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[–]Ljhasta 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Texting is for setting up dates. Not for escaping eachother from boredom
[–]JacobMoogberg69 5 points6 points7 points 4 years ago (17 children) | Copy Link
The less you text the more they will want you. Fact. And inversely, the more you text, the more they will lose interest.
[–]Canadian-Seductioner 6 points7 points8 points 4 years ago (15 children) | Copy Link
Not true. If you go completely silent after setting up a date, the girl will just forget about you and make other plans lol.
[–]froze_gold 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
It is true more than it is not. "Pinging" - a brief text reminder - is usually good but if she doesn't make the event a priority of a sort, regardless, then she wasn't that interested to begin with.
[–]Canadian-Seductioner 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
These days, no girl is going to make a first date with a random guy a priority when she has so many dating options out there. If you're not building rapport/comfort before the date to subconsciously reassure her that she's making the right choice in meeting up with you, she's going to flake on you and go out with the guy who does.
[–]froze_gold 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
So, basically, you aren't good at first impressions "lol". Texts aren't for building anything because there is no tone in it.
Assuming you also have options: If she flakes, then NEXT.
[–]Canadian-Seductioner 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Sounds like your text game isn't very good then. If that's the case, then yeah stick to radio silence lol.
[–]JacobMoogberg69 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Lol. They don't forget me that easily.
Confidence isn't lacking so that's good haha
[–]mysterious-puzzlebox 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (8 children) | Copy Link
Not in my experience. I usually set a date up a week in advance and text the day before or day of to confirm. Haven’t really experienced many flakes that way either. Most women I date don’t seem like big on texting whenever I send our feelers to see what their style is
[–]Canadian-Seductioner 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (7 children) | Copy Link
Also depends on the ages of the girls you're trying to date. I can see your point making sense for older women (30+). Less so for girls under 30 though.
Either way, every man's gotta figure out what works for him and go with that.
[–]mysterious-puzzlebox 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
Personally even for younger women I dates 22-25 they don’t seem that big on texting. They’ll respond to my messages but leave me little to follow up with, so I don’t see a point in trying to pursue much engagement
[–]Canadian-Seductioner 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
Fair enough. If it works for you, then all the power to you!
[–]mysterious-puzzlebox 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
I am the person that personally prefers to text more so I am unsure what to do. Maybe you can provide some advice? I only act this way due to the behavior I’ve seen. Usually I get along great with these women in person on dates but texting them seems distant
[–]Canadian-Seductioner 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Well to be fair, I actually connect with girls on IG instead of getting their number so my experience might be different as a result of that. It's easy to have normal conversations by commenting on their stories and stuff.
[–]mysterious-puzzlebox 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Oh yeah, I agree. It’s much easier when connected to their IG. I am talking about girls I meet off dating apps first
[–]Canadian-Seductioner 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Oh so was I actually. I meet most of the women I sleep with these days on dating apps. I get their IG after asking them out on a date on the app, then discuss logistics in the DMs plus continue whatever conversation we may have been having.
[–]mysterious-puzzlebox2 points 4 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link
Good plan. Last girl I went in a date with I got her number off the dating app pretty quickly and actually texted her a lot in between the date and ended up seeing her the night before our planned date due to the rapport from our text messages and again the day of original planned date. I got her IG and other socials when we met up, but I might secure that’s even earlier now. I prefer to text a lot and will keep what you said in mind. It’s very helpful, thank you!
[–]SnooMacarons6242 -1 points0 points1 point 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
You’re right , text less, set up date , that’s it talk in person. I learned this the hard way.
[–]emimavis6 points 4 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link
I think it depends on the person. For me personally, it’s kind of a mix. For example, I was talking to this one guy on the dating apps and we weren’t talking everyday. We talk maybe every 3 days and it’s because he’s not a big texter and he’s a very busy person but we always plan dates and when it’s closer to date night we just text to confirm the plans because it’s more fun to talk in person than to text everyday and find out there’s not much to talk about in person.
In situations where texting shows disinterest and not texting everyday are one worded answers. No plans are made. I think people can generally tell if you show interest but isn’t big on texting.
But that’s just my personal opinion haha just speak for everyone
[–]Sunnymood_Today 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
It depends! Personally, if we don't text at all until the date or in-between dates, I lose interest and / or feel like they're just interested in sex. No need for 50 texts or vocals a day, but there's nothing complicated in just sending and receiving some hello, goodnight, casual facts about the day, random memes just to build up the interest and complicity.
Everyday is not necessarily needed, we all have lives. But if a date is planned a week away and I don't hear from you until then, you definitely sound disinterested.
Yep, pretty much.
[–]UrFavPlayerIsBack 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (19 children) | Copy Link
No text in between. Text only to set up a date. All
Ps: this is mostly before the first meet. And after
[–]Canadian-Seductioner 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (18 children) | Copy Link
[–]PiratesFan1429 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
How far out are you making your dates?
Usually a couple days. But I often don't have time to meet with multiple girls though and need to delay some of them to the week after, hence why text game is important.
[–]UrFavPlayerIsBack 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (7 children) | Copy Link
If a girl forgets about u during that time then u never even got into her head..
But if u keep talking, be sure that you’ll get out of her head faster than your sex is..
[–]Canadian-Seductioner 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
Hey, if radio silence works for you, then all the power to you, but the idea that having a conversation with the girl via text before meeting her makes you lose attraction is ridiculous. If that's what happens to you, then all it means is your text game sucks.
[–]UrFavPlayerIsBack 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
Speaking from experience or thats what you’ve heard?
Dude, attraction grows in space n time, after u made first good impression. If theres too much of you, you’re becoming just another headache for her. And if she forgets about u in a few days.. then u can tell who’s game sucks.
Ps: theres no radio silence for me. I don’t sit there and wait till the special day comes like you.. I date another chicks in between. If I get extra time ofc.
[–]Canadian-Seductioner 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Speaking from experience.
If theres too much of you, you’re becoming just another headache for her
Yeah, you obviously don't want to overdo it.
And if she forgets about u in a few days.. then u can tell who’s game sucks.
If you're scheduling dates for the next day or two, then you probably don't need to be keeping a conversation going, but any further out than that and actively choosing not to say anything will hurt you more than help you.
Ps: theres no radio silence for me.
You literally just said you don't message the girl after setting up the date. That's radio silence.
I don’t sit there and wait till the special day comes like you
Lol I'm literally here arguing that texting girls after you set up the date is perfectly fine so idk why you're trying to claim I sit there and wait?
I date another chicks in between.
So do I, I don't know how that's relevant to the conversation though lol.
[–]UrFavPlayerIsBack 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Idk man, glad that works for ya. Keep doing if you’re not getting flakes or ghosted..
Same to you! ✌️
[–]inverted_electron 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
This is the way. Texting never helps. The girl I just started dating texts me a lot though, and I have to be careful not to say too much. Just set the next date and live your life.
[–]UrFavPlayerIsBack 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Yeah if she does- good indicator. But keep eye on it, she may throw some tests meanwhile. Lotta dudes failing tests don’t even know what went wrong..she seems very happy about meetup yesterday, but the next day her cat suddenly “gets sick”.
[–]inverted_electron 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (7 children) | Copy Link
If they forget about you, they weren’t that into you in the first place. The move is to set the date, don’t text ever. Just show up to the date like you said you were. Usually, the girl will text you a few hours before the date to make sure it’s still on. If you text them it shows you are insecure and looking for reassurance.
[–]Canadian-Seductioner 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
Hey, if radio silence works for you, then all the power to you, but there's nothing wrong with texting them beforehand. As long as you don't overdo it, you'll be fine.
[–]inverted_electron 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
It’s fine until it’s not. Better safe than sorry imo.
[–]Canadian-Seductioner 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
As long as your text game is fine, there's nothing to worry about. I find my text game ensures that attraction is maintained if a date can't happen within a couple days.
[–]inverted_electron 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Texting actually lowers attraction. If you don’t think you can maintain attraction btw dates, you gotta work more on yourself and self confidence.
Texting actually lowers attraction
Lmao only if your text game is weak.
If you don’t think you can maintain attraction btw dates, you gotta work more on yourself and self confidence.
It's not about thinking, it's about basic laws of attraction. If you go silent after scheduling a date a week from today, that girl will completely forget about you.
Lol. Aight. That’s not what the basic law of attraction is but ok. Basic law of attraction means that she either is attracted, or she’s not. You don’t have to do anything do try to attract her, nature takes care of that for you.
With enough experience you’ll learn that.
Right, and women operate on emotion which dissipates day by day when meeting a totally new guy, if attraction is not maintained.
Start talking to women and you'll learn that.
[–]Canadian-Seductioner -1 points0 points1 point 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Not every day. Once every 2 days or so is good. Ideally you don't want to schedule a date too far in advance to begin with. Also, I recommend getting their IG instead of their number. More opportunities to start conversations from stories and stuff.
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