How do you get over an intense fear of rejection?

kiramdahanett · 2022-05-04T11:30:01+00:00

You're not obsessed with game . lebron james is not afraid of failing 5000 attempts every year front of thousands of people , why should a player worry about getting rejected by random girls then?

daring_innovator · 2022-05-04T12:14:52+00:00

Rejection is not a direct attack to your True self, you’re a an amazing human being. Yes, we’re all afraid of rejection to an extent. We want to feel liked by others and accepted. But you cannot feel rejected if you have inner strength & self esteem + self confidence. But nevertheless there is still a way to become strong.

It starts by not giving a fuck what others think about you & being Indifferent comes from the Abundance mindset. Its getting rejected by one girl and not giving a fuck because you have 5-20 other girls in line anyway. It’s letting your nuts hang, walking around like a king knowing you can be successful & win anything. Its knowing you could fuck any women in the world if you want, you’ll just approach her with no qualms & you know she’s begging for your cum.

Confidence is having your own back & feeling more than worthy of intimacy & you could achieve anything you set your mind to. Confidence is not “they will like me.” Instead, confidence is “I’ll be fine if they don’t.”

It’s feeling like you are the most sexy, most fucking irresistible, promiscuous man in the world, almost like a walking Sex God/Adonis. And girls would be lucky to even be near your presence. YOU ARE THE PRIZE, do you have any idea how powerful you are to a woman if you develop yourself?? Do you realize how much value you have? I bet you don’t, yet. You’re literally brainwashed to think you’re of less value, no. You’re a fucking god to them. You don’t know how valuable you really are. You’re the prize, flip the script. You’re the prize. You’re the prize. Even if they don’t show it, some wont admit it out loud, they don’t want you know you’re the prize because you take back all the power and they get scared of that. It’s not paying attention because attention PAYS me. It’s saying bitch what can you do for me? “What value do I bring to the table? I bring the whole table & more but this isn’t about me dear, the question is what can you do you daddy?”

It’s developing: Inner game, mastering your money, find your purpose, building up your character/fighting back your demons, working out, being good to yourself, setting and achieving goals, being somebody in this life. Do you have any idea how powerful this is??

Rejection is just feedback from the girl. See girls are like mirrors, they’re the most honest feedback a guy could receive about himself. Whatever the guy sees in himself the girl will reflect. You get over rejection by ACTIVELY getting rejected over 100 times, yes you’ll feel like shit at first but after a lot of tries you start to become desensitized almost numb to it. And then after that the world is yours. You start the path to growth.

Lastly, the key is to wake up from the lies & realize the truth that you’re so fucking valuable if you develop yourself up, don’t believe them man they’re lying to you & they’ve been lying to you all along. They want to you believe you are lower than them, NO it’s not true you’re a god you can do this. If nobody else believes in you, just know I DO.

MistyMaisel · 2022-05-04T14:53:16+00:00

Think of rejection like food. Have you ever looked at something and thought, "that's fine, it just isn't what I want to eat". Probably, right. We've all had that moment when we wanted pasta, but still think burgers are a fine ass food.

It's the same with dating, romance, and humans except we tend to be more picky and moody. I've rejected lots of guys that just weren't pasta. It doesn't mean I think hamburgers are ugly or horrid. It doesn't mean I don't want hamburgers to find love. It just means that I, personally, am looking for pasta and if you aren't pasta then I don't wanna eat you.

And the thing is, I get it stings because you thought that they were your pasta...but your pasta is going to be just as into you as you are into them. Anything else wouldn't be a good meal. And once you accept both of these facts, hopefully you don't have to be afraid.

Acid_In_My_Eyes · 2022-05-04T11:27:19+00:00

This is a very very interesting question. There's a excercise you got to do .. meditate(zone out everything and and focus on your memories) and figure out the incidences in your childhood where your younger self got rejected or neglected.. walk through the pain.. release it ...

In short, you got to do the shadow work as designed by Carl Jung.

jsbach123 · 2022-05-04T14:03:55+00:00

Rejection will always sting and you cannot rid it completely. But if you have lots of women and prospects in your life, it'll sting a lot less. So make sure you always broaden your social horizons.

Artist-in-Residence- · 2022-05-04T15:11:05+00:00

Hmmm...I need more info and context. Could you tell me how you got rejected by this person in your past? What happened, what was the situation, what did she say etc?

DeliberatelyInsane · 2022-05-04T17:18:36+00:00

I had acrophobia. To beat that, I’d go to the roof of high rises and stand as close to the parapet as I could get myself to. The next time I’d try to get an inch closer.

Today I can stand on the parapet for a long ass while.

2022-05-04T20:02:34+00:00

You don’t get over it. You just move on and eventually time heals all wounds.

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