How to accept having low SMV for a while?

rico_montoya · 2014-03-15T03:15:54+00:00

College freshman here. After lurking around The Red Pill for a while and observing it in the real world, I have realized that the only chicks I'm going to be scoring with are obese ones with apple fetishes that will use my dick as a dildo while they fantasize about better guys.

Right out of the gate man. Why so hard on yourself? You're projecting insecurity. What's going on man?

monsieurhire2 · 2014-03-15T02:56:04+00:00

The beta thing to do would have been to give her the right answers. Some would have done it to win her friendship; others would have done out of fear of her disapproval. You did neither. Pat on the back for a job well done.

Modified_Hackware · 2014-03-15T06:07:36+00:00

The danger is with this attitude is that you're going to coast and wait for some magical SMV fund to mature in your favour that is not going to happen.

Try not to think of it as "I have low SMV now, oh well it will get better".

You and others I think, need to realise that whilst your SMV does go up over time. It only changes relative to what other men are doing around you.

You got a $100k job at 25? Good for you bro.

She's still banging the guy who earns $150k, plays guitar and has a better body than you.

Always be improving.

richard84 · 2014-03-15T03:59:03+00:00

lift weights and your SMV will visibly raise within 6 months

2014-03-15T10:56:25+00:00

You do not have to accept low SMV results today, whilst praying for high SMV results tomorrow - in truth what you are doing by saying "I accept I'm low SMV" is saying "I will accept low SMV behavior from myself for now".

You have to hold yourself to a higher standard. Just because you may be awkward, out of shape, whatever your specific issue is, does not mean that you have to act in the behaviors associated with a low SMV male. Behave in a manner befitting a high SMV male - it won't magically make you one, but it is a start.

Fuck this stupid "men spike in their 30s, therefore I will play my beta role until I finish my doctorate and start making money!". I cannot stand this TRP mentality - you can and should be fucking since the day you hit 15, end of story. It's always a good time to become high SMV, because ultimately, you are perceived as how you perceive yourself. For example, in my high school, there was a fat band kid, low SMV compared to the jocks and whatnot, but he somehow had an inflated sense of confidence. He had no problem scooping the cute band girls because he didn't believe he had to BEHAVE like a fat band geek. SMV in college, where no one is really employed and girls are only looking for cool guys or guys connected to a certain scene... is just a function self esteem + social skills. You're already taking steps to fix your social issues, but look at how you are talking about yourself? Fix you're self esteem man, you need to believe that you're capable of results now.

If you believe it will take you until 30 to start plowing the pussy you want, it will take until then. If you believe after 3 months of hard work you will be a completely new you, and someone who can get a decent plate or two... well, I have seen worse off guys than you make bigger transformations, so I know it's possible.

creatineboss · 2014-03-15T08:39:07+00:00

God dammit, if the god damn balding ginger prince RSD Tyler can pull; then so can you. "I know for a fact that I'm low SMV", fuck that shit; your a sick cunt if you want to be bro. Stop walking around with the defeatist attitude that you aren't good enough, you are good enough. Rome wasn't built in a day, and neither is your life. The failures of today will be the victories of tomorrow, but not if you carry on this pussy ass little victim mentality.

http://www.thes4p.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/07/im-fat-lets-party.jpg

LOOK AT THIS FUCKING GUY HUH, do you think he gives a shit? little fat boy with some boobies, no; he's been a fucking sick cunt because he wants to be. Now I'm a little drunk but i can tell you right now, there is no such thing as failure just reference experiences.

2014-03-15T06:12:56+00:00

Accept having low SMV? Look where you are posting. You don't accept having low SMV. You reject it and do everything in your power to raise it.

Hate the world and hate yourself for listening. Work out and burn through all the accumulated beta in your system. Scorn the world and impose your rule around you. Be not the best that you can be, but better.

Hate is energy. Anger is fuel. Use it and propell yourself into a better tomorrow.

foghorn19 · 2014-03-15T04:11:39+00:00

So yeah, it looks like I'm going to be low SMV for my college years.

What do the 20% men who get 90% of the pussy have that you don't?

Mostly attitude.

down_with_whomever · 2014-03-15T02:54:27+00:00

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KyfhoMyoba · 2014-03-15T03:36:21+00:00

Low SMV only lasts as long as you lack belief in yourself. Change that shit NOW. Don't wait. Be outcome independent right fucking now. Eliminate negative affect NOW. Aaaaaaand you're alpha.

Roshnar · 2014-03-15T06:38:11+00:00

Don't worry about it, you're still in your freshman year. Start improving yourself now and you'll still have at least 3 more years to enjoy college.

2014-03-15T07:26:30+00:00

When you begin to make improvements in your social life and your fitness you will stop being so critical of yourself. That's the whole point of negative emotions, to compel you towards a more orderly and satisfying state of being. You shouldn't try to make your peace with having low SMV. You should work daily to elevate your SMV.

What you did to that girl was bad because it created disorder for her and for you. Misleading her had no net gain for you and actually had a net loss for you because now she'll perceive you as less intelligent.

imgoingstag · 2014-03-15T10:05:31+00:00

Ah, the bitter stage. We've all been there man. Too much bitterness can be poisonous. Don't let it affect you too much. You can't control what women do or how they behave. However, you can control yourself. Seems to me, what you need to focus on is strengthening yourself in three areas: physically, mentally, and emotionally.

Physically, to get stronger and because aesthetics bro.

Mentally, to establish a frame of who you are, what you're about - what you like, and don't like, what you'll tolerate, and what you won't. Find yourself, and never try to define yourself with another person/woman.

Emotionally, to be able to maintain frame and not get knocked down to a woman's level when she tries to shit-test you/manipulate you. You're above their tactics, don't let them get to you. Always stay cool-headed. The moment you blow up and get angry, they already won.

Purely speculation here, based off what you said, but I don't think someone who would consider themselves 'RP' would make snarky comments back to a girl asking for help, even going as far as to purposefully aid in her failure. To me that sounds like someone who's extremely bitter and is taking out frustrations from the past on potential lays in the future. So, you have to let go man, that shit that happened is done, bury it and forget it.

One thing I would recommend you start doing is utilizing the power of the word no. Just look the sorostitute in the eye and flat out say no to her request. Take the next few weeks saying no to women, and people in general. Stand up for yourself - every guy has a spine, only men use it.

ManicMuffin · 2014-03-15T10:15:25+00:00

As soon as you accept it then you've already lost the war. You should strive everyday knowing you are better than the one before if only by an inch and not a mile.

2014-03-15T13:47:41+00:00

Check out if your college offers any martial arts or boxing classes. Few things will raise your self confidence more than learning how to physically defend yourself. And it's a great way to channel those negative emotions, bro.

Don't focus on girls. Focus on making yourself the man you admire. The girls will follow.

bigyellowtwinki · 2014-03-15T15:45:30+00:00

You should really just focus on maximizing your value in your career in your 20s, because it will mean a lot more poon in your 30s. Do very well in school, network with MEN, save your money (at this point you may dump a lot of it on a pretty girl because of how insecure you seem).

You should cultivate an abundance mentality. There will always be a lot of fine ass out there. Spend time working on yourself and your career and the chicks will eventually come. Don't waste time on PUA when you should be jockeying for internships.

Also, never bed a fat chick, just don't do it. Before you know it a few years will have passed and you'll be bigger, healthier, smarter, and more confident if you focus on real success, not bedroom success.

cookem8 · 2014-03-15T16:41:21+00:00

Don't fuck fat chicks. We need these women to know they can't get laid, and need to improve themselves physically in order to do so.

leftajar · 2014-03-15T21:16:55+00:00

So yeah, it looks like I'm going to be low SMV for my college years.

Quit your whining.

Go to the gym, get fit, and learn game. You'll be fine. It's never easier to get laid than in college.

KyfhoMyoba · 2014-03-15T23:41:20+00:00

Here's another tip: LEARN GAME! How come no one else has said this? Get on a file sharing site and get everything that Ross Jeffries, Style (Neil Strauss), RSD/Tyler Durden, LoveSystems, and Mystery have ever published. Have this shit playing thru your earbuds CONSTANTLY. goodlookingloser.com has a good tutorial system to overcome approach anxiety.

LEARN. GAME.

Hyooge · 2014-03-15T23:18:23+00:00

Don't think that you are low SMV, tell yourself you have more value than you have yesterday. Everything is a journey and you aren't this or that. If you're working on yourself in some form or another you are increasing the value you have as a person.

wall-of-meth · 2014-03-15T11:33:18+00:00

You accept it by improving it. You see your mistake, go out there and improve. Accepting isn't living with something. Accepting is making something out of that.

SMV is a sum of looks, frame, body language and social value, probably even more. But those are important factors and can raise your SMV alone by a huge amount.

So, frame and body language are almost instantly changeable. While lifting, focus on yourself, rethink old situations, dont let others fuck you over. Don't stutter, speak loudly and clearly. Straighten the fuck up when walking, maintain eye contact, but stay relaxed. Take up your space and as much space as you like.

This raises your SMV very fast. Changing your attitude will get you a long way. TRP is a mindset that demands actions, not some theoretical stuff.

2014-03-15T12:29:07+00:00

and gave her literally all of the wrong answers to a test

lmfao that is hilarious

GushyWetWet15 · 2014-03-15T09:53:32+00:00

start lifting and looking after yourself and you'll be the guy with the highest smv on the block in no time, simple as that

vandramir · 2014-03-15T06:38:35+00:00

Self discipline results in self respect; and you are only as smart as how well you can control your mind. This is one of the most important lessons you will learn over the next few years.

TP_2 · 2014-03-15T12:29:44+00:00

"I've been suffering from a masturbation/porn addiction since my freshman year of high school, I'm really weak and skinny and my social skills are still a piece of shit. As of now, I've begun working out/eating more so I don't look like I just escaped a Khmer prison, I've been learning how to play jazz on my trumpet and I've switched my major to something I actually enjoy doing(engineering). In addition to that, I've just basically begun talking to more people in general so I can practice my social skills."

Why don't I see: "I recently started going to the gym 6x a week and eating for gains," in this list? Are you people really missing the fucking mark this far?

So yeah, it looks like I'm going to be low SMV for my college years. But luckily I'm male and "women age like milk, [and] men age like fine wine." That is all.

Total fucking horse shit, make real physical changes to your body, reap the rewards that the masters here preach. It doesnt take 4 fucking years to make progress in this area. If you do it right you'll see results in a matter of months.

Title	How to accept having low SMV for a while?
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Date	March 15, 2014 2:50 AM UTC (12 years ago)
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