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| – | Weekly check-inThe past year was essentially supposed to be a year of at least where I got mentally well and healthy so I could do more things for myself. But my mental and physical health has taken a down turn overall and for most of the year, I've basically been stuck in bed, unable to do much of anything. I can feel that very soon shit will start to hit the fan so I guess I better embrace myself for that. | /r/MenSupportMen | 23/12/24 08:14 AM |
| 1 | ThanksgivingThey did pressure me to come to Thanksgiving. Well mainly my mom and I told her I didn't feel like going. But at one point, she said she would go by herself. If she did that, I would feel guilty and anxious and stressed with her going and me staying behind. But I know that if I did go in the shape I'm in, I would be anxious and stressed anyway. And possibly humiliated. Everybody else in my family has something going on for themselves and compared to them, I have nothing. But once I told my mom I… | /r/MenSupportMen | 28/11/24 05:17 AM |
| 1 | ThanksgivingNumerous health issues, pressure from my family, going through all this by myself. Just trying to figure out how to navigate all that | /r/MenSupportMen | 28/11/24 03:28 AM |
| 2 | ThanksgivingI'm dreading the holidays. I'm not doing much of anything on Thanksgiving. Too busy trying to survive and figure things out. | /r/MenSupportMen | 28/11/24 02:18 AM |
| – | Weekly check-inYeah I'm not doing too good at all. I'm dealing with a number of problems and I'm afraid to talk to anyone about it. I'm just doing my best to push through the next week. So if all I can really do is just eat, sleep and rest, that's what I'm gonna do. | /r/MenSupportMen | 25/06/24 10:00 PM |
| – | Weekly check-inI'm pretty much stuck in isolation. I don't really trust anybody but it can be hard to trust myself too and my own decision making. I've resorted to detaching more from things to help myself cope | /r/MenSupportMen | 04/06/24 01:21 PM |
| 2 | Be A ManI've heard that quite a few times, including my own family, especially my mother. It is one of the most diminshing phrases I've heard. It's just a dismissal of a man's problems. Telling him to toughen up, get right and "fix" whatever problem there is. Like we're not human with feelings and problems of our own. And I have a feeling if I tell someone about this, they'll say "oh stop being a pussy" or something like that. And when you get this shit from everyone, even the people closest to you, it … | /r/MenSupportMen | 01/06/24 03:02 AM |
| 3 | My “psychiatrist” may be untrustworthyBecause of how bad my situation is and I’ve tried calling different psychiatrists all over where I live. They either don’t take my insurance or they aren’t accepting new patients. | /r/MenSupportMen | 22/05/24 04:09 PM |
| – | Weekly check-inActually I just remembered the neurotherapy appointment is in two days. But either way I’ll give out an update soon | /r/MenSupportMen | 20/05/24 02:35 PM |
| – | Weekly check-inI’m going to a neurotherapy place next week that offers ketamine and TMS. I’m trying out a whole bunch of different stuff. But I’m not sure if ketamine will work and it may be risky for multiple reasons. Especially since I already went through an infusion for Tepezza (I have thyroid eye disease). That gave me this lump on the back of my neck and I needed to go through surgery to have it removed | /r/MenSupportMen | 20/05/24 02:27 PM |
| – | Weekly check-inThat's what my psych recommended me. I thought this would work better than another SSRI. Because I've been on several of those and I've never really tolerated them well. | /r/MenSupportMen | 20/05/24 02:10 PM |
| – | Weekly check-inThe Skullcap didn't work for me. Even though I only tried it out for 3 days, there's a possibility this supplement can cause damage to your liver and I felt something a bit wrong with my stomach while I was on it so I got off of it. I'm not entirely sure if it was Skullcap or not but I didn't want to take any chances. I'm trying out a pill form of oxytocin now. It's like my second day and I take like a half pill every morning. It may be too soon to tell but at the very least, this pill can give … | /r/MenSupportMen | 19/05/24 10:41 PM |
| 2 | Trying to get unstuckOh wow. Well maybe it's for the best. A lot of psychs out there, just clock in and clock out. Throw a med at you. "See you in 3 months". This new guy so far isn't like that, despite the cost. If you want to talk more, you can PM me . Door's open to that but if you don't, I get it. When your mind gets into a really bad state, you literally can't connect to anyone. But still, offer's open at any time | /r/MenSupportMen | 09/05/24 09:47 PM |
| 2 | Trying to get unstuckSame here. With the ruminating about my past and stuff. I'm currently not on meds at the moment. I've been trying supplements more lately that my new psych recommends. You ever heard of American Skullcap before? Cause I literally never heard of it before today | /r/MenSupportMen | 09/05/24 09:35 PM |
| – | Weekly check-inIt's been a struggle. I have to change so much. Do so much on my own. And usually I keep everything in until I literally can't take it anymore. But it's like I have to always keep my guard up for my own protection. Because when I open up, it usually either doesn't do me a whole lot of benefit or causes more pressure and hurt. So lately I have been keeping more to myself. I don't want to be met with more hostility or anything. I take things more at my own pace (if I can) but I'm dealing with a lo… | /r/MenSupportMen | 29/04/24 01:06 AM |
| 2 | Hi, I made a meditation site for men specific problemsI'm interested | /r/MenSupportMen | 10/04/24 06:07 AM |
| 3 | Just a rant i sposeI feel the same way myself. I'm in a similar position right now where I feel helpless and worthless. If you are lonely and you wanna talk sometime, you can feel free to PM me. | /r/MenSupportMen | 30/03/24 08:27 AM |
| – | Weekly check-inIt's chaotic for me. Spent the past few months trying out antidepressants. None of them have worked out too well. I mean, they all had benefits but the risks that carried with them.... My psych is unsure how he can help really and my therapist told me he has a bias towards my psych (like he'll defend him no matter what) so....at this point, I'm trying to find new doctors. But options are slim. I did find someone who I can see in a week but it costs $300+ to see him (even though there could be a … | /r/MenSupportMen | 24/03/24 11:02 PM |
| 2 | At the end of my rope, I guess?Okay well I’ll try to tell you what I think. Keep in mind that I’m practically a mess myself and I also kinda don’t know what I’m doing so you can take or leave what I’m about to say here. First off, about dating, while I have not been in the dating scene (and I’m gay), even if you were healthy, I wouldn’t try out dating. It’s a rigged game imo and I’ve seen plenty of desirable men who get dumped by women for no reason or for petty reasons. I’ve seen many posts like that on male subreddits. Even… | /r/MenSupportMen | 04/02/24 04:08 PM |
| – | Weekly check-inI reconnected with an old friend yesterday. And we really talked. For hours straight. And I enjoyed the conversation! He even got me to notice some things about myself that I never considered until now. My situation is still unstable and I'm still unstable but before we reconnected, I really had no hope for myself or my future. Now maybe I have at least a little and a little more strength to hold on hopefully. | /r/MenSupportMen | 29/01/24 01:25 PM |
| – | Weekly check-inI thought I would never come back to Reddit after those last posts. But there's not a lot of options for me. I have cried for help or spoke my mind online in the past, didn't turn out well. So..... Anyway, my health (physical and mental) is in the shit and if I end up in a regular hospital or a mental hospital soon, I won't be too surprised. There's no breathing room in here and it's hard to reach out for any help, yet alone to find good help. And I have tried out a lot of things, even antidepre… | /r/MenSupportMen | 22/01/24 08:31 PM |
| 3 | It's hard to be open to anyone anymoreI don't entirely blame you for your decision. You know, in fact, I have thought many times of isolating myself in a cabin in the woods kinda. The only reason I don't is because I know I can't handle the isolation, it's expensive and I have health problems like diabetes which would require ongoing medical care such and me being around doctors/people to help with that. And yes, being vulnerable is a risk. Going through life is a risk in a itself but it's a game that at least most of us are forced … | /r/MenSupportMen | 15/01/24 08:58 PM |
| 2 | It's hard to be open to anyone anymoreYou really don't mind if I PM you? | /r/MenSupportMen | 15/01/24 07:35 PM |
| 3 | I need help on how to move forward communicating with my mom.I think I can relate to your situation a bit. I lived and still live in a toxic family system. My mom was the supposed "good parent" and my dad was the bad one. Turns out neither of them were that good and they both had a host of emotional problems. The only difference is that a favored one over the other (my mom). My dad died almost two years ago now and only realized maybe a year or so ago, that my dad wasn't the only problem. My mom is pretty much a narcissist and she'll never change her ways… | /r/MenSupportMen | 13/01/24 07:02 PM |
| – | Weekly check-inOh okay | /r/MenSupportMen | 12/01/24 02:14 PM |
| – | Weekly check-inWhat hotel did you go to? | /r/MenSupportMen | 12/01/24 01:03 PM |
| 1 | Just want to vent and say fk this world.. cost of living is soo damn high all u can do anymore is focus on the rat race of life constantly...Good advice. Couldn't have said it better myself. | /r/MenSupportMen | 09/01/24 10:33 AM |
| 3 | Just want to vent and say fk this world.. cost of living is soo damn high all u can do anymore is focus on the rat race of life constantly...That's one of the things that I keep telling myself too. I don't wanna endlessly work until I die. Just work and work and work, only to be handed and rewarded with even more work. Yes, it does take hard work to get the things you want but it doesn't guarantee success. You just gotta hope that your efforts and time and money and energy pay off in the end and that something doesn't come out of nowhere and screw you over. It's kinda like hustling and gambling in some form. Rolling the dice, hoping … | /r/MenSupportMen | 09/01/24 10:30 AM |
| – | Weekly check-inIt's hard to know where to start. There's a lot of changes that are gonna have to be made and I'm doing my best to break everything down. I'm still dependent on my family for a lot of things, including buying and bringing me food, and I realized a bit today how much that can make me miserable. I asked my aunt to get some food from a restaurant today that isn't available here anymore. And she said yes. That meant I did have to greet her and my mom. She said "Give me a hug boy". I know she doesn't… | /r/MenSupportMen | 08/01/24 01:06 AM |
| – | Weekly check-inJust had therapy today. A virtual appointment from home. I try to take things slow around here still. I go down to the garage and sit inside my mom's car with the door shut so she won't overhear me. I caught him up on what has been going on for the past month but it seems like all the therapist does is say "Yeah I hear that" and "Well there you go". He can be a good listening ear, sometimes, but he doesn't offer too much advice on what I should do or coping skills. Also at the end of every appoi… | /r/MenSupportMen | 04/01/24 01:55 AM |
| – | Weekly check-inI've been back home for a couple of days. Back from the hotel. It was a bit pricey but I could afford to pay for it and my mom and my aunt actually gave me some extra money to help out too (Christmas money). I realized while I was there, I was able to think more clearly and articulate my thoughts better. In my bedroom, I'm always sneezing or something. One of my old friends said that this house is making me physically and mentally ill. And I think that's right. All of this made me think about ha… | /r/MenSupportMen | 25/12/23 02:20 AM |
| – | Weekly check-in🫂 | /r/MenSupportMen | 18/12/23 08:25 PM |
| – | Weekly check-inWell, I'm at the hotel right now. Trying to get settled in. It is kinda expensive but I did get a lot for my birthday in terms of money so I think that'll be enough to pay for what I want. I might actually get some peace here for two days before I inevitably have to go back home | /r/MenSupportMen | 18/12/23 08:24 PM |
| – | Weekly check-inIt's Hell. I have a hard time going outside and even interacting with people. I keep to myself more and more but I know in order to do certain things, I have to be out of the house and interact with people. I think I may have to get used to being an outsider. | /r/MenSupportMen | 11/12/23 04:44 PM |
| 4 | Dont watch the ‘may december’ movie if you are sensitive to female predatorsExactly. But the movie wants audiences to view her as a "damaged" person. | /r/MenSupportMen | 07/12/23 11:47 PM |
| 5 | Dont watch the ‘may december’ movie if you are sensitive to female predatorsThey expect you to sympathize with her at the end of the movie. Her actions were all justified due to having a bad upbringing | /r/MenSupportMen | 07/12/23 11:29 PM |
| 7 | Dont watch the ‘may december’ movie if you are sensitive to female predatorsI don't watch movies anymore these days, not in theaters. Because they can be filled with feminist propaganda. An example similar to yours is The Whale with Brendan Fraser. I did like most of these performances in the movie. The one character I didn't like was Sadie Sink's character. She was a complete asshole throughout the entire movie. One moment that really made me lose sympathy for her is when she is threatening a false rape accusation against some guy in the movie in order for him to do wh… | /r/MenSupportMen | 07/12/23 09:17 AM |
| – | Weekly check-inIt really is hard to speak to anyone. To even voice out my thoughts with others because I know that no matter what there will be some type of judgment, criticism, etc. Unfortunately, remaining isolated doesn't help either. I am taking a look at all my options and they aren't much. I can tell I'm in for some rough times ahead. I'm already facing that right now. Staying where I'm at is literally making me physically and mentally ill but trying to get out of here to do anything, even doing the simp… | /r/MenSupportMen | 04/12/23 10:52 PM |
| 1 | Well....I got the surgery today.I made a TLDR summary at the top of the post | /r/MenSupportMen | 02/11/23 01:57 PM |
| 2 | Well....I got the surgery today.How can I clarify things? | /r/MenSupportMen | 02/11/23 01:34 AM |
| – | Weekly check-inMy health is still in bad shape. And for the past weekend, it has been pure hell. I have no one to really talk to which makes things even scarier. I did suffer from some chest pain and high blood pressure over the weekend. It actually has been this way for awhile but I got like an EKG done twice and a chest x-ray. They found nothing wrong. So I don't know. I just felt at the time that I didn't want to go back to the ER for nothing, have my surgery get canceled for that, deal with my mom and prob… | /r/MenSupportMen | 30/10/23 08:56 PM |
| – | This is a lot....I have at least talked to my nurse about how my mom has MS and has mobility problems and that being the reason that I need aftercare from a home health service. And she said she would look into something like that but I called back at their office later. No such order was placed. They told me to call my insurance about it. I got the information I needed from my insurance so the nurse over at the urologist office can place an order for aftercare services through my insurance. I tried calling them… | /r/MenSupportMen | 26/10/23 08:17 AM |
| – | Weekly check-inI really am struggling in here alone. I know my family and my mom aren't going to help me much. If anything, they just keep adding more to the pile. One of my old friends told me that it's not really safe to do surgery in this house since the only thing my family (especially my mom) does is exacerbate the problem. And I think she's right since during a similar surgery I had two years ago, my mom wanted me to go back to doing chores days after surgery. After the neck surgery this year and while I… | /r/MenSupportMen | 16/10/23 09:14 AM |
| – | I took mirtazapine.....and I haven't gone nuts (yet)I've tried a lot of antidepressants too. At least a few. Most of them were terrible. Zoloft, Bupropion, Lexapro, Effexor, Paxil, Gabapentin. I didn't really have a positive experience on any of these. I would've tried to go without antidepressants because of side effects and withdrawals but due to my living situation, I think that pretty soon, it could come down to me taking mirtazapine or doxepin or prozac or me being placed in a hospital (again) and being placed on stronger drugs that have wor… | /r/MenSupportMen | 14/10/23 09:54 AM |
| – | I took mirtazapine.....and I haven't gone nuts (yet)That is concerning but I think I've heard from a lot of antidepressants and stuff that you can have withdrawals and stuff from it and at least at first, it's hard to function without it. Not saying you're wrong by any means because I'm wary of these meds too but usually, I only get 3-4 hours of sleep a night and now I just got 6 at least on half a pill (15 mg). I just felt that at this point in my life, I would have to go on an antidepressant sooner or later because I took stuff like Ambien and … | /r/MenSupportMen | 14/10/23 09:39 AM |
| – | Weekly check-inI'm gonna put this out there anyway because I just need to get this shit off my back. (In advance, I'm sorry for the long comment here) I have a psychiatrist appointment tomorrow with someone who I particularly don't trust and I have a feeling she won't help me much because I've been with her once before (she's an NP) and with the actual psych about medication. I was hesitant to take meds like Doxepin or Prozac due to my past experiences with antidepressants and especially SSRIs not being good a… | /r/MenSupportMen | 11/10/23 07:58 PM |
| – | Life keeps hitting meI'm going through the same. And sometimes, I wonder how I can keep going or cope with life in general or deal with or fix anything. What works for me, despite what I'm dealing with, is trying to control what I can, take things slow and at my own pace. Maybe you've heard of this stuff before. It might help though. Again, it can be hard to fathom how we can make it through this type of world but sometimes, all we can do is try and do the best we can. Because sometimes, we don't have a choice or we… | /r/MenSupportMen | 28/09/23 01:34 PM |
| – | Weekly check-inUpdate: I'm back home now. Bloodwork was taken. AN EKG and chest ray was ran. Nothing wrong. Everything came out normal. The only thing I was recommended to do was to take Tylenol (or acetaminophen) for pain. The chest pains still come and go so I could still go to the hospital and lose the surgery, not to mention more health complications...... | /r/MenSupportMen | 26/09/23 04:08 PM |
| – | Weekly check-inThere's a chance that I might go to the hospital today. I've had chest pains for the past couple of days so..I guess I should get it looked at so I won't be at risk of getting a heart attack or something. But I know as soon as I mention that and my high blood pressure, I'll go to the hospital and I'll lose the surgery option because they'll say it'll be too risky to do it on me. So, in a matter of a week, I got the opportunity for surgery and I think I'll lose it today. So I expect to be depress… | /r/MenSupportMen | 26/09/23 04:49 AM |
| – | Weekly check-in👍 | /r/MenSupportMen | 20/09/23 06:01 PM |
| 1 | I got a surgery date🙂💙 | /r/MenSupportMen | 18/09/23 09:57 PM |
| 3 | I got a surgery dateI know there are other options (like Home Instead for instance) but it can be costly. So either way, I should ask my mom and my family first to help. It'll be more money in my pocket and it's not like I can hide this from them anyway. | /r/MenSupportMen | 18/09/23 07:17 PM |
| – | Weekly check-inThere was something that shocked me when I went to see my urologist a few days ago. At first, over the portal, he told me there was nothing else he could really offer me or advise me to do except to lose weight. So, I wasn't expecting anything when I went to go see him. But surprisingly, he took a look at me and he's actually offering me some options, including surgery which is I think what I need right now. I think it's kinda what I have been fighting to get or wanting to get. I never knew I wo… | /r/MenSupportMen | 18/09/23 01:53 AM |
| – | I think one certain post describes exactly how I feel"Women are born with value that deteriorates over time. Men are born valueless and must build all of their value over time becoming more valuable." I have to disagree. It doesn't matter if a woman is in her 20s or in her 60s. That female privilege is always there. What pisses me off about this whole thing is that men only have value for how much they contribute towards women and society as a whole. If they don't do that or are unable to, they are treated as garbage and deemed as worthless. What … | /r/MenSupportMen | 12/09/23 11:05 PM |
| – | Weekly check-inI'm beyond exhausted. And I think maybe it's the natural result of walking on eggshells around my family for years and living in a toxic environment with my health slowly getting worse. There's so much going on inside of me and out that several days I'm this close to quitting life period. I keep trying because I don't want to waste some of the resources I have but it's like I have to make one sacrifice, one hard choice after another. And I'm still stuck and I just expect others to blame me for e… | /r/MenSupportMen | 11/09/23 09:26 AM |
| – | Weekly check-inThe stress and the overwhelming amount that I have to do on my own but I don't really have a lot of choices and these days it's hard to trust anybody. | /r/MenSupportMen | 04/09/23 10:34 PM |
| – | Weekly check-inI have appointments and phone calls to make pretty much every day this week. A whole lot of chores to do. More hard decisions to make. Trying to follow a tight schedule while dealing with shit left and right. And I have to deal with most, if not all this by myself. And I know it's only gonna get harder from here on out. | /r/MenSupportMen | 04/09/23 12:46 AM |
| – | Weekly check-inI've been really struggling, especially over the weekend. I thought things would get so bad that I would end up either in the hospital or a mental hospital or dead (which many times I do prefer over this insanity). There are times where I think I'm losing my mind and my mom is definitely not helping. She has just kept pushing me and has become more passive aggressive over things (my own therapist told me she's emotionally and verbally abusive). I can definitely tell she's narcissistic. So, it's … | /r/MenSupportMen | 28/08/23 03:10 PM |
| – | Weekly check-inThe psychiatrist said that Prozac shouldn't have any withdrawals even though other accounts from people I've read online that took the medicine said they experienced that. The doctor thinks that just because it's a "baby dose" of it then it shouldn't be harmful but I've had bad reactions to SSRIs and really bad intrusive thoughts after only taking one pill. But the psychiatrist and especially the NP just told me to endure through the side effects which is a risk I don't think I can afford to tak… | /r/MenSupportMen | 24/08/23 02:22 PM |
| 1 | Have any of you guys been on Prozac?For the most part, antidepressants, especially SSRIs didn't help. That's why I'm wary of them. But I am going to therapy (well, technically to a social worker who is helping me with some things including finding some good resources around me like doctors and stuff). I'm also doing my best to manage my blood sugar as well because I know when it gets too low, my anxiety tends to increase I think. But trying to stay on a routine helps me to better keep track of that also. | /r/MenSupportMen | 22/08/23 11:06 AM |
| – | Weekly check-inMy psych also recommended Abilify (one of my old friends recommended it too). It's an antipsychotic. But right now, I don't think it's safe to take those types of medications, especially SSRIs. The psychiatrist said that for people my age, it increases levels of depression and you can develop suicidal thoughts. And even if the meds work, there can be a lot of side effects and even if you get past that, you may not be able to get off of it without having withdrawals. It's not worth it right now, … | /r/MenSupportMen | 22/08/23 01:18 AM |
| – | Weekly check-inAs for an update to my situation: I have decided to not take Prozac. At least not yet. I'm wary about trying it due to my past reactions to SSRIs. Plus, taking the meds in this suffocating environment just isn't a good idea. So I'm at least waiting a week or two, if I try them at all. I do have a daily schedule that helps me keep things on track and even when I get really depressed and hopeless sometimes, I still stick to my schedule and my mood eventually picks back up sooner or later. The rout… | /r/MenSupportMen | 21/08/23 12:26 AM |
| 2 | Have any of you guys been on Prozac?Yeah that's also why I don't prefer to be around those meds. Even if they do work, you can become dependent on them and you won't be able to get off without withdrawals. My psych also recommended Abilify and said it may be better with people with autism (I am on the spectrum btw) but he wants me to try out Prozac first. I'm not sure I can do that. | /r/MenSupportMen | 16/08/23 10:41 AM |
| 2 | Have any of you guys been on Prozac?If it didn't do too much for you, I wouldn't suggest just getting back on it. Just find another type of drug if possible if that doesn't work. (I won't give anymore advice since I do not tolerate those types of drugs well). Anyway, my therapist/social worker thinks I have "situational" depression (could be the case for anxiety too so I think you're right. I think that, along with trying to manage my blood sugar (along with some other new meds I'm trying like blood pressure medicine and medicine … | /r/MenSupportMen | 16/08/23 09:51 AM |
| 3 | Have any of you guys been on Prozac?I know. I'm just concerned about those types of meds because of my reactions to them in the past. Like Zoloft for example, gave me thoughts of cutting my stomach and such and I think one of them gave me nightmares. One of my old friends told me to stay from SSRIs since I don't react to them well (Prozac is another SSRI) but the psych said that this is one of the "best known medicines on planet Earth" and thinks it has been really helpful for most. So, I don't know who to believe so it's a 50/50 … | /r/MenSupportMen | 15/08/23 03:18 PM |
| – | Weekly check-inI am actually going out of my way to type now. And I shouldn't because at this point, I believe I'm a lost cause. And my situation is only getting worse by the day. I mean I thought things were bad before but things have gotten even worse over the past 2-3 months. My urological problems (which have been ongoing for 4 years) have gotten worse and now I think a new problem is developing (urology related) where it requires surgery. But here's the thing. Back in May, I went through ONE Tepezza infus… | /r/MenSupportMen | 07/08/23 03:36 PM |
| 3 | Lonely but happierThis is kinda where I am. And I can see many men face the same problem since it can be REALLY hard to have a relationship or be friends with anyone. I teeter back and forth from being stuck in a crappy friendship (with my feminist friend) or just accepting that maybe I might be better off alone the rest of my life. I've tried time and time to connect to others and no matter what I did, it just never worked out for me. Eventually, putting yourself out there just becomes exhausting and a chores an… | /r/MenSupportMen | 25/03/23 11:04 PM |
| 1 | Weekend check-inI used to play the piano but that was all the way back when I was a kid. I don't play it anymore. Haven't in so long. And.....I'm not sure how I can join a band. I'm not sure how to interact with other people in real life anymore. I do listen to a lot of songs though. I go to songmeanings.com and search for music that is relatable (the most relatable I guess) to my life and circumstances. Sometimes it triggers me but it can also help me to....cope? sometimes I guess? I have been longing to share… | /r/MenSupportMen | 25/03/23 07:30 AM |
| 1 | Weekend check-inIt seems like everything sends me into some kinda trigger. It would be much easier to make up a list of things that didn't trigger me. The only things I really do that I can get into are music and writing and that triggers me too. And I have to say with everything I learned about misandry and how commonplace it is and how so many people don't seem to care, I've kinda turned into a misanthrope at this point | /r/MenSupportMen | 25/03/23 07:16 AM |
| 1 | Weekend check-inNo other friends IRL or online. She's pretty much it. The only reason I even brought her back because my life is that chaotic and I guess I thought that she was one of the only ones I can talk about most things to (not about men's rights stuff of course), things I pretty much can't discuss with most people. However, because of everything she's got going on (I won't go too much into specifics), she at best may only respond by email or a phone call every couple of days or so. What further irritate… | /r/MenSupportMen | 25/03/23 06:27 AM |
| 3 | Weekend check-inI am dealing with an OVERWHELMING amount of stress at all angles. My social worker can only do so much and recently, since I've gotten back in touch with my (feminist) friend, she is just overwhelming me even more with what I "have to do". Plus, she can unresponsive for several days at least. And while I can understand that she has a lot going on, on her end, so do I and that's something that she doesn't really seem to take notice or care about. I'm also fearful that since I'm distancing from my… | /r/MenSupportMen | 25/03/23 03:51 AM |
| 2 | Misandry is making things genuinely difficult for meEverything you guys said is why I'm kinda wary around people in general and especially our human psychology which makes the average person on the street a misandrist. Like many people have said on here, I am really scared of speaking out on issues like this because I could easily get laughed at, shutdown or attacked. We really live in a gendered dysphoria I think and this doesn't make me hate women. More like.....distrust women and men (because both men and women have this type of thinking). I j… | /r/MenSupportMen | 24/03/23 01:49 PM |
| 2 | Mid-week check-inThings are continuing to escalate where I live I guess. So much that I contacted my ex-friend for help (who is feminist btw). The reason we split up to begin with is because most of the time she was unavailable for me anyway. She won't answer for days or a week at a time and when she does, sometimes she has nothing good to offer or just makes me more frustrated and overwhelmed. Either way, I'm stuck here isolated and alone and now I feel even more bad about myself for caving in. | /r/MenSupportMen | 22/03/23 03:24 PM |
| 3 | Sudden realization I'm alone.I'm in a similar position. Stuck in a toxic situation with my dysfunctional family that I can't trust, I have no friends IRL or online and other than doing runarounds with doctors, there's not much else to do. Nothing fun at least. On top of that I am doing my best to work out my emotional issues, financial constraints and medical problems all on my own. I try my best but it's hard to keep my sanity. I really don't have any advice for you because I don't know the solution either. The most I've h… | /r/MenSupportMen | 19/03/23 05:07 PM |
| 1 | Weekend check-inReally stressed out. I have really no one atm that I can talk to. Other than this group on Reddit and a group meeting every now and then. I can tell the isolation is getting to me and it can be hard for me to open up about anything because my mind can easily go blank. I'm most likely overwhelmed with all the work I have to do by myself. And I think the stress is getting to me. I'm starting to lose track of where I place things. Just recently, I lost my bag with a Lyft driver and it had my wallet… | /r/MenSupportMen | 18/03/23 03:24 PM |
| 4 | I'm lucky that I'm not having a nervous breakdownFor further context, I don't have any friends. Not IRL or online right now. And my family.....they have the the same thinking as my mom, who is a narcissist. I made posts about my situation about her and my dad in the past but ultimately I'm afraid of talking about the whole thing with most people. I have tried describing my situation in the past only to be met with "be nice to your mom dude wtf" or "your dad is just trying to help you and he simply misunderstood". Believe me, I know my parents … | /r/MenSupportMen | 14/03/23 06:21 PM |
| 4 | Misandry is making things genuinely difficult for meOh my god! I'm not the only one that feels this way! I feel this way all the time too. Recently I went out to a restaurant and they had this sign that said "Men go to the left because women are always right!" This shit really is everywhere, everywhere you look. I can't watch TV, watch movies, go online, or even read books without coming across shit like this. I think a big part of this is due to our psychology. Women preferring women and men preferring women over other men. So it's kinda like th… | /r/MenSupportMen | 13/03/23 01:56 PM |
| 1 | Weekend check-inWent out today just to get out of the house for a bit (and be away from my mom for awhile too). Went to Armando's to eat and I saw this sign that basically said "Men go to the left because women are always right." The misandry.....I swear half of the time I think when it see it often I think its in my head but the other half of the time, it's thrown in my face and it's not even subtle. I'm afraid to talk to anyone about it without being ridiculed or called nuts or even lashed out at. So I keep i… | /r/MenSupportMen | 11/03/23 09:03 PM |
| 2 | Mid-week check-inBack from therapy (well he's a social worker). At first, he seemed pretty helpful during our first session. This time, he pretty much agreed with everything my ex-friend said to me before. My mom is nuts and invasive and controlling, even abusive. He at first said that he would talk to someone who is a close doctor friend I guess to see if they can recommend any urologists but even he said that since the urethroplasty is about a month away and with my lack of options that maybe I should go throu… | /r/MenSupportMen | 08/03/23 08:26 PM |
| 1 | Mid-week check-inIt's been a real painful struggle in here. I know that I'm out of urologist options where I live but my new counselor who happens to be a social worker says he plans to help me with that. Along with finding a financial advisor. He reached out to me like a day ago, telling me that he won't be available again this week or the week after that. On top of that, I think my dental coverage has already been used up for the year and there's still several more teeth that need fillings at least (dental car… | /r/MenSupportMen | 23/02/23 10:50 AM |
| 3 | Man, life is unfairI hope I don't sound insensitive for saying this but there is this saying "only the good die young". I'm not sure how old he is but I assume that he could've lived a little bit longer than this. It can be hard for me to have empathy for others through my experience. I even once heard at some ACA meeting (from a woman) saying that she knows life is unfair because if it was fair, she would either be dead or in jail. So she doesn't care if life is unfair or not. Those are the type of people I don't… | /r/MenSupportMen | 23/02/23 10:38 AM |
| 5 | I'm finding it a bit difficult to deal with societySame here | /r/MenSupportMen | 20/02/23 02:01 PM |
| 10 | I'm finding it a bit difficult to deal with societyI struggle with this a lot too. I think it's fucked up when it comes down to human psychology and gender bias. It makes me angry and depressed but I know there's not much I can do about it. Especially with me being stuck dealing with medical and financial issues and emotional trauma. | /r/MenSupportMen | 20/02/23 01:02 PM |
| 3 | Weekend check-inI really did feel lost and hopeless this morning. I thought that not only was I going to suffer in this physical and mental pain everyday but that I was gonna have to live in this hellhole and do all this work by myself and suffer like that. I didn't expect much out of this new counselor, who is a social worker too btw. But judging from the first session, he does show some good promise. I told him about my lack of options when it comes down to finding a urologist and he said he might help me wit… | /r/MenSupportMen | 17/02/23 05:42 PM |
| 1 | Mid-week check-inI just got back. The doctor was only in the room for less than 5 minutes. I told him about the inflammation and pinching on the tip of my penis that bothers me. I also did mention the penile and testicular pain. He focused on that and did a prostate check. One of my previous urologists did a check on it a year ago and said it was fine. He wanted to do it anyway. He thought it was a little bit swollen to him so he gave me two antibiotics and an anti inflammatory. The anti inflammatory I already t… | /r/MenSupportMen | 16/02/23 09:33 PM |
| 3 | Mid-week check-inMight as well put this out there. I'm kinda anxious over this new urologist. It's good that he's still an option but he's like 60 miles away. It's feasible to get there but it's an hour and a half long trip with Lyft so I'll probably be out all day today. I'm freaking out because most of the time I don't have anyone I can talk to about a lot of things. I canceled this appointment once before like two weeks earlier because I just wasn't mentally ready to face all that. I wasn't prepared at all. I… | /r/MenSupportMen | 16/02/23 01:34 PM |
| 2 | I'm not sure if I made the right choice or notI didn't get my new appointment time until now. It's on the 16th which is like a day before my new therapist appointment. | /r/MenSupportMen | 02/02/23 09:19 PM |
| 1 | Mid-week check-inI think I was kinda fortunate to find....someone because my options really are kinda limited. There's only like three other affiliates that have urologists and I've been to them all already. Well, there is like one other place but their receptionist said that most likely they won't know how to help either since testing on me has already been done. And they don't take my insurance and it's expensive without insurance. It always comes down to insurance. I even tried making calls out of state like … | /r/MenSupportMen | 01/02/23 03:45 AM |
| 1 | Mid-week check-inI have a urologist appointment in two days (he's the 5th one I'm seeing over a 3-4 year period). He's over 60 miles away and I take Lyft everywhere because I can't drive. Anyway, my stress level is through the roof. I've heard from the other 4 urologists that either they don't know what to do, refuse to help me or say there's nothing they can do. They can't even treat the pain. I don't want just pain management, I want an actual solution to this but there may not be one. I may be stuck like this… | /r/MenSupportMen | 31/01/23 11:46 PM |
| 4 | internalized misandryI think I can relate what you're going through internally. For me, I've been raised off of TV (bad narcissistic parenting at work) and for a long time, and still now, I don't know much of anything else. So I have a lot of misandry internalized in me as well. I think the same might be for most guys. It's hard to find a good male role model to look up to. Even though I watched shows that did have quite a bit of male bashing, I could tell something was off but still, TV is my world and I was raised… | /r/MenSupportMen | 26/01/23 12:58 PM |
| 3 | Mid-week check-inSame here man. Every day is like going through hell | /r/MenSupportMen | 24/01/23 08:10 PM |
| 5 | Mid-week check-inI don't think things between me and my counselor will work out so I'm back on my own with zero support. After the appointment, I kinda swallowed things in and told myself that I'll figure things out somehow I guess. But I think the loneliness and isolation is hurting me more than thought. And it's hard to get out of it, literally. This kinda adds to the feeling that I always saw a bleak future for myself.....and there's only myself to blame. So..... | /r/MenSupportMen | 24/01/23 06:58 AM |
| 5 | Mid-week check-inI went to see my counselor yesterday and I assumed I wouldn't get too much out of it. I think I was right. For around $70-$80 a session each week, I am basically getting told by him the same kinda advice a longterm friend gave to me for free mind you. And to do some positive affirmations which you can find online for free. I keep thinking I should give him another chance but I don't think he has much to offer me. Even in terms of coping skills. It was more along the lines of sticking to my affir… | /r/MenSupportMen | 17/01/23 04:24 PM |
| 1 | Mid-week check-inI'm sorry things turned out the way it did. It looks like your acquaintance here couldn't get past her fears of thinking you would end up cheating on her with some female colleague I work. So (I'm only assuming here, it could be for some random reason that simply isn't your fault), in order to prevent herself from being hurt, she made the first move and dumped you. Again, that's just my assumption. Either way, it's not your fault and I hope you don't feel guilty over the breakup. | /r/MenSupportMen | 17/01/23 04:17 PM |
| 1 | help me pleaseI'm not sure I can offer you money but if you need someone to talk to, I'm available | /r/MenSupportMen | 16/01/23 03:39 PM |
| 3 | Weekend check-inSame here | /r/MenSupportMen | 13/01/23 10:27 PM |
| 6 | Are there any real positive affirmations for men?Yeah that's true. I think the most helpful thing for me would be that even though I'm faced with all the shitty things and stuff and my life does kinda suck, I can at least be kinder to myself when I face setbacks and stuff like that. I mean there's a saying "a little kindness goes a long way". So....I think that might be the best thing for me | /r/MenSupportMen | 02/01/23 05:04 AM |
| 4 | Are there any real positive affirmations for men?Oh I think that's actually not half bad advice there. Kinda like talking to myself like the way I would talk to a friend or the way I would talk if I had a child of my own (I don't ever intend to have kids but still....). There is a different word for this called "re-parenting" but I think "self-talk" is a more appropriate fit for what I should work on. And yes, I do talk negatively about myself a lot. It's like....positivity isn't even in my vocabulary. It has to be fake or something. Or "hope … | /r/MenSupportMen | 02/01/23 04:43 AM |
| 3 | Are there any real positive affirmations for men?Yes, exactly! So you kinda don't know who to go to for support or if you can even do anything about the situation or even how to cope with it. You just have to deal with it alone. Most women are feminists to some degree and the regular misandry I see on TV has made me distance myself more from that. I listen more to music but even that has tons of misandric tones in them, especially newer music. I think it's gotten to the point where it's next to impossible to avoid some type of misandry. I'm no… | /r/MenSupportMen | 02/01/23 02:46 AM |
| 3 | Are there any real positive affirmations for men?Hmm, how would you go to find that? I don't think you can find this type of information in regular history books | /r/MenSupportMen | 02/01/23 02:38 AM |
| 7 | Are there any real positive affirmations for men?I did explain to my therapist/counselor that I don't even look at myself in the mirror. But he just said to speak the words out loud, even whisper because simply thinking the words in my head isn't enough apparently. I don't think my counselor will understand why I have a negative association with the term "strong man". I can help him to understand it better by relating it to what my mom has taught me "as a man, you need to do this, this and that". | /r/MenSupportMen | 02/01/23 02:32 AM |
| 10 | Are there any real positive affirmations for men?Oh wow you have no idea how much I agree with you. I don't even believe in the word incel. It has to be some made up word some man-hater cooked up. But yeah I am starting to distance myself a bit from Discord and Reddit too. Thank god I do have the counselor for support, at least as an option. Other than just strangers online. But yeah it's kinda hard to cope with the fact that as a guy, you're pretty much on your own. I really wish there was more support and more I can do but I know I'm struggl… | /r/MenSupportMen | 02/01/23 02:09 AM |
| 1 | 2022 in review (and possibly what's up next in 2023)I know what you meant. Trying out things other than writing. It's just that trying out anything new can be difficult. I know change is scary and all but things remaining exactly the same is scary too. Either way it'll be scary and very difficult period. And I think this year I have been definitely pushed far beyond my limits and everything has gone by so fast it seems. So 2023 will definitely be taken more slowly. And I think that'll help me out more in the long run | /r/MenSupportMen | 31/12/22 01:46 AM |
| 2 | 2022 in review (and possibly what's up next in 2023)Hmm, I have been wary of trying anything new. Other than writing and music, I'm not interested in too much else. Like many times I don't have the passion or drive to try out anything. Probably because I'm too busy wasting my energy on mere survival I guess and holding onto any thread of sanity. But I definitely did realize that going out of the house to eat (by myself) is better than eating inside the house. And until recently, I've never been out of the house on my own really without a family m… | /r/MenSupportMen | 31/12/22 01:35 AM |
| 3 | 2022 in review (and possibly what's up next in 2023)Oh well actually I kinda have. I have been doing a book of some sort where I kinda create a story based off of real life events that happened to me over the past year. I will admit it can be triggering and I must take breaks from it for my own mental health but still seeing everything progressing over the past year (past couple of years) puts things into perspective. It's like I'm watching a character (my character) on TV or something develop. It's interesting to say the least. And while the eve… | /r/MenSupportMen | 31/12/22 01:16 AM |
| 2 | Weekend check-inI guess since others are reflecting over the past year, I think I'll do the same. A lot has happened this year (since I thought 2022 was gonna be my fuck it year) but at the same time, it's almost like nothing has changed. At least not too much. But I did go through a lot of doctors involving my urological problem which still has not been resolved. There was a surgery planned for early on next month but I most likely will postpone it. The urologist said that he didn't know if it was gonna help o… | /r/MenSupportMen | 31/12/22 12:54 AM |
| 3 | Is anybody else spending Christmas alone?Same here. | /r/MenSupportMen | 25/12/22 10:42 PM |
| 6 | Is anybody else spending Christmas alone?Holding on by a shoestring I guess | /r/MenSupportMen | 25/12/22 04:37 AM |
| 7 | Is anybody else spending Christmas alone?Oh that sucks. | /r/MenSupportMen | 25/12/22 03:59 AM |
| 4 | Advice for men in their 20s?It's the case for my situation. Everyone is different. In that case, the best option would be to get a place on your own but try to get something cheap if possible. If that's not possible, then getting out of the house as much as you can is the best you can do. That's at least what I was told for the past 6-7 years now. It's a hard life to live | /r/MenSupportMen | 20/12/22 06:50 PM |
| 3 | Might have to break up with my "feminist" friendYeah she always talks about how shitty her ex-boyfriend and her new boyfriend are. She says she keeps her ex around because he doesn't want him to be out on the street with nowhere to go and she is obsessed with her new boyfriend. Like fell in love with him instantly and puts up with all of his crap. She says many times that the two of them don't really care about her or her feelings but other times she goes on about how wonderful and caring her new boyfriend is in ways that nobody else understa… | /r/MenSupportMen | 19/12/22 12:30 AM |
| 5 | Might have to break up with my "feminist" friendWell she said it herself that she stated she was a feminist and believed in equality between the sexes but at one point said "i'm far more accustomed to being pursued, to men making fools of themselves just to get me to ACKNOWLEDGE them, let alone speak..." Again, red flag | /r/MenSupportMen | 18/12/22 11:50 PM |
| 5 | Might have to break up with my "feminist" friendI do agree with you about the ticking time bomb bit. I just realized that another thing that bothers me is that she always tells me "I love you" which I think is inappropriate in my eyes. I would only think it's acceptable for family members or people I'm in a romantic relationship with (and this clearly isn't sexual). I don't say "I love you" back to her but still I feel guilty for not saying those words back. Regardless, more red flags there | /r/MenSupportMen | 18/12/22 10:48 PM |
| 9 | Might have to break up with my "feminist" friendAnother thing to note: my friend also said at one point that she draws herself towards vulnerable people like me to hang out with which is IMO a red flag | /r/MenSupportMen | 18/12/22 09:54 PM |
| 2 | Depression, stronger than beforeOkay that's fine. I get it. I know your situation either way will be tough but at least you have some semblance of support from these groups right? | /r/MenSupportMen | 11/12/22 10:02 PM |
| 2 | Depression, stronger than beforeOh my.... Well, if you don't have family, who do you surround yourself with these days? | /r/MenSupportMen | 11/12/22 04:56 PM |
| 2 | Depression, stronger than beforeOh I know a relationship ending, especially if it's long term will be difficult either way. It's no better with family jumping down your throat. I think you're ex-wife is acting vindictive here but I don't think that's uncommon. Many times, breakups simply don't go well and people don't end on good terms so in order to make themselves feel better, they lash out at the other person through any means necessary. So I know all of this is gonna sting you. My mom is a similar way (not married to her o… | /r/MenSupportMen | 11/12/22 05:10 AM |
| 2 | Depression, stronger than beforeHmm, I know it may be none of my business and you don't have to go into detail but it might help to describe a bit more about the family dynamic your stuck in a bit more. I know all about narcissistic parents (since my both of my parents are like that). So, can you go into more detail? If possible? | /r/MenSupportMen | 11/12/22 04:07 AM |
| 4 | Weekend check-inWell not just a few hours ago, I thought I was gonna be stuck with this shitty therapist/counselor since I was not able to get an appointment with anybody else whatsoever. At least not until January. So I was pretty down and hopeless and freaking out until out of nowhere I got a call from an office that says one of their counselors can see me tomorrow. Which is good. I still have to pay out of pocket but not as much as the last guy. He does do CBT but also does Christian Counseling which.....I'm… | /r/MenSupportMen | 09/12/22 07:10 PM |
| 2 | Mid-week check-inMy appointment with my therapist/counselor didn't go well but since I question my judgment all the time, I wonder if he was really terrible or if I was just overreacting and I need to give him more time. I do pay him like $100 a week. I didn't like him when I left his place but unfortunately there aren't that many available therapists/counselors where I am (especially male therapists, they're pretty low). So, it's kinda like going back to the therapist/counselor I have or I just take on everythi… | /r/MenSupportMen | 29/11/22 09:09 PM |
| 5 | First meeting with my therapist didn't go so wellYou mean you're open to a convo with me? | /r/MenSupportMen | 29/11/22 01:28 AM |
| 1 | Weekend check-inWell the thing is that the guy I'm going to isn't really a therapist but more like a counselor. He is trained with stress, grief and even has some knowledge on men's issues so he can still be useful though. That'll depend on what happens when I actually go see him. Still, if he is good, he can be useful. I don't really have any family members that I can trust and because my parents kept me isolated from the rest of the world for most of my life really, I don't really have any friends irl at leas… | /r/MenSupportMen | 27/11/22 04:29 PM |
| 1 | Weekend check-inThe past therapists I had really kinda sucked. This one I am paying $120 for the first session and every one afterwards will be $100. So for that amount, he better be good. Or like my friend said (who is feminist but I keep her around because she understands the therapist/medical lingo far better than I can), I should ask for some recommendations to other therapists I can try out (on the insurance website, he's not even listed as a therapist though, just a counselor but I guess it's a stepping s… | /r/MenSupportMen | 26/11/22 01:14 AM |
| 1 | Weekend check-inWell the biggest thing I plan to try out soon is therapy. But, no kidding, I went searching around for therapists all over the place and I have been told many times that they don't accept new patients or I have to pay out of pocket. Things are so dire at this point that at least for awhile, I'm paying to go to this new therapist (with the help of my dad's death benefits). Telling anyone the full story of what I go through would depress anyone. But....you work with what you've got | /r/MenSupportMen | 25/11/22 11:36 PM |
| 3 | Weekend check-inIt's SO many things but to sum it up, it's my physical health, my mental health being shit, the environment I'm in, the situation I'm stuck in and I don't think I'm ever gonna get out of and the trauma that grew because of all of this | /r/MenSupportMen | 25/11/22 11:19 PM |
| 6 | Weekend check-inI think I'm getting more angry and depressed each day and I always ask myself how I can possibly keep it together. I have no clue | /r/MenSupportMen | 25/11/22 11:07 PM |
| 1 | Does anybody else hate the holidays? (An update about my life)Thanks man. A little help goes a long way | /r/MenSupportMen | 24/11/22 06:14 PM |
| 4 | Getting more lonelier as I get olderIt is hard to connect to others period because most people are flat out untrustworthy to some level. Even though I know all of us need some kind of human contact, it can be hard to connect with someone. Harder to keep them around if you're suffering from mental illness, disability, addiction, etc. Most people would rather be around someone who is more "normal" and stable. I do suffer from issues with self esteem and negative self talk daily. You can hear yourself saying "I'm a lost cause" all th… | /r/MenSupportMen | 24/11/22 04:38 PM |
| 4 | The amount of work I have to do can be...pretty overwhelmingI'm disabled......I can't join the military or really be a hobo because I desperately need the medical care. I'm not sure you know how dangerous being homeless can be, especially if you're a guy. Men are more exposed to violence and victims to homicide. Am I living an abusive toxic situation? Yeah I admit that but if I run out into the streets now, well, that'll destroy the plans I currently have in place medically. I know once I do have the money and resources (which shouldn't be too long) I ca… | /r/MenSupportMen | 06/11/22 03:39 PM |
| 7 | The amount of work I have to do can be...pretty overwhelmingI'm not a father or husband but I don't have the money or resources or transportation to go anywhere. In fact, this is what I'm trying to fight for so I can have the ability to walk away from all this. From my mom and even my friend. I mean where can I run to? A homeless shelter? That's all the advice I've gotten before when I tried asking for help. From actual professionals. Either that or coping skills to deal with my parents, which obviously didn't really change things much. | /r/MenSupportMen | 06/11/22 03:10 PM |
| 1 | Mid-week check-inGoing to another new urologist tomorrow. This will be my 4th one. Since I've been suffering for 3 years at this point and since I've seen so many doctors, I wonder if he'll even want to help me. I guess the only way to know is to find out | /r/MenSupportMen | 26/10/22 01:21 AM |
| 1 | Male hostility in the mental health fieldThe thing is that there's a chance that I might lose my coverage soon and that'll prevent me from seeing doctors or therapists until I get on a new plan. | /r/MenSupportMen | 25/10/22 04:20 AM |
| 1 | Male hostility in the mental health fieldLeaving your situation will probably help get a new perspective on things. Not enough money, no transportation and no resources (if I lose coverage). And I think most trauma therapists aren't covered by insurance. I did some research on it myself. And unfortunately the choices for therapists I can see under my insurance is limited and there's a chance I might lose coverage soon. Meditation centers, I don't think those are covered by insurance either | /r/MenSupportMen | 24/10/22 05:05 PM |
| 1 | Male hostility in the medical/mental health fieldIf I make the same post without that channel link on there, can it stay up? | /r/MenSupportMen | 24/10/22 12:18 PM |
| 1 | Problems with insuranceYeah I am in the US and my friend did give me a number I can call straight to Medicaid and discuss options but the operator said that even she didn't know much on her end. I'm not sure if anybody over there will know anything. It might just be left up to the state. I don't know anybody else who can help out | /r/MenSupportMen | 22/10/22 11:36 PM |
| 7 | Girls have easier, and idc if I should say it or notI don't see a lot of men being hostile towards women just because of their gender. Usually it's the opposite. A lot of women either are indifferent towards men or flat out hate men. I mean you see things like #KillAllMen on Twitter and that shit isn't banned. I swear if you see that hashtag turned around on women, it would be a different story. And even though men are in the most positions of power, they are the ones who face the risks and consequences and the women (even the ones in higher posi… | /r/MenSupportMen | 17/10/22 02:45 PM |
| 7 | Girls have easier, and idc if I should say it or notI can at least understand why you feel that way, especially with one of the main problems of society being male hostile and pandering to the female gender | /r/MenSupportMen | 17/10/22 02:37 PM |
| 12 | Girls have easier, and idc if I should say it or notI don't think you're the only one who thinks this way. At least I do. When it comes down to government, education, health care, media and the legal system, it does favor women over men. Oh and did you know of a story of this woman who dressed up as a man to see if she would be treated differently. And as a man, women cared for her less and she wasn't really able to get dates or anything. Because the truth is that in society, it is harder for men because men prefer women and women prefer other wo… | /r/MenSupportMen | 17/10/22 02:22 PM |
| 3 | Weekend check-inI think I made a hard call when it came down to ending certain friendships but overall I think it was for the best because they either made me uncomfortable or we had a falling out. And I'm trying to put more of that energy to seeing if I can improve my situation, which I will admit, is a mess. But I think I now have less on my shoulders, a little bit less so that's something. | /r/MenSupportMen | 14/10/22 07:36 PM |
| 1 | I am stuck between in a rock and a hard place.I did go on the website and what my friend was referring to is that yes therapists help work through life events and stress but many of them have absolutely no training when it comes down to trauma. The ones that do aren't covered by insurance and you have to pay out of pocket for that. I've emailed a few of them and I mostly got redirected back to offices I've already been to where the therapists suck or aren't very helpful. But those are my options when it comes down to insurance. It's not abo… | /r/MenSupportMen | 09/10/22 03:14 PM |
| 3 | I am stuck between in a rock and a hard place.I'll give out my opinion. I know my parents will always be my parents but it doesn't change the fact that they are flawed and nowadays I can't stand to be around my mom, even though I would miss her if she died, and I could not stand my dad when he was alive (either he scared me or made me angry, I guess the same can apply to my mom now too, that was even before he died). I know everybody has different opinions when it comes down to parents and I understand my dad's suffering and my mom's toil. … | /r/MenSupportMen | 08/10/22 05:07 PM |
| 4 | I am stuck between in a rock and a hard place.Yeah she is pretty much the only one helping me right now, even though she only responds occassionally. Like I mean I don't really have anyone else to really talk to period (that includes family because they aren't trustworthy, long story). She can help me with financial matters and navigating through the medical system but its the misandry that I might have a problem with longterm. Still, she's all I got atm. I'm 24 and I'm on disability. My friend told me that the benefits my dad left me may o… | /r/MenSupportMen | 08/10/22 04:22 PM |
| 1 | I am stuck between in a rock and a hard place.I'm 24 now btw. Turning 25 in two months. Me and my dad were never close, not for a long time. My parents got divorced when I was 4 and of course I lived with my mom. Me and my dad always had problems and I never got along with him much. At least not since elementary. I knew he was a shitty parent. I didn't know how bad my mom was too until recently. But yeah both are my parents are narcisstic assholes. I know my mom used to use my dad as an attack dog basically (she knew I was afraid of him) to… | /r/MenSupportMen | 08/10/22 04:19 PM |
| 2 | Weekend check-inI am stuck in a complex position. I let back an old friend in my life who has made it clear that she is feminist. The reason why she stays is because I am dealing with financial and problems involving my family that I really only feels she can understand. My dad died recently and that has put more pressure on my shoulders, more than there already was before he died. Also I have been suffering from urological problems for 3 years now and my doctor told me the only possible solution is another sur… | /r/MenSupportMen | 08/10/22 02:33 PM |
| 16 | Why are there so many anti-men women, and how do I deal with them?I struggle with this too. And unfortunately it's not just women, men do this too. There can be quite a few men who go around thinking other men are disgusting and pathetic but the guy who is saying it thinks he's not like those other guys and he's "special". It comes from both nature and nuture I think. Women have an in-group bias and prefer other women. Men have an outgroup bias and prefer women. I also have a deep rooted belief that women are angelic and men are dirty animals based on how I gr… | /r/MenSupportMen | 01/10/22 08:15 PM |
| 2 | Struggling to cope with how the person I live with treats meHey I know our situations aren't the same but I do understand it. It's really devastating and mind boggling when your family treats you like shit. Not to mention, them actively hurting you and any chance you have to heal or remotely get better. Even though we are different, I may be in a similar position and I do understand your plight. You deserve to be treated with respect even if you can't work, go to college, drive, find a partner, etc. I really do feel for you. | /r/MenSupportMen | 02/09/22 04:04 PM |
| 7 | Toxic mom ?First off, as for your question about being over dramatic about your problems. The answer to that is: No, absolutely not. You and your brothers deserve to be treated with more respect than this and (I hope you don't take offense to this) but your mom sounds absolutely horrible and misandric (hating males, boys and men, just because they were born male). In fact, your mom sounds even more disgusting for treating her own sons like this (calling you and your brothers smelly and lazy, holy shit...).… | /r/MenSupportMen | 04/06/22 09:04 PM |
| 4 | well I tried to kill my self 3 weeks ago at least I think it was that long agoHey, I just wanted to comment on here to say that I know exactly what it might feel like. I've grown sad and tired of what I'm dealing with too. I won't say that "life is a beautiful thing" or anything like that. Because I know life really does suck for a lot of people. And many come to the idea of suicide (myself included) because they can't think of any other way out at the very least. I don't know the extent of your situation and I wish I can help you more but I just wanna tell you that I do … | /r/MenSupportMen | 09/05/22 12:21 AM |
| 11 | Weekend check-inI....definitely have a lot on my plate that I wanna share. I can tell you just the overwhelming amount of stuff I have to deal with (and what I have done this week and what I will have to do in the future). I'm stuck making calls to different urologists (I made several posts about it before) and dentists right now (made posts about that as well). Just a bunch of different doctors in general. I have made phone calls to doctors and insurances every day for the past 5 days. And despite all that wor… | /r/MenSupportMen | 06/05/22 05:08 PM |
| 3 | I feel guilty for caving in so easily to the misandry sometimes and not doing enough about itYou're right. That makes more sense 🙂 | /r/MenSupportMen | 06/05/22 03:18 PM |
| 3 | I feel guilty for caving in so easily to the misandry sometimes and not doing enough about itI think it's hard to talk about men's rights to the general public. Mainly due to others thinking its just a silly concept or that "men have far more rights than women do". Something along those lines. At least from what I've seen. The Depp/Amber case does bring a highlight to domestic violence happening to men, which is a big step. As for TV shows, the problem is that many TV shows and movies have a hint of misandry in it. That goes the same for music and other forms of media (I won't even coun… | /r/MenSupportMen | 06/05/22 03:11 PM |
| – | My mom jump scared me in the hallway.....AGAINNot about this specifically but I have spoken up more about how her behavior affects me. (Her gossiping on the phone to other family members about me, my feelings being ignored and her telling me to man up and just deal with things, how she excuses my dad's actions all the time and calls my actions evil, etc...) The gossiping she still does after I told her about it. And most of the rest of the stuff she denies, saying "it happened a long time ago". Even though some of this stuff happened only m… | /r/MenSupportMen | 26/03/22 04:21 PM |
| 2 | It seems like loneliness affects us guys more than anything. How do you survive like that?Well the saying is true: "You can only be yourself when you're by yourself" | /r/MenSupportMen | 24/03/22 05:09 PM |
| 1 | It seems like loneliness affects us guys more than anything. How do you survive like that?I don't think I'm just lonely though. I do know most of the time I am alone, especially with the way I'm forced to live. | /r/MenSupportMen | 24/03/22 11:10 AM |
| 4 | It seems like loneliness affects us guys more than anything. How do you survive like that?Sadly loneliness is a very common thing for men but I don't think it just generally cuts up a decade off your life. For some it can go on most of if not their whole lives. Because simply there are some things about loneliness in general that you might never get used to. At least for me. | /r/MenSupportMen | 24/03/22 11:09 AM |
| 6 | No matter what I do, I'm the bad guy.I did confront her about how I felt with her telling me to man up and stuff and deal with everything on my own. Her responses came down to: "That happened years ago or forever ago." (Even though some of the things she did happened months ago. She is complaining that I'm distancing myself from her too but doesn't understand and refuses to understand the reason why. She was just more concerned over me not talking to her enough. | /r/MenSupportMen | 21/03/22 10:22 PM |
| 7 | No matter what I do, I'm the bad guy.Thank you for being so understanding about this. It really does feel like I don't have a voice around here. And it gets even worse that if I don't give into what she wants, she threatens to kick me out of the house (she does this A LOT). | /r/MenSupportMen | 21/03/22 10:15 PM |
| 8 | Ways on how society points the male gender in a negative way and the female gender in a positive waySociety does have gender roles for both men and women (women supposed to have the loving, nurture role in society). The difference is that society is helping women to break out of their gender roles while forcing men to stay in theirs. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 20/03/22 09:51 AM |
| 1 | Netflix is a vile, misandrist cesspit of hateThere's a problem with that. Even in the early seasons it was there. Just not as ramped up as the last few seasons were. Season 5 for example, Debbie raped Matty (I think he was over 18 at least and Debbie was still a teenager, in his words "you statutory raped yourself"). Then when her and Lip talk about it, Lip goes (well I'm paraphrasing here but he basically said) "I would love to get raped by a girl". That's pretty much what he said. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 20/03/22 07:42 AM |
| 1 | Ways on how society points the male gender in a negative way and the female gender in a positive wayI'll try and post this on there too | /r/MenSupportMen | 20/03/22 07:16 AM |
| 11 | Ways on how society points the male gender in a negative way and the female gender in a positive wayI think we both know who society favors more | /r/MenSupportMen | 20/03/22 07:01 AM |
| 1 | I’m gonna put down how I feel and all I want is to not be judged and criticized for it. So….here it goes.It’s hard to explain. The best way I can say it is that I’ve been stuck this way for so long that I know possibly any chance of recovery is probably next to zero at this point. On top of feeling bad about myself and blaming mainly me for all of this happening. This happens all the time | /r/MenSupportMen | 02/03/22 02:57 AM |
| 2 | I’m gonna put down how I feel and all I want is to not be judged and criticized for it. So….here it goes.I’m not sure. I can’t even get in touch with a urologist anymore | /r/MenSupportMen | 02/03/22 02:47 AM |
| 1 | (TW) Misandry induced gender dysphoria, long rant (Please forgive me)“I just wanted to underline that we should guard ourselves from unfair generalizations.” True. We should do that. Unfortunately in society, it’s more common for people (mainly women) to make generalizations about men. Saying all men are creeps, losers, incels (hate that word). If generalizations were made about women, especially from a guy, a woman or man would be up in arms. But it’s sad that generalizations about men are accepted. That needs to change | /r/MenSupportMen | 22/02/22 02:23 PM |
| 1 | (TW) Misandry induced gender dysphoria, long rant (Please forgive me)“Women are just like men. There are good ones and bad ones. We should treat them as individuals.” Women aren’t exactly like men. It’s very clear that they are gender and body differences. There are good and bad people from both genders but I think many women think they are above men just because of their gender. And research has shown that women have some bias towards other women. They can see themselves as collectivists. | /r/MenSupportMen | 22/02/22 02:07 PM |
| 5 | (TW) Misandry induced gender dysphoria, long rant (Please forgive me)I actually do agree with a lot what you said and I’m glad you shared. At least I’m not alone with the way I think about women. Before I thought I could easily become a misogynist just for thinking about women the wrong way. And I could even imagine a few years ago this nightmare of women beating me out of nowhere in the middle of the street (women do beat men in the streets of India and it’s fully allowed there and in some other countries). Also women do have more support, resources and medical … | /r/MenSupportMen | 22/02/22 12:38 PM |
| 1 | Weekend check-inWe can. Are you comfortable with PMing me? | /r/MenSupportMen | 21/02/22 12:30 AM |
| 2 | Weekend check-inBarely hanging on….on the edge | /r/MenSupportMen | 20/02/22 11:48 AM |
| 7 | To share or not to share?Unfortunately it’s not. Especially when female privilege gets involved. People in general listen to a woman over a man. Period. I wish this wasn’t true but it isn’t. It’s still a hard thing to believe but they are many cases out there about how badly men can be treated | /r/MenSupportMen | 14/02/22 01:21 PM |
| 9 | To share or not to share?Yeah I think that happens to me sometimes. Sometimes it’s simply because I don’t feel like it. Or other times I don’t wanna deal with other’s responses to what I say (especially if it’s negative). But I think the main problem (that mainly relates to men) is that usually we get laughed at or targeted the minute we open up. That’s why many men out there (even me sometimes) think it’s safer not to open up. Out of the fear of being ridiculed over what you say or think or feel. Or even being targeted… | /r/MenSupportMen | 14/02/22 01:13 PM |
| 4 | What my mom texts meThese previous posts oughta help clear some things up: https://www.reddit.com/r/CPTSD/comments/ra0ah5/i_have_to_get_this_story_out_now/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf https://www.reddit.com/r/CPTSD/comments/re92qd/round_2_with_my_parents/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf https://www.reddit.com/r/CPTSD/comments/rlig6i/its_my_way_or_the_highway_literally/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf https://www.reddit.com/r/CPTSD/comments/s2cavs/im_wa… | /r/MenSupportMen | 11/02/22 02:42 PM |
| 1 | Am I wrong or crazy for thinking this way?You do have a point | /r/MenSupportMen | 11/02/22 11:06 AM |
| 3 | Am I wrong or crazy for thinking this way?✊🏾 | /r/MenSupportMen | 11/02/22 06:14 AM |
| 3 | Am I wrong or crazy for thinking this way?Yes it is. But it is good to see that there are a few out there who don’t want to conform to the societal roles that are given to men. And I can tell how things can work based on my experiences and surroundings | /r/MenSupportMen | 11/02/22 06:02 AM |
| 1 | How do you deal with hating every single person intensely that you try to open up to?I’m gonna do my best to give you some advice. Someone who is a few years younger than you who also has a lot on their plate. I suffered and I am suffering through a lot too but I also know that it can be hard to open up to anyone out there about these complex problems. They might not understand it or get freaked out over it and either distance themselves from you or ghost you. They just might not be capable of the subject matter. Unfortunately many people out there are like that. I think most pe… | /r/MenSupportMen | 07/02/22 10:51 AM |
| 1 | Might as well put this out thereI’m uncircumcised though | /r/MenSupportMen | 04/02/22 11:50 AM |
| 1 | Might as well put this out thereThanks for validating my side of things. I’ve been to so many doctors (and also have been invalidated by others I’ve talked to and called a hypochondriac by my Nparents) to the point where I think that all of my problems are just in my head and that no one will sympathize with me or believe me, let alone help me. Or even if I can receive help at this point. (I hope I don’t have prostate or testicular cancer at this point) But yeah I’ve learned even if you do advocate for yourself some doctors st… | /r/MenSupportMen | 02/02/22 03:58 PM |
| 1 | Might as well put this out thereI’m not comfortable with that but we can talk more in a DM if you want | /r/MenSupportMen | 02/02/22 12:45 AM |
| 1 | Might as well put this out thereIt is bigger on one side than the other. Urologist A pointed it out but won’t do anything. Also my GP isn’t helpful either. I can try to reach out but last time I saw him, he just referred me back to Urologist A. He doesn’t know how to handle the issue either. | /r/MenSupportMen | 02/02/22 12:39 AM |
| 2 | Might as well put this out thereI’m afraid of looking for Urologist C because there’s only two major hospitals with urology services where I live. There are smaller places but I’m afraid they’ll be like Urologist B and they’ll dismiss me just like he did. It’s not just the narrowed meatus but also there’s more skin on one side of the tip of the penis than the other which affects me when I masturbate. Also I have chronic testicular pain and penile pain on top of it. | /r/MenSupportMen | 02/02/22 12:33 AM |
| 129 | Dr. Phil tells abuse victim that he isn't allowed to defend himself from his abuser and the audience cheersI guess the classic line in society still stands… “A woman’s comfort is more important than a man’s safety” | /r/MensRights | 28/12/21 05:00 PM |
| 5 | Misandry in the mediaYeah it’s everywhere | /r/MensRights | 26/12/21 09:42 PM |
| 4 | Misandry in the mediaThink again: https://youtu.be/F44NFmxekr8 | /r/MensRights | 26/12/21 09:23 PM |
| 2 | Saw this in r/Trueoffmychest with 28k upvotes: "I'm really concerned about men's mental health"Preach! ✊ | /r/MensRights | 16/11/21 10:20 PM |
| 3 | I can't believe this got madeDoes anybody else love this commercial? I wonder where you can find the full version | /r/MensRights | 20/10/21 04:20 AM |
| 1 | Why do some people seem to love emasculating men?You know what I hear from my mom a lot? “Be a man” | /r/MensRights | 18/09/21 08:48 AM |
| 1 | Last time I’ll make another one of these posts I promiseWe can talk through PM? | /r/MenSupportMen | 24/08/21 07:07 AM |
| 1 | Last time I’ll make another one of these posts I promiseI think only one of them wanted to talk to me in a PM. | /r/MenSupportMen | 24/08/21 06:52 AM |
| 6 | This is a 23 year old man crying out for helpI do have plans and I’m trying to save money and make calls from doctor to doctor to make sure I get physically better. But yeah my mental health has taken its toll too. And guess what? It takes a lot of time and resources anyway to find another good doctor and therapist too. Believe me or not I’m going through as many doctors as I can. It’s just……overwhelming | /r/MenSupportMen | 05/08/21 10:32 AM |
| 6 | This is a 23 year old man crying out for helpI do. I receive my finances under disability and my health has been severely compromised. I’m still handling phone calls every day to doctors in trying to manage my health. And trust me it’s a lot | /r/MenSupportMen | 05/08/21 10:26 AM |
| 6 | This is a 23 year old man crying out for helpI can’t physically meet up with people since 1) I can’t drive yet since I don’t have a license and 2) my parents keep me isolated inside the house and don’t allow me outside the house on my own. In fact it’s taken me a lot of work just to go to doctors appointments on my own and getting my own rides there. So I don’t really get the opportunity to make new friends (physically anyway). I think I recently just found out that she only makes time for me when she feels like it. And yeah she might be j… | /r/MenSupportMen | 05/08/21 10:23 AM |
| 2 | This is a man trying to vent out for help and in desperate need for someone to talk toOne more thing. Any time either of the two men she lives with, walks into the same room as her, she says she has to go. This happens 90% of the time. She can make HUGE chunks of time for them but for me it’s…..”i'll see you later. i love you -- sorry i'm not much help tonight” | /r/MensRights | 05/08/21 09:24 AM |
| 2 | This is a man trying to vent out for help and in desperate need for someone to talk toYeah I think you’re spot on. Despite me being completely overwhelmed by my schedule, I can still pick up a phone and text her. She won’t do the same. However, when one of the two men she lives with needs a ride with her to another state just so he can get his mail, she’ll jump up for him. I’m serious. She’s planning on disappearing tomorrow for 3 days (or more). God forbid if I need her help during that time | /r/MensRights | 05/08/21 09:21 AM |
| 2 | I’m put into a cornerHmm…..it’s complicated. I know she means well and that anger isn’t just pointed at me. She said she does feel comfortable with me and she has/is helping me through a rough confusing time and I don’t want to leave her like this……yet at least. But you’re right. Hearing those kinds of things about how bad men are from her (and even her saying “I'm far more accustomed to being pursued, to men making fools of themselves just to get me to ACKNOWLEDGE them, let alone speak...”. That was suspicious to m… | /r/MensRights | 14/05/21 06:20 PM |
| 1 | How to Identify and Avoid Feminist Propaganda Movies and ShowsI do see feminist propaganda everywhere on TV. “There was a troubled young woman...I wonder why so many stories have to begin that way. I know, I know. I hate this story. I hate that I'm telling you. I'm tired of the disposable girl story. Men have no idea how to walk away.” That’s the type of shit I see everywhere on TV. Where all men are these violent disgusting predators and all women are just lonely innocent victims. That along with what I put with in my living situation, makes me more disgu… | /r/AntiFeminists | 05/01/21 04:15 AM |
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