Asked a girl to dance then didn't know what to do

garnageman · 2022-06-11T17:03:13+00:00

with dancing, the idea is to enjoy yourself. did you actually want to dance or did you just want an excuse to get close to a hot girl? if you dance for yourself you don't have to worry about that kind of thing

srosete · 2022-06-11T17:27:59+00:00

Dancing as a first move may work, but I think is more suited for experienced guys who can actually feel the situation really well and act accordingly, which is not your case at the moment.

In a party environment, even with loud music, I would generally do the following steps:

approach: you seem to do this step pretty well already, but always do a front approach. Works better with previous confident eye contact and smiling.
the talk: I like to have something brief and funny under the sleeve. Some cold read (f.e if she has black painted nails: I saw you before and was wondering, what brings a gothic to an EDM party?) or a random joke will do. Again, make it funny and short since she can barely hear you probably
If it is working, go out: If she shows interest and responds well, you go for the "the music is too loud here, wanna go out and talk?" thing. If she accepts, I would even try to hold hands to lead her out.

And boom, with this approach now you are in a much more comfortable setting for both the girl and you, and now you know she is interested. With all of this setup done and if the mood is right, THEN you ask her for a dance, which will serve you to escalate.

Edit 1: I forgot about the "unresponsive girl" request. This may be due to different reasons. Maybe she has no actual interest, or she is not vibing for any reason, or she is just awkward or shy, or the mafia is behind her, we don't know. The best way to find out is asking her about it, specially if it is happening during a date, but in a first encounter you are probably better off moving to the next chick who isn't being weird.

2022-06-11T18:02:03+00:00

I just avoid dancing at all costs because I suck at it

focus_flow69 · 2022-06-11T22:10:26+00:00

Pretty common expeirnece asking girls to dance when you have litlr experience.

If she didn't say no, that means she was at least ok with you in her personal space and possibly touching. The problem is most girls are shy or anxious about the overall approach, so they rely on the guy to lead the interaction.

The problem is when the guy is also hesitant and waiting for a positive reaction from the girl to start making moves. Which will never come because she's waiting for the man to lead. This awkwardness and no one leading generally makes the overall interaction stale and fizzle out.

The solution is to just dance and enjoy yourself. Smile. Dance. Be high energy. Encourage her to dance and dance to her rhythm or encourage her to dance to yours. Grab her hands and dance to the beat. Spin her aorund. Pull her in and out. Does the thought of this terrify you? Are you going to tell me you don't know how to dance? Well, tough luck, better learn on the fly or practice a bit before hand. Just do it. Even if you are scared. Just lead and do it and act like you've done it a million times before. Just do it. If she doesn't go along with it, take it as a rejection and just keep dancing on your own.

DisastrousLion4995 · 2022-06-12T00:37:18+00:00

Her “uh ok” response likely was her being confused as to why you stepped away at first showing your hesitation. Inviting a girl to dance immediately without hesitation is absolutely effective. Physically guide her to go right into grinding on you rather than face to face dancing. Having a girl grind on you to the beat of the music is the easiest and most intimate way to dance with a girl. Tell the guy next to you to grind with her friend so her friend doesn’t feel left out and want to pull your girl away to leave

OWSucks · 2022-06-11T17:16:41+00:00

You asked a girl to dance who was already dancing.

Title	Asked a girl to dance then didn't know what to do
Author	spoolrek
Upvotes	13
Comments	9
Date	June 11, 2022 4:45 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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