What caused you to become redpilled ?

Truthteller1995 · 2023-10-17T00:25:33+00:00

I grew up severely sexually abused by my father and emotionally abused by my step mom. So I was really vulnerable because I was really angry at the world

eatfleshdrinkblood · 2023-10-16T10:14:00+00:00

I remember when it started, it was stuff on YouTube,4Chan,and Reddit etc. that’s how I got into black pill too. Neither one was caused by anything that happened in personal life other than some negative things about women my Dad would tell me growing up. I didn’t use either pill to my benefit though they just made me feel I better not talk to women my own age period because I was less than perfect. I even felt ashamed for being attracted to women because I just assumed after reading the pills they all hated and were repulsed and scared of me.

xvszero · 2023-10-16T14:08:49+00:00

I grew up in a far right Catholic home so I was basically taught a lot of shit ideas by my own mom.

Possible-Shift249 · 2023-10-16T15:19:57+00:00

YouTube ,and me losing my female friends caused me to get in the red pill in real life. Ever since I’ve lost my female friends I’ve been angry, bitter blaming, and had extremely bad thoughts. Plus my dad telling me not true things about women.

Difficult_Ferret2838 · 2023-10-16T16:32:46+00:00

On paper I should be a desirable man, but in reality I'm not. This causes distress, and I looked for a reason to explain it.

Outrageous_Touch231 · 2023-10-16T14:52:27+00:00

narcissism tbh

Top_Radio_9436 · 2023-10-16T17:22:34+00:00

I was probably semi red pilled as a teenage boy way back before red pill was even a thing back in the late 2000s and early 2010s; good thing we didn't have Andrew Taint then. My dad is an old-school misogynist and my mother was raised by socially conservative parents who are now severely Fox brained. In hindsight it was my dad and his friends carping about how women frequently make false rape accusations (total BS) and how women are favored by the judicial system (somewhat true). In hindsight, some of his friends had really disturbing views on women and sexuality I just didn't know then.

Additionally, my mom was always insisting that my sister adhere to gender roles and be more "ladylike." My mom and grandma always used traditional gender roles as cop out or as a tool to manipulate men. My mom learned from her mother (who has narcissistic traits) how to play the "damsel in distress" or play dumb to get men to do things for her and rescue her. I resented this kind of manipulation and at the time I might have thought this was normal for women. As I made more friendships with girls in my late teens I realized this just wasn't the case and my mom and grandma were just being toxic.

mousesleep · 2023-10-16T11:55:53+00:00

Brian Atlas of the Whatever Podcast was my guilty pleasure.

I was very addicted and a super chatter, wasting my money on there.

Destiny deprogrammed me.

I still listen to Whatever, but now cannot stand any of the tradcons opinions and Brian is toxic as fuck

I cannot stress how important Destiny is and the content Destiny is putting out there is SO NEEDED right now.

Young men need voices to challenge the likes of Brian Atlas, Fresh n Fit, PearlyThings and more

Darkorigins7323 · 2023-10-17T00:17:24+00:00

YouTube

DecisionPlastic9740 · 2023-10-16T17:57:40+00:00

The dating advice women gave me never worked out.

DaFineLadChamp · 2023-10-17T01:35:54+00:00

Believe it or not some women redpilled me. They simply like toxic masculinity and like to be inferior. I’d some bad encounters haha

Vlark_Turgap · 2023-10-17T22:40:14+00:00

I was a obese, insecure and lonely teenager. Togheter with YouTube and 4chan-like groups in Facebook, that was the perfect formula for me to become a redpill.

vladiVP · 2023-10-16T13:23:01+00:00

Well I was very disgusting for the girls, so the redpill shit was "someone" who understood my situation rather than giving me copes. I am not "redpilled" anymore.

Equivalent-Target724 · 2023-10-18T05:17:06+00:00

I've always been this way. Didn't know they had a term for it and called it redpill. I wouldn't really identify as red pill in just more in line with the general philosophy than not.

Secure_Task3023 · 2023-10-16T13:52:56+00:00

I have seen the Alpha Beta dynamic in real life. I've had girls make me wait while I found out that they hook up with dudes immediately that they thought were hotter. I have also been the guy a girl wanted to hookup with immediately as well. I don't think I could ever date a woman knowing they have fucked a dude without going through any courtship and its safe to say a majority of women have done that at least once.

thegreatone998 · 2023-10-16T16:56:04+00:00

For me it was some of us the points I agree with that made me red pill but once you keep listening to it, it becomes addictive. But overall it's just common sense to be honest.

Pale-Kaleidoscope848 · 2023-10-18T18:13:02+00:00

I'm from Mexico, a place where is called misogynistic and machista, but growing up here had taught me a lot of things. For so long I'd believe woman are the solutions to a lot of things and men are the worst of this world, a plague. but with time I've see how truly womans also are terrible human begins, also I've seen how a lot them cheated on his partner, mocking about them, leave his family for a side piece. Etc. So I have to found another believe, that's where red pill comes to action. BUT I don't think I've falled for him, I just take what is good (like be better for yourself) and leave behind what doesn't help.

prolific1997 · 2023-10-21T04:28:27+00:00

Bad experiences with women

Nameless_Soldier · 2023-10-23T14:52:42+00:00

What I'd been taught about gender roles and dating was very "Old School Disney". When I started dating I felt like I was lied to so the blue pill Vs red pill analogy resonated with me. At this point I'm not even sure most redpillers know why it's called that

Direct_Yesterday_349 · 2023-10-28T10:38:56+00:00

This is a great question. I am divorced. When I first separated and lived part time with ex and children I started dating and was often surprised and amused by the behaviors and types of people I encountered. I saw patterns. I was becoming red pill aware almost 10 years ago but I never heard of this until a couple of months ago. The divorce went smoothly since I was prepared for it well in advance and my ex and I are rational people who had best interest of children at heart. Bad divorces often drive men to be red pill. With me that wasn’t it, it was the craziness in the dating market that really was instructive and put me on my path. Everything I listened to rich cooper and coach adams say is absolutely true and often found myself going back in time to odd situations and realizing ‘yup, that’s true I know’ or ‘oh, that’s what this was!’ I am off dating apps and not focusing on dating anymore. I’m almost 50 and have 2 kids that are adults or almost there so don’t feel like I am missing anything anymore. Here’s a taste of what dating market is for divorced men in 30’s and 40’s: 1. Tons of single mothers who made poor life choices. 2. Tons of women who are older or heavier than their photos online. 3. Tons of women with high body counts and or other issues trying to pass themselves off as ‘good girls’ to try to hook a beta male provider. 4. Women in late 30’s/early 40’s who wasted their youth working, partying, hooking up with chads, now suffering from ‘baby rabies’ trying to intentionally get pregnant so they can extract child support money from you. 5. Hopeless romantics thinking you’re going to wife them up and grow old with them and share your resources with them despite their being too old to have kids (marriage supposed to be for raising kids!) 6. Women with mental health issues. 7. Women who use men for foodie calls. 8. Sugar babies looking for money despite not having the goods to earn the sort of money they want. 9. Women who are 3’s and 4’s sometimes thinking they’re too hot for me because last week a guy who’s an 8 banged then out without taking them out on a date then ghosted them. 10. Women who are bratty and entitled and immature for their age. 11. Women who are more masculine than feminine.

The dating market is toxic beyond belief and women have become totally delusional and usually aren’t fun to be around. That made me red pill aware .

Catchmeinthe951 · 2023-11-01T16:00:36+00:00

Trauma/toxic relationships. if you read the Bible it says a wicked man is given a wicked women so I had to learn it was also my fault. Praise the lord

Operator_Diego77 · 2023-11-11T14:31:59+00:00

first I went mgtow in high school bc my mom cheated on my dad, that created me a trauma and I thought stupidly that If my mom couldn't have been loyal to my father, no one could (I know pretty stupid logic, I waa just a teen) so I went Mgtow, then I simply leave it. Then I'd a toxic relationship with a narcisist girl after the pandemic and the death of my grandpas, I leave that girl and I was a relatively short relationship with an American girl than seemed to be a very good one and the indicated, but she left me and abandoned me. I was pretty sad again, 3 years of straight hardships, It was just my therapist and me against an army, vast mayority of my friends are busy either working or studying (or both) so due that, I felt into the red pill recently. Also even before taking the rp, I've never been able to feel a connection with a women again, nor feel truly attraction to one, even if she's pretty. Bc of that I dated a couple of girls this year but no one worked out. I think that perhaps a girl of my classroom is interest in me, but I'm not so sure and that girl has a couple of redflags

DangerStarfish · 2023-11-14T11:00:18+00:00

The mother of my children and her racist ass parents did a whole lot of fucked up shit towards me while we were together. And after we broke up.

The first year I was constantly accused of cheating. I always had proof that I wasn't...

She waited roughly two and a years to tell me she was married to someone else, because I proposed to her. Hiding her first child from me as well.... Hid her pregnancy with my first born child from me only spilling the beans to keep me from leaving her for all the lying and secrets

I start developing a recurring throat infection. Very important detail here.

Sobbed in my arms about wanting her kid back. And begging me not to leave... I was making decent money at the time... I paid to retain a lawyer who specializes in that kind of thing.

I meet the kid... Good kid... Kinda bratty at first..but whatever, we bonded.. he idolized me a bit. After a while he was my little white shadow.. Followed me everywhere... Loved the kid, like I would a baby brother cause I was too young and irresponsible to view him as a son at the time. (Weird I know.. cause... I'm with his mom... But she was an older woman.)

We fought for 2 years in an attempt to get custody of the lil.man(who's damn near a grown adult today.) .... His father was abusing him.. I took that personally... Like it hurt me... Even though he's not mine.

...we was literally a couple of hearings away from getting full custody, I spent a small fortune and the entirety of my savings on getting this kid to his mother, even though I'm paying, I was not permitted to be in the room for mediations

Out of the blue she gives up the partial custody, and tells the lawyer "I don't care anymore, I just want to be free from my husband" so.. now she's on child support paying the scumbag.

My daughter is born shortly after.mmmb,

My kids mom called the police saying I hit her, but my friend's ring ring camera, and the security cameras in the apartment complex clearly debunk her accusation very quickly.

I forgive her.. things are back good again for a couple of years.

I get her pregnant with my son. She cheats on me the whole pregnancy. I don't know this at this point... With a guy from her job.

Lies to me about needing money to pay the OBGYN, is in all actuality having pizza parties with her friends and getting her and them pedicures on my dime while I'm at work... Instead of her "Doctor's visits."

She tells me she wants to watch X-Men Apocalypse with her older brother, that the baby will be loud so I stay at home. She takes my car... Her water breaks... I commit to Action Plan C (I used to have backup plans... For almost every scenario...)

I call the closest supportive people we have to babysit our daughter they drop me off at the hospital.

Her brother is not at the hospital... Her Skittle loving fuck of a coworker bestie is there... (She hates Skittles and loves Peanut Eminem's. She does not like fruity candies... Some she won't say no to... But it's always been FUCK SKITTLES, Skittles ain't gang to her..)

There's Skittles right next to her on the birthing room.

I ask "Who's Skittles are these?"

The woman who was slated to be the bridesmaid at her wedding says that they.are my fiance's Skittles, I immediately call bullshit.

While in labor, the truth comes out of my ex soulmate's mouth. "They are Matt's Skittles..."

I'm like "oh is that Matt's kid then?"

She sais the affair didn't start until after I got her pregnant. She was going her idiotic parents theory would be correct... That her sleeping with Matthew, would change the baby to being his baby. Which is VERY FUCKING RACIST BACKWARDS AND DUMB AS HELL.

I've been completely faithful to her... But because she was sleeping with someone else, I thought it would be best if I get checked for STD's.

She was giving me throat Chlamydia. Repeatedly the whole fucking relationship.

...but I love her... So I try to forgive her again...

We get a house together... I try to stick to the plan.

... But I can't forgive her in time... Don't trust her anymore... Stop sleeping with her all together.

... She leaves me... But tells all our friends that I was an abusive deadbeat....

I literally went homeless, while making good money working for a defense contractor as an electronic assistant (I built missiles for a living.) ....

I went homeless supporting the household my children was in. I paid her rent, Paid her electric bill, her cell phone number was attached to mine.

She asks to borrow $2,000 on top of what I was already providing her... Which I had, because I was saving up to purchase a car for while couch surfing, and showering at the local gym.

And was saving up for a car for myself.

... Next thing I know I'm on child support... Cause I worked over 15 hours of overtime... And there was $124.65 garnished from.my weekly paycheck...

Fast forward to 2021...

She's remarried, it's thanksgiving and I am working for Chewy, the Internet Per store... The missile business wore down on my conscious... Did not want to ask myself "Howany strangers am I gonna have to Help kill to give my kids a good Christmas?" (Literally thousands of people btw.) Anyway.... She's pregnant she's been pregnant and there's complications,...her husband wants to be with her at the hospital... So I blow through all of my PTO and UTO to take the kids. I'm their dad. It's the.... least I can do.

.. It's a week before Christmas, I get a phone call while shopping for last minute Christmas gifts for our children.

"Me and my husband are moving to another state. There's really nothing you can do about it.. you want to come say bye? Well that's too bad... You don't have any time off from work. That's what you get for not marrying me."

It has been 8 years... I still have yet to get that $2,000 back... But yeah.... That's kinda been the start of the mgtow mistake for me.

I was initially bisexual... But... After her... I'm repulsed physically and emotionally by the idea of being with a woman sexually.. or intimately.. sometimes I force myself to have sex with women using drugs and alcohol to get past the disgust that I feel when thinking about being in a sexual or romantic heterosexual relationship.. because .. I'm traditionally masculine... I'm supposed to be a heterosexual. . But honestly... I'm... Pretty much gay now....

...

Title	What caused you to become redpilled ?
Author	lordDandas
Upvotes	30
Comments	56
Date	October 16, 2023 9:48 AM UTC (2 years ago)
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