Men, have you been dissed or been played by our system? Explain how pls 🤓

Swingstar731 · 2023-05-30T03:07:45+00:00

I've been told by the police that my ex cheating on me and falsely accusing me of rape to cover it up and destroy my life (which was the result) and then proceeding to threaten to murder me (time and date and everything) and engaging in revenge porn on me and using it to blackmail me to stop me from speaking out about her crimes is all freespeech but meanwhile they granted her a restraining order against me for speaking about the abuse and crimes.

Current_Finding_4066 · 2023-05-30T07:26:22+00:00

When a female schoolmate was physically attacking me, threatening me, etc., I reported it to a teacher in charge of our class and she simply ignored it.

HamletsRazor · 2023-05-30T11:37:39+00:00

I divorced my ex-wife because she hid a narcotic habit from me twice. She admitted to everyone, including the court, that she was 100% at fault. We sat down and agreed to a divorce deal that we both found fair. She would get $90K to get herself a new place and $1K a month for a year to get her on her feet and find a job. About $100K in total. Pretty reasonable.

The judge (female feminist) lost it. She amended the agreement from the bench. $3K a month in support for 3 years, I took on all the debt, and she got cash and prizes totaling $500K "in the interest of the common good". I stood there absolutely stunned. 3 years later she had burned through every dollar on drugs.

Don't get married, gentlemen.

ChadMagic1 · 2023-05-30T01:33:49+00:00

I didn’t get a high level promotion because a woman got it. I’m not saying I got dissed, but I sure felt better qualified and many others did as well. No grudges though.

TooMuchToThinkToday · 2023-05-30T12:21:06+00:00

Carrie Lam. Installed by Beijing to Hong Kong and sold us all out. Made mens lives hell by pushing radical feminism.

bottleblank · 2023-05-30T02:58:31+00:00

You might need to be a little more specific.

But, if it counts, I was:

Treated poorly by peers, for most of my school life
In one of the first generations to experience the UK's increasing divergence in attainment rates between boys and girls, with boys getting left behind
Treated unreasonably by teachers (relating to the bullying, plus unnecessary punishments for things I didn't even necessarily do wrong, and abusively aggressive staff - an early example was being shamed for being left-handed, even though that shouldn't have even been a thing by that point, but later examples include very long series of detentions for unreasonable reasons, or after-school detentions to write "lines", and getting yelled down by a pissed-off red-faced headmaster who thought it was unreasonable of me to want to actually eat during lunch, rather than stand in a hallway as punishment and go hungry)
Given no opportunity or encouragement to constructively direct what was clearly a strong interest in computers and often, see previous point, punished for getting extra-curricular with the computers at school - even once when it was in order to help out a teacher
Given no meaningful support when I was diagnosed autistic (mid-teens diagnosis, too late to be helped cope with school/bullying/abusive teachers)
Explicitly denied opportunities to take mandatory end of high-school exams (because kids who fail pull down the numbers they use to boast how good the school is and get further funding, so the trick is just don't put them in for the exam, then they can't fail and make the school look bad)
Turned away by a doctor when I tried to seek help for depression as a teenager (I was told "it's probably just my autism")
Screwed over by multiple (different, unrelated) college administration errors (once told a course I chose didn't exist when it did, forcing me to choose something I then failed at/dropped out of, and once not informed I had an exam to attend, causing me to not complete the course)
Ditched by a guy who worked for an autism charity, who took me on to try and build a social enterprise around autistic people building/fixing computers, because he had a better opportunity come up, when I had none
Being left out of being able to go to university because of the incredibly poor school exam results, not being informed that I could/should reach for higher qualifications despite being unable to fulfill the requirements on paper (I later got a degree which, had I known years before that I could apply to take, I would have, and I probably could've passed it, I just thought I had no option to do that because I lacked the paperwork to prove I was ready - I still don't know what the fuck a UCAS point is)
Trapped in an abusive household with my parents, with no way to seek/obtain support into work or get my own place
Essentially told to "Google some talk therapy" by another doctor, having tried again to get support as a depressed adult, despite the online triage system considering me high risk to the point where it booked an appointment for me, without asking, because I was so clearly in need of help - had to explicitly request pills so I didn't leave without some kind of fixed path to follow to feel like I'd achieved getting some kind of help
Given no follow-up by the prescribing doctor after that appointment, who upon checking my progress during a course of SSRIs said that he would contact someone on my behalf because he suspected I was in need of some other kind of support (but he didn't tell me who, or why, or what he thought the problem was, and never did put me in touch with whoever it was), who hasn't contacted me in any way since (many months ago)
Now, finding myself finally in a good place to make real progress (even if I am very late to the party), the feminist chokehold on modern society is making it very difficult to be able to put myself in a position to try having relationships, because everything a man does - especially if he wants to be with a woman - is "bad" now - even trying to get help
Experiencing antagonistically bad support when I tried to use a mental health support text line, after having had a rough time trying to go out and be social, getting turned away at a club which the bouncer claimed had a policy against letting people in on their own, causing me to react poorly and feel discriminated against (as somebody who was single/lonely trying not to be single/lonely, getting denied for being single/lonely)
Trying to be social in general feels much more difficult than it used to be, with severe atomisation of society, the commercialisation of everything, the abysmal economy, the pandemic, and the male role in society basically being an "under construction" sign gif from a Geocities website in 1997

I'm sure there's probably more, but those are the "highlights" I could point to as being systemic in nature. Everything in-between those specific instances, from a very young age until now, has been a generally poor experience, with very poor mental health outcomes, and with little or no support to actually help save me from the decades I spent turning into mush.

tldr: I was treated like shit, physically and emotionally, nobody did anything about it, even when it was clear something was wrong (even after getting a legit diagnosis to say something was medically wrong), resources are dire in both availability and effectiveness, authorities (school or national) don't give a shit, and I've always been expected to just "deal with it", even though I very clearly have good reasons why I can't, and even when I've been able to reach out I've received nothing but handwaving, invalidation, ignorance, and dismissal.

pilotlet · 2023-05-30T00:40:29+00:00

I do not understand your question. Probably that's why I am being dissed and played by whatever system you claim to ask.

Current_Finding_4066 · 2023-05-30T07:29:27+00:00

When I encountered another female psycho in my life, I knew of the double standard and knew she is going to exploit it and felt unsafe to seek appropriate help from the authorities. I also got no help from my family members.

TooMuchToThinkToday · 2023-05-30T12:21:14+00:00

Carrie Lam. Installed by Beijing to Hong Kong and sold us all out. Made mens lives hell by pushing radical feminism.

TooMuchToThinkToday · 2023-05-30T12:21:31+00:00

CL . Installed by Beijing to Hong Kong and sold us all out. Made mens lives hell by pushing radical feminism.

TooMuchToThinkToday · 2023-05-30T12:21:38+00:00

CL . Installed by Beijing to Hong Kong and sold us all out. Made mens lives hell by pushing radical feminism. .

Title	Men, have you been dissed or been played by our system? Explain how pls 🤓
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Date	May 30, 2023 12:26 AM UTC (3 years ago)
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