Is approaching considered beta?

Chief_Leji · 2018-03-09T17:42:01+00:00

False. You see something you want and you go for it. That's an "alpha"/masculine trait. This applies to all areas of your life. To be passive and wait for things to come to you is to be feminine.

blackedoutfast · 2018-03-09T19:31:00+00:00

In being an alpha, girls should in theory come to you?

idk where some of you guys are getting the idea that it's beta or bad to approach. you're a man. if you want to get laid it's your job to approach.

very very few girls will directly approach a guy even if she is very attracted to him. when a girl "approaches" a guy that usually just means she moves closer to him and starts showing IOIs. she just makes it easy for him to approach.

all this "don't approach, it's beta / bad frame / giving her validation" is just guys trying to find an excuse to avoid dealing with their approach anxiety. or some retarded incel /MGTOW faggotry.

RPLawyer · 2018-03-09T18:20:44+00:00

The key element lacking in your post that is also the refutation to your assertion is abundance mentality. Your mindset should be that by approaching a woman, you give her the opportunity of hanging out with you and possibly having sex with you which, in a biological sense, means giving her access to your superior genes. She is not the prize, you are. Because you are confident, you lift, you dress well, you have a nice haircut, you're clean. Finally, if she rejects you, I doesn't matter because there are millions of girls who might potentially get with you while she's missing out. So you do not get butthurt, not even internally, you smile and you tell her to have a nice day because she doesn't matter.

That's the proper, alpha mindset when cold approaching.

SkippyBoyTx · 2018-03-09T20:38:08+00:00

Lots of good advice already here. I would say also that instead of seeing your approach as giving her the power, you can be confident and she can join you or not.

"Would you like to go out some time? Can I have your number?" Asking for permission.

"You should go out with me. We should exchange numbers." Statements of fact.

See the difference? Don't ask her, tell her.

ShesLikeOMG · 2018-03-09T23:02:02+00:00

my mindset: yes being "unavailable" is attractive, however being unavailable does not get you laid. if you want to fuck a girl then at some point she needs to actually know you want to fuck her. There's no seamless transition where you just end up with your dick inside her.

Ricklogical · 2018-03-09T18:44:13+00:00

Women desire to be led. It would be beta for you to expect them to come to you, like your mommy does and take care of everything for you.

IronJohnKwando · 2018-03-10T03:05:20+00:00

what

CKDubs · 2018-03-10T10:18:47+00:00

No it isn't beta. Just because you approach her doesn't mean you're lowering your frame, it just means she has something you want and you're going to go get it. When you go to Burger King to get a whopper do you think that this is emasculating? No, it just means that you're hungry and crave a burger. Going out and getting what you want is the essence of being alpha. Sure in a perfect world women would come to you because what you have to offer them is infinitely more valuable then what they have to offer you, but unfortunately we live in THIS world and women don't do the approaching. So go do ya thing man.

Title	Is approaching considered beta?
Author	revaforce
Upvotes	2
Comments	14
Date	March 9, 2018 5:33 PM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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