Trying to work out a weekly timesharing schedule with my STBX. It’s lots of fun.

X’s primary goal is to have as many school nights as possible with the kids. Despite the fact that we live 1 mile apart and zoned for the same schools, she insists the kids are better with her on school nights.

My goals are roughly equal time with the kids and that I have at least some school nights and weekends with the kids. I don’t want to be a weekend only dad. I want the bad and the good stuff. And I think the kids are better off when we are both engaged in their schooling and extracurricular activities. Also, my X often forgets to tell me important information or include me on communications with the school. So, I cannot rely on her to keep me involved.

I have a much more demanding job in terms of hours but a lot of flexibility to set my own schedule. I have to travel some times, but not too often. I can often work from home. X almost always works from her home. I would like to include a term that if I travel for more than 5 days, I get an extra day with the kids when I get back, or something like that.

There are 3 kids ages 8, 11 and 15. The state we live in has a presumption of 50/50 timeshare.

We sometimes don’t agree on medical and school decisions related to the kids.

Any advice on what my goals should be, additional terms, or anything else is greatly appreciated.