months. We evolved to saying good morning and talking about the kids and the house. I honestly thought we would eventually work it out. I was hopeful but I was still upset from the argument. I consulted with a lawyer just in case. Embarrassed to say, she was cheaper to keep which made me reluctant to make a move. Again, I believe what we argued about was egregious. I believe she was angry and felt I was going to file. So she filed first because that is how she is. She wants to have the upper hand. I sucked up my pride and apologized for the argument which was heated. Too little to late! Not only did she blame me for the last 6 months, she blamed me for the last 20 years. End of the day, the reasons were all correctable. However, she made a decision and was sticking to it. All things being equal, it is attractive financially for her to divorce. I’m now struggling to pick up the pieces.