I’m posting here looking to see if anyone has any legal advice for me, because I’m pretty fed up with having been injured in the testicles by a woman being seen as funny and not being taken seriously.

tl;dr: Woman assaults me(male) with a groin attack unprovoked, police refuse to do anything, injuries sustained have caused me serious pain and impacted my life, lawyers don’t seem interested in offering me any counsel.

Background:

Last month while staying over at my girlfriend’s house and enjoying a bottle of wine together, she had me go to the kitchen for her to get a cup of ice. As I was doing that, her female roommate (who had been drinking vodka all evening with her boyfriend) stormed out into the kitchen. The roommate and my girlfriend were on bad terms and said roommate had apparently previously screamed at my girlfriend that same day. Roommate began drunkenly screaming in my face to “get the f%#+ out of her house.” I calmly told her that because I was a guest of my girlfriend (co-lease) she had no right to tell me to leave. Not wanting to be yelled at, I turned to go tell my girlfriend about it— but before I could walk away the roommate ran up behind me and kicked me between the legs as hard as she could.

After that, I called the police as an entire scene broke out with my girlfriend defending me and roommate and roommate’s boyfriend began screaming in her face. While I was still on the phone with dispatch, roommates boyfriend pushed my girlfriend and was looking over her like he was about to hit her. I pushed him away from her, and told dispatch I needed first responders.

Within ten minutes two sheriffs deputies arrive and take our accounts, but weren’t interested in filing any police report— apparently because I’m a male calling them to report an assault by a female. In fact, they seemed more interested in possibly arresting me even though I’d done nothing criminal and was the one who had called them. I went to the sheriffs department the next day and had a sheriffs sergeant tell me, in essence, that I “should walk it off, at least it wasn’t a 6-foot Samoan man who had kicked (me).” Seeing the sexist attitude for what it was I asked him if I had done exactly what she had would I have been arrested? His answer, in plausible deniability fashion, was a condescending metaphor using my current job that “every situation is different and depends on the circumstances.” He refused to take a police report and to file a TRO.

After that, in excruciating pain and barely able to drive or walk, I went to Urgent Care and waited for 3 hours only to be told I needed to go to the ER. After having a CT scan and an ultrasound on my scrotum, they told me that luckily I didn’t appear to have a shattered testicle or any testicular torsion. However, I did have a varicocele, hydrocele and inflamed epididymus due to the assault. After this, I waited a few weeks using ice packs and was unable to work or maintain my daily activities, not to mention have any form of sexual activity because of the pain. I then got a referral to see a urologist who ordered another ultrasound, and I am waiting for his office to set up an appointment with him because currently I am still in pain over a month later.

I’ve tried calling attorneys but no criminal attorneys will take my case because I don’t have the cooperation of the sheriffs department to file a report. Personal injury attorneys haven’t been interested either because they’d probably prefer to handle $100k car accident cases. I’m at a loss of what to do to get any justice here for my loss of income, medical costs, and pain and suffering. Meanwhile the woman who assaulted me has been doing everything in her power to fuck with my girlfriend and otherwise enjoying her life feeling free of any consequences (especially because her career as a WFH therapist would be over if she had been charged with any type of assault and battery, which would be for the best as she makes fun of her male clients and talks about their personal info).

Can anyone here advise me what I should do in these circumstances? I would truly appreciate some guidance.