Does kino in first dates actually work? I've had a negative kino reaction...

Calamity__Bane · 2022-01-19T09:42:14+00:00

is my implementation just wrong?

Yeah, start lighter and let her respond to you. Kino is a conversation.

AloofusMaximus · 2022-01-19T16:12:06+00:00

but the knee touching... and hand holding

One of those is kino, and one is boyfriend behavior. You know which is which.

I've NEVER held hands on a first date. The closest thing is taking her hand and leading her somewhere.

So kino works because people connect through physical touch. It's an escalation, and you can absolutely make her uncomfortable going too far and/or too fast.

If you're touching her leg (even her knee) it should be a bit later into the interaction.

Kino, like pretty much every aspect of seduction, means you're paying attention to her and acting accordingly.

Some women I've never touched past touching their hands or forearm, one that went on to be a fwb was rubbing my cock through my pants under the bar table within an hour of first meeting her.

So start off with the casual touching. Hands, forearms, shoulder. Just lightly, briefly, and gauge how she reacts. If she reacts positively you can then move on to things like her legs.

About the most I would go in public is her face or hair (and definitely don't do that if there's any doubt). Escalation beyond that is going to be leading toward sex.

Bionicboyo · 2022-01-19T09:53:04+00:00

Just got to make sure you start small and slowly escalate, just so it doesn’t come out of no where. Also has to be as natural as possible (so you got that down pat). Uhhh I try not to hold hands on the first date, that’s a bit too much imo. I don’t kiss either so maybe that’s just me 🤷‍♂️

Selkie-Princess · 2022-01-19T10:43:29+00:00

The only time I didn’t want a man to touch me was when I wasn’t attracted to him physically and needed him to really do the most for a few weeks to make me like his personality

cronasminate · 2022-01-19T11:43:28+00:00

Do not do Kino and never call it Kino. Just do gradual physical escalation. Start out with incidental, fun and short touch. Then when you feel more comfortable and she seems to initiate some touching herself, it can be longer and more intimate. Don't overthink it. Just feel it out.

latinasonly · 2022-01-20T01:25:56+00:00

i agree with what others are saying skip the hand holding for a first date. also don't get too handsy in public and escalate gradually.

normally girls respond very well to most physical escalations on my part short of kissing (which they reject a lot) but I ALWAYS try to kiss them again and usually it works, so perhaps you need to step up your game and make yourself more attractive, because when girls really like you even clumsy physical escalation works.

DoomerToChad · 2022-01-19T09:39:09+00:00

I had only good reactions to kino myself, and had girls ghost me because I DIDNT escalate. Maybe you doing it wrong?

Title	Does kino in first dates actually work? I've had a negative kino reaction...
Author	tehverdikt
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Date	January 19, 2022 9:31 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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