Life keeps hitting me

Savagemaw · 2023-09-28T12:23:07+00:00

Thats tough man. I feel your pain. It also feels like all I can offer are platitudes. I'm going through tough stuff too and I try reminding myself that struggles make the man. That the old men we respect are the men who have been through some of the nastiest shit. The guy who picked up pieces of his best friend at Normandy, or the badlands farmer in the 30s. We sit and listen to the heartwrenching stories of men who buried their children who died of the flu or polio. They inspire us. And we will inspire young men someday when we recount the hard times we survived.

My dad, back in 2011, lost his mom, his marriage, his house, half his business, custody of his children, and everything he had been working for. He had his health and his skills and a will to grow and live. He's not rich today, but he is strong. He is big. He is wise. He is compassionate and emotionally mature. He is content and happy. He is a mentor and present and available for me and my siblings. He's in his 60s with a girlfriend half his age. He has a found family of close friends and people that respect him and appreciate him and rely on him and he has insight into the events of his life that he shares with me.

You dont come by that insight easily. Shit's hard. Im sorry it's hard and I empathize. I hope my useless platitudes give you a little comfort.

BlackoutWalksAlone · 2023-09-28T13:34:28+00:00

I'm going through the same. And sometimes, I wonder how I can keep going or cope with life in general or deal with or fix anything. What works for me, despite what I'm dealing with, is trying to control what I can, take things slow and at my own pace. Maybe you've heard of this stuff before. It might help though. Again, it can be hard to fathom how we can make it through this type of world but sometimes, all we can do is try and do the best we can. Because sometimes, we don't have a choice or we only have a limited amount of choices. I can't really guarantee that things will work out for you or for any of us. I know there's no guarantees in life but at least you can tell yourself that you tried/still are trying to make things work. I'm sorry about your dog getting sick but even if she doesn't get better, you can try to spend as much time as possible while she's still here and cherish that. I hope what I said didn't sound too insensitive or anything.

Title	Life keeps hitting me
Author	Ac760a
Upvotes	12
Comments	2
Date	September 28, 2023 9:13 AM UTC (2 years ago)
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