My sister and I were both abused. The community helped her because she was a girl. They assumed I was ok. They pushed me to go to the military and work. I was encouraged to fight and provide. The world turned its back on me and never cared.

Chama-HUH · 2024-02-06T21:24:28+00:00

Sad situations like this is why I try to be more empathetic and helpful towards my fellow man. Online communities have really exposed me to the actual suffering men face. It’s unfortunate how easily we throw each other under the bus.

luminarium · 2024-02-06T22:56:51+00:00

Agreed. In the west, the only systemic sexism is against men.

yadayadayadaetc · 2024-02-06T22:11:48+00:00

Im sorry man. That reaally sounds horrible

fuckimhigh · 2024-02-07T02:26:33+00:00

I hear you on all of this as a male that was sexually abused. Even when I talk to women that I am emotionally close to that also experienced sexual abuse there's a ceetain level of difference and not quite trivialization, but a lack of understanding and fellowship for lack of a better term.

TisIChenoir · 2024-02-07T14:22:47+00:00

I've been psychologically abused by my depressive alcoholic mother from the age of 12 to the age of about 27. It left me a fucking shell of the boy I was beforehand.

My father stayed with her because he knew if he left, there was a good chance I'd be placed with her. Also, suicide threats from her didn't help

I stayed after I was 18 because I couldn't bear letting him alone with her. And I also felt responsible for her.

Anyway, once, I went to a support group for victims of domestic abuse. I started to talk, but somehow they didn't get that it was my mother's doing. Immediately, people were really supportive.

Quickly told me what my father did to me was not my fault, etc... So I corrected them and said it was my mother who was abusive.

Boy, they went back on their word quick. Only the psychotherapist heading the group was supportive. The rest of the people there all started defending her, saying she was suffering, so it wasn't her fault. Some even tried to pin her abuse on my father ("your father isn't supportive enough, that's why your mother suffers").

That was eye opening to say the least.

UglyDude1987 · 2024-02-07T18:37:02+00:00

This is basically what I've always seen at work. Either it's netural, or women are favored. I've never been anywhere that I saw men being favored over women.

SigmundFreud4200 · 2024-02-09T16:22:42+00:00

What really saddens me is that oftentimes our fellow man would kick us while we're down not realizing if it can happen to one of us it can happen to all of us.

Kautenya · 2024-02-08T19:02:09+00:00

See feminists will claim that it's problem caused by patriarchy, but none of those same feminists will help you when the time comes. They will say "patriarchy hurts men too" and then claim you have to figure solution to this by yourself.

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