I came across a post about Black men noticing they are not black women's preference and I am personally happy more black men are noticing that.

I came across this post yesterday night and It honestly makes me smile.

For the first time in my life, I felt like someone reached the exact same conclusions as me.

For me personally the things are clear in terms of dating: White men are at the top of the spectrum(not only in the west, but everywhere else. I would give explanations later). Therefore, all women want a white partner.

Black women are intimate with white men since the first contact between these 2 races and for me, black women are the reason why there is no smoke for white men in the different black diaspora/ black communities.

The guy who wrote this post remarked the same things as me, reached the exact same conclusions and ended up seeing black women under the same prism as me.

If one day I see him, surely I will pay for his drink.

For me the dynamic between black men and black women are always seen as taboo and you will always have a "black woman is god" black male to make sure you are still in the matrix by downplaying what you see, gaslighting your experiences and using cheap tactics to ridicule this idea such as "low self-esteem", "terminally online".

For me, black women's preference are white men and nonblack men are 2nd. Black women "settle"(yes. We are not her first choice/second choice but they are not the 1st choice of their preferences either. So they end up putting up with black men) For me that's where black love lost its meaning.

Think about it for 2 seconds: black love is about making you believe that black men are black women first and only preference. It also pretends that there is a dynamic between us in a way where a black woman could accept black men just because they are black.

But these two things are false.

-As I said, black men are not black women preference. It is white men.

• If such dynamic existed, I think black incels wouldn't exist(at least a good subset of it).

Also I want to say something quick about colorism : I personally think colorism is a silly topic. Black women have no issue saying to a black man is he is ugly and shouldn't use colorism as a pretext for not making them "wet".

Also I would like to address few things quickly:

-colorism is mostly black women getting curved by athletes, entertainers, pookies/ray-ray and misplacing their anger on the average black male. Colorism is not an introvert black working as a banker rejecting a black woman into tech because she is darkskin.

-Black women no matter what they said are all and I insist all attracted to the same type of men. These are the men I cited above: athletes, entertainers, pookies/ray-ray, players, drugs addicts. Black woman don't have a huge variety in terms of black women they like. Anything else doesn't interest them. There is this silly agenda that black women always loved nerdy black guys and black men into anime/cosplay/video games. But that's false. Black women love WHITE MEN into these stuffs. NOT BLACK MEN into stuffs.

• Unfortunately many of the black women who make themselves available for black men are failed swirlers. Personally that's a huge NO for me. To each their own but for me, I don't want a black woman who used to date outside her race and want a black husband/partner after not getting what she wants. I don't even want her as a friend or an acquaintance.

As I said above, black women no matter their backgrounds, their origins, their professional careers and social interests are attracted to the same black men. But they are attracted to a variety of white men and even asian men (that's why you see black women with n*zi/right-wing white men).

-Finally I am addressing what I said earlier above about white men being at the top, even outside of the western culture. People like to say that Black men are the top in Africa because you know Africa is black bla bla. Which is False. In countries like South Africa for example, white men f*** black women left and right, don't recognize the children but black women are still fighting for them. In countries where the population is 99% black like Ghana, Nigeria for example, a white tourist will put "Wilt Chamberlain" number with them.

To get back to what I was saying before addressing the points cited above, the number of times I saw a black woman being 10x gorgeous than her partner or the number of times I saw black women accepting behaviors they would have never accepted if the man was black otherwise can't be counted.

I personally think that as a black man, in this generation, that you have more chances with a nonblack woman than with a black woman. That's what I think and that's my conclusion all around. Not saying they are better than black women, not putting down black women. Just saying that as a black man, in Gen Z and Gen X, your chances to attract a nonblack woman are more solid than those of attracting a black woman.

I don't know if the black populations in various heterogeneous countries would end up being like the one in Argentina or in Chile, but It is not impossible and if it happens black women would be partially to blame in my opinion (Partially because black men too will be to blame for letting that happening) .

Not saying that to force black women to date black men by the way, for me these are just facts and black men should just learn how to navigate through it. Not lying to themselves and delude themselves.