Some people already say it and many women admit it: It is way easier for women to find sex and love and relationships than it is for men. Even if the woman is not attractive or autistic, most effort to meet them is on the man, so she just have to be open to it. Of course, this does not guarantee a good relationship with the guy, but the woman still have more options to pick and choose compared to men.

However, I go and say something further: women who put effort in dating actually hurt their chances, which is the opposite to men, as men who do less usually get nothing. Women don't need to do almost anything to get men except opening to the men they do like and want commitment.

Why women putting too much effort in dating hurts their chances?

  1. Women who put effort on getting the right guy, the perfect relationships, become too picky. This make imply they turn away men that would be otherwise good in a relationship if they even gave them a chance. This may continue well into an age they lose most of those options.
  2. Women who feel they are putting effort in dating also resent men for this effort. They claim it feels like a chore.
  3. Putting too much importance in relationships can break or create huge tension in any current or future relationships. A shill fun yet serious attitude may be better.
  4. Women who put too much effort may always have back in the mind that "they could get better" and never be satisfied even with the trustworthy good father of their children. "If I put so much effort, I rather get the best!"

Again, this is not blaming women or anything, I'm just saying that the strategy of women who put too much effort may actually hurt them rather than help. I wish them the best, tho.