My [22 M] college girlfriend [23 F] of three years left me. Says we need time apart.

Blackhawk2479 · 2018-02-19T08:02:39+00:00

None of the reasons she gives you for wanting “time apart” are true, she’s just hamstering.

You’re done, stop fighting for her because you’re just making yourself look weaker and weaker. The truth is she’s either already getting dicked by some other dude or has her ducks lined up in a row ready.

From this point on she’s dead to you. Welcome to TRP, get started on the sidebar and do follow through on hitting the gym.

RedLegendx · 2018-02-19T08:10:39+00:00

She wants use this break to see if this Chad she eyefucked will commit to her.

redblueninja · 2018-02-19T10:55:02+00:00

Don't get in a LTR with older women. Always be 3+ years older. It'll help.

balalasaurus · 2018-02-19T12:16:07+00:00

Sunk cost fallacy at play. You can make new memories. You can share new experiences. You can go through new things. All with a new girlfriend.

She's not a part of your life anymore. But you are. Focus on that and move on.

DavidAlanQueer · 2018-02-19T08:22:35+00:00

It seems to me that you don't know anything about TRP and you're just here because you're desperate.

FuckboyAWALT · 2018-02-19T08:45:19+00:00

You haven’t even read the sidebar and came here to ask one of the most common questions.

The relationship or whatever it was (LDR‘s are non existent) is over. She’s trying to signal you that by saying she needs time.

She has already branch swinged and getting filled with other mans cum or is at least dating someone new.

Have some self respect and block her everywhere, stop being that beta cuck that clinches to his Disney fantasy of being with a unicorn that would never leave him or cheat on him. Don’t reach out to her. She died the moment she said she needs time.

YasserZe · 2018-02-19T15:49:08+00:00

Didn't even read it , we need time apart , translation = "l want to fuck other guys and not feel guilty about it " ,Walk away mate , next her

pawoukcz · 2018-02-19T17:15:55+00:00

She needs time = she needs lick Chad balls and mushroom tip deep inside her meantime you wait for her...harsh truth bro

fnordsnord · 2018-02-19T21:15:24+00:00

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Deep_freeze202 · 2018-02-19T13:01:48+00:00

Simple, next. Start banging other girls and move on.

joedevice · 2018-02-19T13:55:07+00:00

It was your turn. Now its not.

pawoukcz · 2018-02-19T17:25:15+00:00

She needs time = she needs lick Chad balls and mushroom tip deep inside her meantime you wait for her...harsh truth bro

CAPIreland · 2018-02-19T14:53:09+00:00

You need to let it go. 3 years is a fucking long time, but you learn a lot, like: -Time does not = commitment from women. -Hypergamy is a bitch. -You can't let yourself love so openly.

It'll be shit, and the world around you will be filled with memories of her, I know. But, mate, you're FREE. Go fuck some hot girls, drink for fun, do whatever. But do take this time to find happiness in your own heart, and then, when you have that, maybe think of a new LTR one day. Best of luck.

jacques_cousteau007 · 2018-02-19T19:53:55+00:00

Posts like these are a complete waste of time of all the EC and long time contributors.

What the hell do YOU think you should do? Try to win her back and end up with the Disney happily ever after?

You’ve found fucking TRP. The holy grail of male sexual strategy.

Try monk mode and red TRP for a couple months and see if you really care about her once your mindset and gross oneitis fades away.

SuperCrazy07 · 2018-02-19T21:24:57+00:00

Honestly, it doesn't feel like it right now, but its your lucky day.

10 years from now, this chick is gonna be a worn out, broken down hag and the chick you're banging is gonna be much hotter.

There's not one girl from my college days that I look at now and think, wow, I wish she was mine today.

juliusstreicher · 2018-02-20T00:06:04+00:00

I've been down on my luck lately and she decided we need "time apart".

"Time apart" is code for "I want to see if I can get this other guy to commit, because he's hotter than you. Being hotter than you, he may not, so, I want to keep you dangling while I suck and fuck him and make my case to him. If not, I can come back to you."

Ive tried talking to her, reasoning, etc,

Talk and reason are not the language she understands. "You can't negotiate attraction.

she said she decided last month this was going to happen. As upset as she gets talking about our ending she won't budge from us "taking a break".

She's not upset about 'taking a break', she's upset that she has to explain it to you, and that you won't take 'get stuffed' for an answer. IT WILL HAPPEN.

What should I do? It seems fighting for her makes no fucking difference, the issues she's complaining about are so trival and fixable compared to what we have been through.

She doesn't care about what the 2 of you have been through. See Briffault's Law. She cares about her future with the other guy. If she can't lock him down, she'll come back to you...grudgingly.

She's always been optimistic about "us" so this strong willed turn of heart is completely unprecedented in her character.

Unprecedented to what you THINK you know about her character. She's young, her character is still forming. You're young, you think that you know what her character is.

I'd never believe she'd cheat on me

The more fool you, then. Sadly, the ones that would never believe that their SO wouldn't cheat on them are more prone to being cheated on

but all my more -relationship- experienced friends and family say there's a new guy in the picture somewhere because she's so determined to end it with me.

Yep. Listen to them.

So shes probably trying to cut things off and move on with her new interest

Yep. The only reason she's calling it a break is because she either 1. Wants to break up permanently, and wants for you to take the hint and leave her alone, but, she's worried that you'll go all psycho on her or, 2. She trusts that you are ignorant enough and desperate enough that after her fling doesn't work out, you'll take her back.

I'm considering staying friends with her after I have sometime to cool off idk yet. We might be able to still be friends but that sounds beta as fuck to watch a another man fufill my old spot as I watch from a demoted "friend zone".

Don't. You are correct, this is beta as fuck. It can NEVER be beneficial to you; only detrimental.

You need to get into the sidebar.

In short, She wants to go whoring around, and doesn't give a damn about your past, so, it's best for you to forget about your past with her. She doesn't care that you've never cheated on her; AAMOF, it would probably please her if you had.

Since she's a whore, you know how to treat her.

Title	My [22 M] college girlfriend [23 F] of three years left me. Says we need time apart.
Author	MacintoshX63
Upvotes	3
Comments	22
Date	February 19, 2018 7:47 AM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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