Confused about my SMV and my place in life

Soupblime · 2023-09-17T14:36:34+00:00

6ft 145lbs? You're scrawny bro

traderboi123 · 2023-09-17T12:58:41+00:00

My standard advice for young men:

1) ignore girls 2) start a side business 3) focus on school 4) work out 5) learn to be social 6) don't get anyone pregnant, even if she is the best girl in the world

When you're 25-30 (closer to 30) you will have your pick of women and you won't care about them anymore.

AnonTheGreat01 · 2023-09-17T13:38:03+00:00

SMV is low right now because you're 20.

The only guys who do typically well with women when they're this young, are the ones that are naturally confident, good-looking, don't give a fuck, are funny and have a large social circle that gives them status, and access to a ton of girls.

Which is maybe 5% of guys at that age. Most girls are going to go after guys who are 2-3 (or more) years older. And the average 20yo guy is going to get smoked even by a 23yo guy when competing for a girl (my 23yo self wouldn't stand a chance against my 26yo self), unless you're in the category mentioned earlier. Forget about girls who are older than you, you're just stacking the odds against yourself.

What you have to do is go gym, eat well, pack on some muscle (at 6ft you should weigh at least 185lbs @ 10-12% BF), work on your social skills and create positive momentum in your life that builds confidence over-time.

If you do this well, you can have decent SMV in your mid 20's already, and it will get exponentially better from there. Most guys fuck this up and only start having 'decent' SMV in their early 30's in which case you'll be missing out on a ton of pussy.

hottake_toothache · 2023-09-17T21:13:21+00:00

You are on the way up. Stay focused and protect your MEAT (money, energy, attention, and time), and your future will be beautiful. At 20, you should focused much more on the future than the present.

JohnMatthewIsMyDad · 2023-09-17T14:39:56+00:00

Dog you’re TINY, eat and hit the gym

sussykeke3 · 2023-09-17T13:26:02+00:00

Try not to overthink it too much. I’d definitely advise you to go out there and approach and try to sleep with women who you’re attracted to. Sitting in your bedroom, philosophising about what your SMV is is not going to help you in any way. Go get practice and you’ll soon realise what areas in life need improvement

neverendingplush · 2023-09-17T18:39:14+00:00

"Should I play the pretty boy archetype or the masculine archetype ".

What the fuck are u talking about? So you're creating fake personalities to appeal to women. You deserve your hand for as long as it takes for you to realise how much of a bitch u sound.

bwazap · 2023-09-17T15:22:24+00:00

Stop trying to guess and fit what you think girls would specifically want.

Yes, you should do things that improve your general attractiveness: eg building some muscle, looking good, building a career, doing hobbies, being sociable, all while having some fun etc

But individual girls will like or dislike you for reasons beyond observation or understanding. Shit can be random.

When you think there are specific "correct" ways of being, and you compare yourself to that, you're going to breed insecurity, which is a turn off.

Just keep an eye out for girls who show signs of interest and ask them out if you are also interested. Even if they are older or seem more mature (which they usually aren't, because every age presents different challenges and everybody has to make it up as they go along)

This lets you gain dating experience and become comfortable around women. Which girls also find attractive.

You will also discover that women are individuals like you. With their own goals and motivations, their good sides and bad sides, their strengths and weaknesses.

More importantly, you'll discover what you like and don't, and how to make a relationship work or not.

Don't deny yourself this experience, by losing yourself trying to get with every girl. It doesn't work. Pursue your own life and take opportunities when they come.

Woujo · 2023-09-17T20:39:48+00:00

However when I see hot women who are clearly older than me, maybe 25, I find it hard to know how they perceive me.

Who gives a fuck how they perceive you? You are not a mind reader, and what they think about you is none of your business. You should just judge women on their actions. Do they do things for you? Then you can do things for them. If they don't do anything for you, then you should not do anything for them.

Am I a man yet ready to dress more serious and take older women out on fancy dates or still rather a young dude who should focus on himself and wait to "reveal" himself? Should I play in the "pretty boy" archetype or the "masculine guy" archetype?

Thinking about this shit is a waste of your time. The fact that you are asking a bunch of men on the internet how to dress or whether to look like a "pretty boy" is homosexuality as hell. You are basically asking other people what frame to enter. You have to set your own frame. Dress how you want to dress, act how you want to act, but just make sure to do as an alpha, not like a little bitch, which is what you sound like.

Jimmy_Greenteeth · 2023-09-17T21:19:32+00:00

Don't worry about women at 20 years old. Put all your effort into starting a side business or something that will give you enough freedom to avoid being stuck in a 9-5 all your life. If you really need to get your rocks off then get to a club, if you're as attractive as you say you are you should have no problem finding a girl for the night, but don't make it a regular thing. Focus on the business, all I did in my early 20's was fuck sluts 24/7 and all it got me was a nice little collection of sti's.

Title	Confused about my SMV and my place in life
Author	Other-Smile600
Upvotes	4
Comments	30
Date	September 17, 2023 12:42 PM UTC (2 years ago)
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