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[–]MywarUK 4 points5 points6 points 3 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
This normal dude, and can happen to anyone, don’t blame your self for this nor your daily routine. Sometimes excitement can do the opposite effect. It’s not always about how it feels down below to keep an erection, its also the frame of mind you’re in, and from reading your post it seems your mind set was somewhere else. Worrying about it will make it worse, try and ease that 👌
Edit: also to add, some women blame them selfs that a man can’t get hard, and we also know thats not true, but it also damages them. If you have never been with a woman who couldn’t get wet, you’ll know that feeling, can just happen.
[–]urban_fantast 4 points5 points6 points 3 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I am trying not to worry about it too much. But yeah, I need to bounce back from this.
[–]MywarUK 2 points3 points4 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
And you will, I’ve been there, I’ve even been laughed at about it, I chose to never see that person again nor did I care if she told anyone. Its life 👌
[–]DontCallMeTopher 2 points3 points4 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Quit jacking off and save your juice for when you have a woman in front of you, you will never have this problem again
[–]BW2Dat 5 points6 points7 points 3 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
Happens sometimes man really nothing to beat yourself up about. Your masturbation habits might be the issue, cut that number way back! At least once per day is way too much. 3x per week is a lot. It’s not just the physical act but the mental conditioning. Smoke on it
[–]urban_fantast 2 points3 points4 points 3 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
I appreciate your words so much
[–]BW2Dat 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
No problem man, have you spoken to her since?
[–]urban_fantast 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
It happened yesterday night. We went out in the evening and it was clear that she was going through something else and her friends were trying to reach her. So after our failed attempt in bed, she very politely and hesitantly told me if she could have some privacy to call her friends. I left her alone and Ubered back home. That's when it hit me and I started feeling very conscious. I called her today morning, with the intention to see if she was okay and processed whatever she was going through. But i guess it is early in the day, and I was sent straight to voice mail. She hasn't called back.
Edit: I am thinking if I should text her and let her know why I called?
[–]BW2Dat 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Completely missed the part of it being last night, give her some space to sort things out mentally. Id wait till Monday at the minimum before reaching out again. If she wants to talk to you she knows you called and will return it if interested. Usually after a date I’d wait till she texts/calls first then set the next date. It’s ok to take it slowly for multiple reasons.
[–]urban_fantast 1 point2 points3 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
That sounds like the right thing to do here. I'll wait for her to reach out to me, and then see how things proceed. Thank you for putting me at ease.
[–]dick_head4life 3 years ago [recovered] (1 child) | Copy Link
Literally laugh it off. Thinking about it any other way will continue to cause you anxiety. It’s no big deal and it happens to everyone at least once.
[–]urban_fantast 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I was laughing it off until I was very politely and hesitantly asked to leave. She wanted to call her best friend to discuss some issues and wanted the privacy. But I guess that made me kinda conscious. But I appreciate your support .
[–]Allaiyah 2 points3 points4 points 3 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
The key in these situations is to accept it and show (and feel) no shame whatsoever. I usually just double down on foreplay, giving her more orgasms etc.
Also for me, I can usually still jack myself off even when I can't really stay hard. So I'll usually just explain that and ask to cum all over them.
Last time this happened to me I ended giving her countless orgasms and she said it was one of the best experiences she's had in the bedroom. Obviously she came back for more.
I really believe embarrassment is a self fulfilling prophecy. It's such a palpable emotion and it's super unattractive. Just accept what's happening and make the most of it.
[–]urban_fantast 3 years ago [recovered] (1 child) | Copy Link
It took me by surprise since it's the first time it happened to me (even though I do not have a lot of experience honestly), but I surely feel better now and will be ready next time.
[–]Allaiyah 1 point2 points3 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Great attitude!
[–]MrHouseGang 2 points3 points4 points 3 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
U did no wrong. It happens. Ur prolly young and taking in all this Alpha make self help BS. Bro my girl reassured me like this all the time and after a year of figuring things out we both orgasm consistently. Take your time
[–]urban_fantast2 points 3 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link
[–]sincere_blasphemy 2 points3 points4 points 3 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Hey, it’s all good! As you said, there are many reasons why you could have lost your erection. Stress, anxiety, and alcohol are all big ones. It’s normal! Don’t sweat it.
It sounds like the woman you are sleeping with is kind about it, which is great. Give her some time or support with what she’s going through and when you are both ready, try again! You can always be honest with her. You can tell her that you weren’t sure what happened there, but you’d like to try again. Good luck man!
[–]urban_fantast3 points 3 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link
Yeah, hopefully I get another shot or something. Appreciate your words.
[–]Majestic_Meal_5655 1 point2 points3 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Dude either you been spanking the money to much prior to the sex encounter, you had performance anxiety or didn't really find the girl sexually arousing. Unless you have a medical problem. These are the reasons why I've had similar issues. Sometimes you can't get hard if the vibe is off.
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