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[–][deleted] 13 points14 points15 points 3 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
I just reply whenever the fcuk i can, if i can in the moment, i stop myself for a moment to rethink what i write - other than that you are over-complicating.
[–]EllieLovesJoel 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
, i stop myself for a moment to rethink what i write
And how long is that moment
[–][deleted] 3 points4 points5 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
It varies -minutes- you are thinking toooo much.
I only use text for setting concise actions - dates, meet you. I don't have lengthy conversations over text. I actually call the person and setup a meet and keep it short.
So much emotion and opportunity is lost over text/voice....
[–]Mc_Dickles 13 points14 points15 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Just reply when you want and accept the fact that things move at HER pace. If she wants you around, she will keep replying, no matter what speed, fast or slow. Girls that don't want you around will simply not respond. This sub needs to get rid of this idea that they gotta do a special move or time their actions juuuust right to get the girl. Nope.
[–]MO_drps_knwldg 11 points12 points13 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Mirror her behavior.
[–]A_Successful_Loser 5 points6 points7 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
You gotta be a bit mysterious. It's part of the game, and it's stupid as hell, but it does work. You shouldn't always reply right away. It also adds pressure to the other person and makes them feel like they need to reply faster.
[–]Galized 3 points4 points5 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Change the pause between your messages continuously. Sometimes be super fast. In other occasions wait deliberately for some minutes. From time to time, wait for hours. Girls can be attracted by curiosity. And the more unpredictable you are, the more they'll stay stuck with the idea.
[–]epilamun 2 points3 points4 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Unfortunately so man, I have the same curse
[–]lostmymuse 2 points3 points4 points 3 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
You’re never too busy doing something to think about your phone? That’s the real culprit.
[–]EllieLovesJoel -1 points0 points1 point 3 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Yeah I'm rarely doing something that's absolutely left both my hands and mind occupied. As I said even if I'm studying even and hear my phone go off I'll reply cuz the person needs soemthing and I won't be an asshole and reply 2 hours later jus cuz I'm studying .and I don't really work yet so yeah
[–]lostmymuse 3 points4 points5 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Ahh ok. Turn your vibrations off.
[–]CapableProperty3959 2 points3 points4 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
bro ur intentions are outstanding, I am also like you. However, replying within a min after getting the msg will decrease your vaule not only in her sight but also ur friends will feel the same. All of them will think that you are for them each and every time. And then they will start using you as a toy.
And understand the difference between liking her & loving her. If you are just attracted towards her then this will lead you to detrimental results after somtime.
[–][deleted] 2 points3 points4 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
If you get too excited for her giving you an attention, then it may become an issue. Otherwise, just do what you want.
[–]TomHutch1 1 point2 points3 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Sometimes this happens to me. Also I’ll question and second guess myself of what to say back.
But here’s the thing.
If you’re looking for wife material, not just sex, then remember this. If it’s meant to be, nothing I do will screw it up. Texting back to soon, waiting too long, saying the wrong thing, etc. if you’re vibing together, you can do very little thinking and still have a good text convo that you’re happy with.
And by extension, if it upsets you now that she takes long to reply, then you’ll hate it more after a couple years together. (Again this is assuming you want wife material)
If you’re just looking to score, just do and say what makes her take her clothes off. 😂 - if that’s your goal, then don’t reply quick. Let her chase you a little too.
[–]TheTruth221 1 point2 points3 points 3 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
rule of pinky is to wait the same amount of time + 25 minutes
[–]EllieLovesJoel 2 points3 points4 points 3 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Don't you think that's kinda petty?
[–][deleted] 4 points5 points6 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
It doesnt matter. Reply whenever. Guys who think their texting intervals are why the girl dropped interest are the most clueless and misinformed dudes. They will blame a totally irrelevant subject to avoid acknowledging the other factors (some of which out of your control)
[–]zapadz 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1oLNXJqSRyU
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BuvK9BjSO6o
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[–]EllieLovesJoel 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
Because you’re thinking about her. Why? Because she takes her sweet time.
Not really? The one thing that makes me not think about her is her late replies. It's the one thing that made me lose interest before. I think about her because I'm attracted to her and I'm attracted to her because we see eachother alot at uni and I know her personality and her interests which match mine thus attraction.
But I do get your first point about leaving time for her to think about me.
But at the end of the day, it's all a stupid fuckin game and I hate it lmao
[–]PB0034 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
If you see Her at uni she probably not interested in you and not tryna lead you on. That’s just my guess
[–]EllieLovesJoel 1 point2 points3 points 3 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
What lmao? So shes gonna hide from me if she's interested?
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[–]EllieLovesJoel 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
You said if I see her uni then she's probably not interested. So if I don't see her at uni she's interested? What are you on about bro, we share classes, that's how uni works. How would I not see her
[–]PB0034 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Bro… “If you see her at uni (and still taking her sweet time TEXTING YOU) she’s not interested in you..not tryna lead you on. That’s my guess.”
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