One wise man on one form once told me: Just because you love someone unconditionally, doesn´t mean they are gonna Love you back. Look at how parents and children work. Who loves who more ? Parents love their children more than the children love their parents. That´s the case for both the father and the mother. That´s because the more you care and nurture something, the more you grow to Love it. Not the other way around.

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If a man wants to be loved by a woman, he has to show the goodness within him and allow her to nurture that goodness. You have to show her your potential, maybe just a fraction but let her know it´s there. And she will care for it, overtime she grows more and more attached.

Men usually do the mistake of thinking that if they work and provide hard enough, their woman will Love them. They deserve to be Loved, yes. Even the woman knows that. But unless they express the desire for her care, unless they won´t stop being shy about it, they won´t be able to form that bond.

I recommend doing this at the start of the relationship, cause like if you never expressed your feelings in the entirety of your relationship then... It could have consequences depending and who your partner is.

In my previous posts I expressed this wrongly, I said that a man has to be "useful" to a woman for her to love him but I don´t think that´s the case. I think the potential a woman can see in her man doesn´t just have to be a vision of a stable family life. In many cases, especially with younger women, it could simply be compatible ideals. Maybe you want to help to improve the world in some way and she´ll want to support you in it. Compatible goals, shared opinions, shared ideals. Then let her nurture it and she´ll Love you.

I think Love works the same for women and men. It´s the sexual attraction that´s different.

Because it doesn´t matter how strong or successful you are. As long as she had no play in it, she won´t love you.

I have heard that the men who cried at their first date never been successful. Well... crying on a first date is a bold strategy but- If you want my expert hypothesis on why it didn´t work even once, then it´s because of the reason he cried. If you cry over what a looser you are and how you have no self-worth and how lonely you are, there´s very little potential to nurture. You didn´t express nothing but a desire to dump your problems onto other people to deal with. Which, while it´s valid, is not very attractive, especially not on a first date.

Also, it´s not like you have to cry, I am just adressing an extreme cases. Just show a desire for her care and let her care for you. Demand something for once.

Men are scared of expressing their feelings and when they do, it´s usually the really... ugly feelings. Like... I know they´re honest... but c´mon you are still trying to impress someone overhere. There´s other times for ugly feelings.

I have heard that if men expressed their feelings, sometimes women would use it against them later. Now, as a person who loves to use people´s own feelings against them all the time, I know that even expressing good intentions is good enough of an ammo. But maybe it´s gonna be a little difficult for toxic women to use your feelings against you, if your feelings are gonna be pure and with good intentions.

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And if you´ll get vulnerable in front of her and share your feelings. Watch how she reacts. If she turns you down, whatever, I mean you guys are on this subreddit you have nothing to loose. If she actually expresses care and will take time to understand you, then... of course she may not Love you completely yet but that´s the path on how to get there. You also gotta show signs of improvement after she does so, so that she won´t feel like you´re just a burden to her. And if she mocks you for it, then either the feelings you expressed were the "ugly" kind or she´s just a bitch and I advise you to dump her.

And actually, you don´t even have to really share your negative feelings with her. Really, just demand something from her, demand effort from her. Make her invest into you, because that´s how she´ll learn to Love you. Besides it´s also a Great test of Love and loyalty.

Now you may ask me "What if she´s only faking that she cares about me ?" well that´s completely possible. But if caring about someone is really how you learn to Love someone. Then there´s a possibility that the effort, the investment and care she puts into "faking care" could actually turn in real Love... or she will become so frustrated with your demands that she will give up on you. Or, the love is real and she´ll be more than happy to care for you.

Of course, it´s a two way street.

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Anyway, the reason why I was thinking about this is because I´ve seen a phenomenon where a woman was actually stuck in a relationship with an obvious like... incompetent idiot. Like not even a "bad boy" like redpill says. A straight up dumbass with very little potential and no future. But she was reluctant to leave him even while others were advising her to.

I think that´s because she already invested a lot of her care and effort into him and it hurts her to let him go.

The way men and women bond is very similar.

With this, if she actually invests something into you, If you don´t just improve on your own and then give her the real deal without her putting any effort. Then she´s gonna actually Love you, even when you´ll be down at your luck. I believe that, because that investment won´t go away so easily.

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Now, of course just because you express your feelings and she´ll take care of you, doesn´t mean she Loves you. Nurses take care of their patients all the time and there´s rarely ever anything. But, if this rule is true, then letting her care for you is the way. Worth trying if I say so myself. Or, maybe just take it as a food for thought.

Hypergamy is a matter of sexuality, not Love. Express the potential and let her nurture You into becoming a man she wants You to become. Just a food for thought. Maybe worth trying.

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(Also don´t forget that young girls have trouble with setting boundries. So only demand from a mature woman and with the younger girls, if you´re a youger guy yourself, only be passive and let them decide to nurture you on their own.)