How do you handle girls testing to see what you've got- developing the alpha male mentality

Keravnos- · 2022-10-07T01:18:11+00:00

I’m gonna be honest here. I’m 33. I’ve heard about “shit tests” all my life. I might be ignorant, but it has never happened to me. And if it did, I’d probably think the girl is a little weird.

Just engage in banter. Be witty.

Single_Composer_7989 · 2022-10-07T04:19:01+00:00

When a girl tests a guy on the initial approach (looks interested-then ignores you completely, "I have a BF", goes up and talks to random guys after you chat, etc) she could be totally ready to say yes to a date but she doesn't indicate any level of interest.

No dude. She's trying to tell you she's not interested while being as polite as possible. She's being polite because chances are she's had experiences with men who can't handle a direct rejection without becoming threatening. Don't take it personally.

If you keep pursuing her despite her obvious hints that she's not interested, I promise you she isn't thinking, "This guy isn't phased by my tests! That's so hot!" Rather, she's thinking, "This guy has really bad social skills and it's creeping me out."

Practical advice: if you ever feel like you're having to "push through," you're wasting your time. Furthermore, if you feel like that in the vast majority of your interactions with women, it's not them; it's you. This is supposed to be mutually fun for both parties.

crocodilehunter34 · 2022-10-07T07:13:10+00:00

whenever i tell men i have a boyfriend when i don’t it’s because they seem weird and like they won’t handle it well and possibly could get overworked & angry :/

OrzhovPalatine · 2022-10-07T02:09:04+00:00

Standard practice is always dismiss the shit test with something witty and carry on with the encounter as if nothing happened.

Do you push through those "tests" and keep escalating even if shes dull faced after she looks at you hard and smiles?

Yes. Keep in mind It's literally a leap of faith. You will not know how you're doing until you experience her response in real time and then adjust on the spot or cut your losses.

If shes responding well, keep doing what you're doing, if she isnt change tactics. How do you do this? By fucking up and gaining frames of reference.

This tends to be a stopping point for me and I'd like to keep pushing through towards a number/date

Understand OP that you WILL crash and burn and that's fine. The only way to get good at this game is to fuck up constantly, dust yourself off and readjust.

You will creep girls out, be cringey, whiney, clingy etc etc. Its how you learn to not do those things.

RedditsOlderBrah · 2022-10-07T01:05:22+00:00

i have no memory of a woman ever 'testing' me in any way

keep escalating even if shes dull faced after she looks at you hard and smiles?

you will be pushing towards a sexual harassment / assault charge. what the absolute fuck.

James_Cruse · 2022-10-09T13:32:20+00:00

The point of women testing you is to see if you’re put off balance by her negativity towards you. If you’re affected by the negativity of a woman half your weight and size, than on a subconscious level, she doesn’t view you as a strong, confident masculine man.

Women need to know if they’re dealing with a guy that has unshakeable confidence and belief in himself and his worth. They need to know if his validation of himself is internal and can’t be removed, or hesitated when a woman you don’t even know jabs and pokes at it with her words.

Just confidently keep going - and have fun with it. Girls test men they actually like so take it as a sign she’s very interested in you and she wants to know if she should invest more of her time and herself in you.

Girls can’t really tell your character unless they test it or know people that know you and know your character (social proof), so they save their time and test.

Women will test you by being rude, insulting, jabbing at you or alot of the genuinely nice girls will test you by just pretending to be boring - because being boring and giving few answers can be done for hours but being hostile or bitchy or rude, girls run out of steam after less than 10 mins, then they almost flip completely to being nice, sweet and agreeable.

I’ve found really attractive women test by being really boring. How do I know? Because several of them I kept seeing and surprise - they weren’t boring when I met them again - it was a shit test.

Now, this is different to a rejection. A woman will reject you by walking away or just dismissing you and moving on somewhere else and removing herself from the situation - let her go if that’s the case.

James_Cruse · 2022-10-09T13:21:28+00:00

No they’re not - you don’t cold approach women so you have no idea.

zapadz · 2022-10-06T23:35:40+00:00

Here are videos on handling tests

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SmTl02-L7bY

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MTQJy1lV7v8

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EpozXn8ln-Y

2022-10-07T04:21:46+00:00

The point of the shit test is to expose who you really are.

zertsetzung · 2022-10-07T05:50:03+00:00

"Do you push through those "tests" and keep escalating even if shes dull faced after she looks at you hard and smiles?"

If you fucking suck at escalating, then absolutely. How else are you going to learn where the line is if you dont cross it?

2022-10-07T10:11:26+00:00

I guess the answer is playfulness. You need to learn to handle any social situation. Be present and pay attention to the mood. You can react to that in many different ways. depending on the actual dynamics between you, Just don't get offended and keep your casual frame.

Thisrandomweirdo · 2022-10-09T05:32:17+00:00

Oh god please dont bring the "alpha male" bullshit into this. There are no tests and "alpha males" are just overly confident incels.

MissionAd399 · 2022-10-10T19:00:41+00:00

Pretty much I’m staying in the interaction till she walks away, after that she can run off, onto the next for me. If I approach and she just ignores or says I have a boyfriend, onto the next. I game on the most popular club/bar street in my city so there are way too many women to be even wasting time with someone not interested or playing too much games

Title	How do you handle girls testing to see what you've got- developing the alpha male mentality
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Date	October 6, 2022 11:31 PM UTC (3 years ago)
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