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[–]Important-Quote9544 6 points7 points8 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Nah bro. You can try but if she wanted to meet up she would have messaged you. Also the fact she on tinder means she looking for someone else.
[–]morpinravioli69 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
The tinder thing doesn’t really bother me, this is the first time we will have seen each other in a good while. We haven’t been seeing each other.
[–]Important-Quote9544 3 points4 points5 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Right. But i dont think you should message her b/c it could come off desperate. Also I think deep down you know if she wants to meetup or not. If she flakes oh well onto the next
[–]hookedonfonicsmunky 3 points4 points5 points 4 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
i've had this happen many times, i just let it die. only cuz i've learned to not double text cuz fuck them, but honestly the ones who are down won't make those games happen
[–]willgo-waggins 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
This here.
The new girl I met at the bar last night was literally making her friend (her DD ride) wait while she texted me to come back after I had left the bar and see her again before they went home. Then she continued to do so for an hour and a half including a lot of sexual stuff and again first thing this morning and this afternoon!
When they want to get with you, you will absolutely know the difference.
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Must be nice. I have yet to experience that.
[–]ReorgAtty 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
You’re not wrong that the ones who are down will make it easy. But shit isn’t binary. It’s not they’re down or they’re not. Maybe they dk. Maybe it fluctuates. Maybe they were and then some other guy came into the picture. Like she’s a girl, you know a bunch of guys are trying. Imagine if you had 5 girls trying to hook up with you, all reasonably equivalent. Would you be holding out for that one rando you talked to 2 weeks ago, or would you go with the chick who’s hitting you up right now and is ready to fuck?
I mean if she’s clearly not interested, drop it. But it’s usually not that clear (for you or her) so why prematurely chalk it up as a loss? Who cares about double texting? You give away too much power when you let shit like that cloud your judgment.
[–]NineteenAD9 4 points5 points6 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
If you were on her mind, she would definitely hit you up. I just wouldn't bother. Hold her at her word. If she hits you up... great. If not, on to the next.
[–]Woujo 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Youre pushing too hard. Fall back. If she wants to hang shell let you know.
[–]willgo-waggins 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I’d not waste your time. It’s pretty obvious she was just humoring you so that you wouldn’t talk shit about her to mutual from HS.
I don’t ever bother pushing stuff like that. People have shit going on or they are just busy and over booked themselves.
As an example (not a chick but that is irrelevant). I have three FWB’s right now and adding a fourth (in process). Next weekend, #1 (longest and closest with some feelings - mutual) wanted me to go camping. So I will be out of town. #2 had originally invited me out of town this weekend but changed plans and went solo (probably has a GF there - she’s Bi - that didn’t want any guy presence). So I know she is goi g to want to get together next weekend. I’m gonna tell her I’m out of town but we can do weekend after. Meanwhile I’ll be with #1 sharing a tent by the ocean and likely seeing #3 on Thursday before I go (that’s her open night - runs her own business). And somewhere in there during the week I’ll try to make a spot for #4 (newest) to solidify that.
But nobody but me and #1 will know that we will be together and fucking each other stupid next weekend.
And I’m a GUY man! How do you think it is for a FURL with tens or dozens of other local yokels like you trying g to take another swing? Likely she is getting riser sore by some ex BF or crush because we always have first option on that sort of thing when we are that guy and it’s a homecoming trip.
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Contact her.
The only thing important in anyone's life is what is happening and how she is feeling right now. Grab her attention and set something up. Don't mention any "hey, you said you'd reach out", ignore it.
Or shes not interested, so now you're not wondering anymore.
[–]morpinravioli69 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Should I just say something like, “Hey would you like to do something on [insert day]?”
That's fine. Your exact wording has pretty much no effect on the outcome.
Wow 10 days? You have more patience than me my friend because I would've moved on once it hit the 3rd day.
I am glad for this post you made. Some of these answers are truly helping me with some of my issues that I was curious about with the woman I'm seeing currently.
[–]ReorgAtty 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Hit her up. You’re overthinking this and most of the comments here are a bit too egocentric. Let’s be real - she’s a single girl on tinder; a bunch of guys are hitting her up. Unless you are a 10 or super rich or something similar, you’re just not special. That’s okay, neither am I. But she’s going to go with the path of least resistance and fuck the guy that hits her up.
Don’t worry about “holding her to her word” or “double texting” or whatever. Your goal is to fuck her. That won’t happen by saying nothing. Just hit her up and make plans. If she doesn’t reply favorably, or at all, then just drop it. It takes ten seconds to shoot her a quick text, legit zero meaningful investment.
[–]morpinravioli69 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
What would you suggest I say?
I mean it really depends on your dynamic but I would keep it crisp. Maybe start with something about tinder like, “lmao saw you on tinder, I’m awaiting my super like” and follow that up with “let’s grab a drink Friday” or whatever day.
Here’s a quick story I think is insightful. I matched with a girl on tinder about a month ago. Chatted very briefly, I gave her my number and told her to text me. She said okay. Later that night, no text. I’m back on tinder, I message her again just continuing our convo. She says oh sorry, I forgot to text, and then texts me. I set up drinks with her and we chat normal, she’s interested but honestly I’m the one who has to text first every day. And that’s fine with me, it means I control the cadence of our communication.
Anyway, long story short I fucked her last weekend and now she won’t stop talking about how much I made her cum. Put the effort in to get what you want. That doesn’t mean appear needy or desperate, and it’s much more nuanced than this comment implies, but at the end of the day you have to be in her face for her to fuck you. Or it’ll be someone else.
What do you think happens to the sperm that doesn’t put in the effort? No egg. Lol just do what you gotta do to fuck her or someone else will.
[–]FlowerAdditional2944 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
She's hiding herself from you bruh... Get yourself self respect and move on!
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