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2022-05-14T14:53:45+00:00

Can’t make her do anything. That shit has to happen naturally. Just keeping doing you and go with the flow, especially since she’s inexperienced. It’ll work out if it’s supposed to.

TheNextBigCrash · 2022-05-14T15:34:42+00:00

The current advice you’ve been given is, quite honestly, shit. Here’s my 2 cents:

You probably already know the answer to your own question. There’s no need to manipulate her, and for gods sake be honest about your intentions with her. If she’s inexperienced, she doesn’t want her first to be with some guy that ghosts her after sex when she thought there’d be a relationship. Honestly is key for building trust here.

Secondly, in terms of actually allowing her to open up to you, just keep being confident, yet reserved. No need to pounce on her. Just escalate gradually, find her boundaries, respect them, but continue to be a good leader and good company.

Edit: and in terms of dates, just have fun with them. Let her get to know you, arcades are great for kino and getting close to each other for instance.

If she is genuinely inexperienced (as in, she isn’t lying) then the only GOOD way to go further with her is to allow her to trust you. Sure, you can give her some wine, or manipulate her with mind games, but the ONLY way that I, personally, would feel morally comfortable with it is just by being a good person for her to learn with. She isn’t a game for you to complete the final level of as fast as possible; she’s a person that (as much as this sub would disagree) deserves respect as far as your intentions to lay her are concerned.

Thin_Protection5616 · 2022-05-14T14:51:52+00:00

Jesus no on the 'fun dates.' You're not going to be able to escalate at all at the putt putt golf course.(friendzoned or put on the slow pace to sex)

The key with this is to hold back the pace and steps of escalation. You need to balance making her feel like she wants to go forward hereself while also making her feel comfortable with you as a something like a sexual teacher, if that makes sense. She kinda has to feel safe and comfortable with you, not on some dumb 'he likes the same books as me level' (-frz'd again) She needs to be comfortable with you on a physical/kinesthetic as well as emotional and later sexual level. So you need to introduce the elements of that very clearly but at a pace and level she's comfortable with while getting her to herself desire to take it up to the next level.

Hope that helps.

annonyGer · 2022-05-14T17:06:21+00:00

You cant open her up. She can do it upon your confidence and domination. BUT, if that didnt happen so far, it is gonna be this way for years... Trust me. Shes not gonna open up and start kissing you like a wild animal. Oh, and consider waiting for sex... For a long time. Same to a kiss, just MUCH WORSE.

Soft-Durian3245 · 2022-05-14T15:03:48+00:00

To start with you’ve gotta be patient. This is something to learn and won’t be easy…..but it will pay dividends. If she claims to be inexperienced then she probably is and yeah that’s gonna be a real turn-on for you but again, be patient. On dates, take her to places where physical intimacy isn’t on the agenda I.e. restaurant, browsing at the shops, a picnic at the park. This will allow her to relax with you and feel that she’s getting to know you. Here you can hold hands, enjoy brief closeness with it feeling for her like it gonna get heavier than she’s comfortable with. Play it cool but interested, keep the tension there. She”ll love if she feels your in control - not controlling but in control. As you do get “closer” only go 80% of the distance allowing her to cover the other 20% towards you. As well as her feeling that it’s at her pace it’ll also be a form of foreplay ( women love long, drawn out anticipation) which will get her more “up for it” when the times right. Remember there’s a lot of curiosity in her but also a lot of uncertainty as well. Once she feels sure that your not gonna judge her, compare her to your ex’s or disappear she’ll begin to open up. Also alcohol helps, a couple of glasses of wine can go along, long way - sometimes it’s referred to as “liquid panty remover”. Alcohol works to bring down inhibition in both men and women but in women it also works as an aphrodisiac. Good luck

kiramdahanett · 2022-05-14T14:44:34+00:00

Being introverted & nerdy has nothing to do with hooking up .

in fact the shy nerdy girls are hornier & easier to get laid.

you're just afraid of escalation , it happens to me on a regular basis dating a girl who doesn't talk that much , turns red when i say some sexual shit & has a super low voice but 15 minutes later she's riding my dick in car .

SnooHesitations4922 · 2022-05-14T16:04:54+00:00

Common knowledge dictates if the woman is being closed off that she isn't attracted to the guy, but we have to keep in mind that each individual is different and this ain't always the case. A girl that is kind of shy or inexperienced needs balance, and an escalation that takes more time and less pressure, let it go at her pace, but make clear how you feel and you won't wait forever but you will give the right time.. it ain't like with an experienced extrovert where u need to go full on alpha gorilla and go at your pace or bust.

OddFill8336 · 2022-05-14T16:54:00+00:00

Make her laugh. Everyone let go of their defenses when laughing. Your options are: Make her laugh Make kissing a funny game Be goofy around her Just tell her you want to kiss her, a simple kiss, and be confident about it

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