What was it like moving out at 18 and having the college experience?

borderline_autistic1 · 2022-06-20T23:19:09+00:00

My college experience was so bad that it made me contemplate suicide because I didn't have the balls to try and go after the experiences I wanted.

Life is what you make it. It's not too late to change things for yourself for the better

BlancheCorbeau · 2022-06-20T22:57:11+00:00

Lol.

You’re imagining a lot of weird things.

Most kids’ “magical college move out” doesn’t give them independence - just an escape from parental scrutiny enabling them to fuck up big time with a group of similarly stupid late teens, and survive it as both proof that sweating the small stuff is a waste, and a bonding networking experience.

You can still get all that. And why are you assuming you’ll hang with people your age? Nobody has friends lining up at their door, regardless of age. They’re just put in a controlled environment filled with the similarly clueless, which IS a kind of ice breaker… but that’s it. Again, totally replicable in the late 20s.

That said, just consider looking for a friend group that’s ten years up and down from you, and you’ll do just fine. Late 20s people fit in at every table. You’re not an old creeper, or a too-young ambitious snot. If YOU make it clear you’re supposed to be there, no one will doubt you.

Stop getting in your own head and in your own way so much. Just start from where you’re at, be present in public now and then, get good at something, and the rest will sort itself out just fine.

SkeetSkeet123hj · 2022-06-20T23:32:10+00:00

Well what are you looking for then? The users above you have both given you advice and their own personal experiences to help you and you respond with a negative victim like responses. You either go get after it in life or wallow in your self pity. You have it a lot better than lots of people out there, create your own life and stop being an energy vampire

2022-06-21T00:07:21+00:00

Throw any rationality out of the window and boom, you’re 18 again.

In all seriousness, I think you are stopping your own fun.

2022-06-21T01:11:10+00:00

An extended series of fuckups and bad decisions that got me legal, academic, and social problems. And not laid. I lived the entire bad side of the party lifestyle with none of the benefits.

But nah, I get what you feel. You'll never have that dumbass 19-20 year old love of sleeping in cars and tents and festivals and surviving on ramen and mountain dew for weeks at a time.

I mean, you could chase it, find yourself some 19 year old. Or you can do the late 20s equivalent. Theoretically, you got something to work with, right? Having lived at home and saved on rent?

grindforthegold · 2022-06-21T01:25:22+00:00

you can lie about your age and move close to a school dude you’re still young meet people go to college events fuck it, once you’re 29 you can give up but i partied plenty with college people at 26 ngl

2022-06-21T04:52:36+00:00

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CvlEng_2021 · 2022-06-21T06:36:45+00:00

WTF is this post. Dude, you have some of the most weirdest views - "women are only great between ages 18-22"? I get that you get regret not getting the college experience, but the desperation is weird and you can still have great experiences post college. TRUST ME.

You sound Hella depressed, and if that is the case - SEEK HELP FROM A PROFESSIONAL.

You make it sound like that you got nothing going for. What about your job situation, hobbies, gym etc.? Working on these things first might help you gain more confidence as these are things you have control over. Save up some money and move out if that is what you desire. It might do you good to move far so that you can start from fresh in a place where no one knows you, if you are afraid of people you know opinion.

Title	What was it like moving out at 18 and having the college experience?
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Date	June 20, 2022 10:49 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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