Hello guys. I'm writing this text in a moment of frustration mixed with insomnia.
These days I feel like I reached the worst phase of my life and I don't see much of a light or a drop of hope in changing my actual position, so somehow I would like to share a hit of my story and listen some feedback from you.
A bit of context... I live in Europe, I'm on my early thirties, I always had been a more shy and introvert kind of guy (mostly with girls), but I think I have some decent communication skills, I'm probably on my best physical shape ever, people tell me I'm a likeable person and I also receive some nice feedbacks about my sense of humour. The thing it's like, being honest, I see myself as a pretty decent "pack", I know that I'm not pretty or really attractive guy, but I think I kinda compensate in some other points. The thing it's that these days I have strong feeling that everything on dating it's all about looks and high status, everything else seems that doesn't matter anymore. As I mentioned before, I'm shy, and I created this limiting belief that I'm not good enough to approach girls on the street, bars or clubs, mostly because I'm not really attractive. So usually I depend on dating apps to meet new people and trying to get some dates. I have a match here and there, but it seems so hard to transform this matches in dates, and even if I get dates, these days, I'm not able to go along with the interactions after it.
To get worst, I live surrounded with really attractive friends which seems that these guys can just pick up girls from anywhere and anytime. It's so hard for me these days going out on a coffee with them and listen consecutively their stories about getting girls trying to get something with them, it seems everything so easy and effortless. And for me, even I try to be better in all areas of my life, it just seems that I'm getting more and more "invisible" to girls and my life it's going on a down spiral that it seems that I will never find a solution for this. I'm so tired of feeling that nothing I do it's enough, that my self-esteem it's getting lower and lower, and just for the fact that I'm not super attractive and I'm shy, life it's just way harder and "tastless". I don't wanna bang all the girls I meet or whatever, but it's so frustrating to feel that I'm just not able to attract a girl these days, it's totally destroying my confidence and self-esteem.
I just felt like write and sharing this, would at least take from me some of the pressure and disappointment I feel these days.
Would be great to listen some insights from you guys.
Thanks and sorry for long post.
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