Earlier today I read this post here about how women want tall men, because other women want that.
I used to have my doubts about that. Of course status matters, but I thought it was more of a biological thing. But now, I think he's right.
Deep learning models reveal replicable, generalizable, and behaviourally relevant sex differences in human functional brain organization
I read this study on how a trained AI was able to predict with 90% accuracy, whether a brain was male or female. It proves once and for all that men and women really are wired differently. It just came out a week ago and it already has feminists throwing a hissy fit. That's how you know it's legit. Here's a link to the full study btw.
Men are motivated by achievement, women are motivated by social approval.
What especially fascinated me, was that significant and consistent gender differences were found in the parts of the brain that trigger rewards, among other things. This is consistent with other studies, which show that whereas men's reward centers are triggered by achievement, women's reward centers are triggered by social approval. At our core, we are motivated by different things!
Men are less concerned with social norms, conformity, emotional expression...
And are more prone to take risks due to having a proportionally smaller prefrontal cortex. Meanwhile, women have a proportionally much larger one. As a result...
Women are more aware of social norms, more concerned about social conformity...
And on top of that are more risk averse compared to men. They are also more emotionally expressive. This of course we knew. But did you know they can also modulate their emotions far more? This means means they can literally rationalize themselves into reducing emotional impact or even change how they feel about something if the need arises. This is weird if you are motivated by achievement, but makes perfect sense if your goal is to gather social approval!
Anyway, biology is not women's main driver, contrary to what I used to think. It's validation.
Because when you take into account that women are as motivated to gain social approval as men are to achieve things, the status effect that for example dating a tall guy brings, is MUCH more significant than I initially assumed.
Tallness is culturally immensely valued. And especially with the rise of social media, social conformity is at an all-time high.
Women may not be a monolith, but to say they have conformist tendencies, is putting it mildly. And given that one of women's primary sources of social approval is from how attractive her partner is, you get a self-reinforcing thing. Even if biology is at the root of it, women want tall men because other women want tall men, the most popular women all date tall men, which they want because other women want tall men. And so on and so forth.
Meanwhile, short guys have zero positive representation.
Especially nowadays. Even if a short guys IS successful, he gets elevated to "honorary tall"-status.
Like this:
"He may be short, BUT... despite his diminutive stature.... he may not be physically tall, BUT his charisma/wealth/fame/talent etcetera make him a giant."
Obviously, this is because height doesn't matter.
And there's nothing wrong with being short. That's why we associate positive traits with tallness, even in short guys- and negative traits with shortness, even in tall guys.
However, if you look at it from the lens of conformity and social approval- of course women don't want short men.
With the exception of high-performing, highly influential women, for many women their social value is derived from her partner. And being (seen) with short guys therefore makes women look bad. To their friends, their parents, not to mention their social rivals. Of course there's physical attraction to consider. But more importantly, short guys COST women social approval- which for a woman is as valuable as, say, professional achievement is for men. For a woman, dating a short guy is the equivalent of a low-paying job for men.
tl'dr,
Just be famous bro.
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