Could you discuss what loneliness means to you in your own words? Can you describe a few of your own experiences and feelings with loneliness?

ElisaSKy · 2024-01-31T06:50:32+00:00

"Fortes soli, fortiores una."

Strong alone, stronger together. In many ways, a group is bigger than the sum of it's parts. Whether it's carrying a heavy item without carrying handle, where two people can grab it from opposite ends and as such cover the center of gravity of said item, or being able to catch each other when they fall, we are stronger together.

If you ever accidentally pull a leg muscle, your mobility is greatly reduced, as simply standing is painful. A bad flu will leave you exhausted and unable to do much, beyond it simply being not done to go out and contaminate everyone.

If you aren't lonely, someone can cover for you for a few days as you recover from your leg injury. Someone can cover groceries and cooking for you, until you're back in action. And when that person gets a flu, you can cover for them while they recover, making sure they're back on their feet ASAP.

If you are lonely, you face the dwindling of your food supply as you end up having to make a two-way trip for a grocery run while each step causes you pain. And you won't help the other person with their flu.

Two lonely people will end up having a slower recovery as they cannot have proper rest. Two non-lonely people will be back in action must faster.

Loneliness is being Strong Alone, coupled with knowing you could be Stronger Together. It's a yearning for what could be, and awareness of what is.

And that pulled leg muscle by the way? I've actually had to do groceries run with one. Not fun, but neither was starving.

bottleblank · 2024-01-31T06:44:34+00:00

Perpetual gut-wrenching emptiness, isolating and paralysing alienation, misery-inducing disconnection from society. A sense of irreparable malfunction in which everything tells you that you should be able to interact deeply with other humans just like you but which, in practice, does not seem possible beyond a fleeting, shallow, superficial, and constantly unfulfilling level. A hopeless infinite distance between you and the next nearest person, even though there are entities which appear to be people physically standing right next to you, as though their souls are far, far away from anything you could conceivably communicate with. An unrepayable social debt with predatory levels of interest.

Existing in a society which is more than happy to grab your head and smear your face all over stories and depictions of what you're missing, simultaneously telling you how normal and important socialising and intimacy are, how amazing they are to experience, but also to shut up and fuck off bitching about not having it because nobody owes you shit. Which is abusive behaviour, if done by an individual to another individual, but apparently that doesn't count when corporations and institutions do it.

Punder_man · 2024-01-31T06:46:57+00:00

Loneliness is not being able to talk to those close to you about how you feel because you have been conditioned to bottle things up / not trauma dump on people.

My mother passed away in April 2023 and I'm still shook up by it, plagued by feelings of guilt over the fact that I didn't really speak to her between Christmas 2023 and when she died.

I got a kitten in August 2023, bonded with it and when it got run over by a car in November 2023 I was once again shaken up..

I'm still shaken up today and there are days where I get home from work and I spend 5 - 10 minutes in my car crying to myself because I don't want to burden my family with my problems.

I know its not healthy and I know that I shouldn't see it as me burdening them.. but I can't help it..
And that has me feeling a sense of loneliness for close to a year now...

Ok-Yogurtcloset7394 · 2024-01-31T07:53:22+00:00

it depends. you need to differentiate. there is chronic loneliness which is more like a mental health disease and there is loneliness as a feeling.

When I am talking about loneliness as a feeling, all I mean is whenever someone longs for company or someone to talk or do stuff with.

When it comes to chronic loneliness it feels like this: you are most comfortable all alone on your own. it's an decisions to live like that. it's actively avoiding interactions with others. this can happen due to many reasons. lack of motivation (even due to depression), severe introvercy, other mental health issues or real life expirience just to Name a few. Chronic loneliness drastically damages your quality of life. You need and want things like intimacy. you need and want some sort of fullfillment and progress in life. as a human you need social interaction. It's incredibly unhealthy and quite the dilema for affected. but anyone who is really affecred by chronical loneliness can't get out of that hole even if they wanted to.

This is what the male loneliness epidemic is about and anyone claiming it's about being single needs to be educated.

GreedyCounty6149 · 2024-01-31T08:06:30+00:00

It's like Diogenes walking around people while holding an oil lamp on broad daylight in search for human beings. He was a homeless dirty hobo who still had principles and thought those around him were the animals. But no pride and certainty on his beliefs could change the fact he was alone and not understood.

Vose4492 · 2024-02-02T00:51:21+00:00

To hear a nuanced and carefully examined explanation as to what loneliness is, from Rachel Oates, click this link ( https://youtu.be/d2yApMSTUNY?si=KJYX2kmna7PUlLYS ).

To hear about the epidemic of loneliness among young people today, check out these links;

https://youtu.be/rQv8VuLpKN4?si=_9eaIGvjMh44Xzch

https://youtu.be/qVKvEaokV6I?si=gFIYUs_3WrWM8GX2

To hear some helpful advice on how to form meaningful connections, check out these links;

https://youtu.be/XoqPL0nczfY?si=zU_eFrZM1o5vBASq

https://youtu.be/6aUm0oxf32g?si=O4pwQb3IfdLZpAn-

Title	Could you discuss what loneliness means to you in your own words? Can you describe a few of your own experiences and feelings with loneliness?
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Date	January 31, 2024 5:42 AM UTC (2 years ago)
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