Should I use word "date"?

2022-01-22T14:59:38+00:00

A girl recently told me that she's not into dating dating right now

Translation: "I'm not into dating you"

This is going to be difficult because she's not into you, but if you want to give it a shot, you have to show her little attention unless you're in person. This means no texting unless you're working towards setting up meeting her in person.

Yes, call it whatever you want but don't call it a date. You also need to make your intentions clear by escalating physically. Try playing with her hair, touching her arm when you laugh, stuff like that and see how she reacts. If she pulls away, it's not going to happen.

You also need to have firm boundaries with yourself and with her. Since you're interested in her as a romantic partner, do not allow her to spend time with you as friends. Otherwise you are putting yourself in the term that I hate... The friend zone.

2022-01-22T16:04:41+00:00

She doesn’t want to date you. Move on. If she hits you with the, “I’d love to have a new friend” bullshit, don’t fall for it. You’re setting yourself up for a world of pain. She doesn’t owe you a date, so you don’t owe her a friendship.

dasanman69 · 2022-01-22T20:20:51+00:00

Always try to invite them to something you are already doing or going to. I don't think I've ever in my life used the word date in my relationships.

PontusOfMars · 2022-01-23T02:00:11+00:00

Yes, you absolutely should define the meetup as a "date". It's polarizing, but you want things to be polarizing. With dating, it's either a "fuck yes" or a "hell no".

That being said, she's giving signals that she's not into you.

TheRiverOfDyx · 2022-01-23T03:37:06+00:00

Always specific if it’s a date, they can feel led on for a friendship otherwise. I’ve had plenty of dates with strangers that assumed it was “like a friend hangout” because I didn’t specify it as a date.

Lesson learned: Always propose a date, never a hangout. Keeps the Mooches to a minimum

Miragio · 2022-01-23T08:15:24+00:00

The only time I use the word “date” is to say “I don’t do dates”. We’re human, not machines, so you can convince someone to do something they SAY they’re not interested in, by referring to it as something else. Women especially.

Salesmen know this intimately. You don’t try to persuade an atheist that Jesus loves him by going through his brain, the grace of God isn’t logical— you go for his heart.

ReasonableArgument69 · 2022-01-23T12:29:38+00:00

If she likes you or not I can’t tell. From my own experience: I can like guys both in a platonically and sexually way. I personally hate the word dating, it comes with an expectation for flirting and romance. And I am not romantic at all, it makes me feel awkward and suffocated. I like to hang out with guys I like,but the pressure of dating is simply put, too uncomfortable and awkward… meaning I can’t relax around you.

BostonWeedParty · 2022-01-23T13:55:35+00:00

I always use the word hangout and it seems to work better, I think cause it puts less pressure on the date. Obviously it's still a date, but not calling it that it makes everything more low key

Shadow__Account · 2022-01-22T15:17:54+00:00

In the past I have been on a lot of dates where I didn't make moves and pussied out. So the change for me to explicitly call it a date, was a good one for me. I think we usually stay away from things like this because we try to avoid rejection, in this case we are scared that when we make our intentions clear she will turn us down, but its actually way better for your own time, growth and also for your attraction in her eyes to actually be very clear about your intentions. So in my opinion yes definitely use the word date.

skinticket02 · 2022-01-22T20:07:41+00:00

I feel like you know the answer.

2022-01-22T20:39:08+00:00

Man what better signal do you need from her to tell you that she doesn't want to sleep with you.

Title	Should I use word "date"?
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Date	January 22, 2022 2:56 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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