How do I improve my personality

RedEyeBlackEye1 · 2021-09-16T18:53:25+00:00

"hey, sup...so how's your day(or morning) going?"

"Oh wow, how did that happen?"

"Man, you look great...I'm trying to get in shape, what do you do to look like that?"

"Sup babe...you have the most amazing eyes, what's your name, pretty eyes?"

" Guess what? I think you're cute...and I can't stop looking at that pretty little smile. What's your name?"

Ask open questions, pick up on conversation threads (bits of information thats interesting and help to further the interaction)...now ask an open question about THAT thread. Rinse and repeat, chiming in to laugh, compliment, or show emotion at outrageous parts of the convo.

Protip: when you compliment a chick, IF SHE SEEMS INTO YOU AND RECEPTIVE, you can touch her arm lightly to break the touch barrier. Warning!, for this to work on a chick YOU'VE JUST MET...be at LEAST a 6/10 in looks. Otherwise, you might get jumped by a wild pack of whiteknights and metoo'd.

prettyaurore · 2021-09-16T18:45:04+00:00

Do more activities or find hobbies. It'll help you branch out and discover more about different subjects. You can always bring something up from that if you're stuck. I like making people laugh so I try to find inside jokes with people I interact with on a daily basis. You can ask questions about them even (that aren't too personal), odds are they'll ask you questions back. :)

HitboxOfASnail · 2021-09-16T20:09:46+00:00

have opinions on things. politics, religion, movies, books, fashion, stock market, whatever

having a interesting personality is just having a bunch of opinions on shit and being able to express it, even if others disagree

the problem most guys face is they are afraid of offening anyone, and especially women, so they avoid having opinions, and they are therefore boring and overly accomadating

Cptflakey · 2021-09-17T04:50:00+00:00

Now people might disagree with me here, but this is my 2cents.

Whenever I speak to strangers, I'll typically ask a question. One that is mutually observed, something theyre wearing, or if you no of them (through work) ask a question about something you've heard theure interested in.

Then listen!! Key part. Then ask a follow up question (but obviously do not come across as interviewing!) "Oh you like to play.. I've never played it, how long you been doing that for? Listen, and smile. Ive had entire conversations where they just talk about themselves then catch themselves and be like, "I've been talking for ages" then rush to ask you a question. 80-90% of my conversations with new people is me being interested in them. Generally, people like to talk about themselves. Let them, you'll find a cue to speak about something. Youre driving the conversation, they are filling it. Secondly, it'll make you look like a nice, quietly confident person who doesn't feel the need to talk about yourself. Then they'll be interested in you because (if its the opposite sex) they'll try get to know you in return.

Get out of your own head with the whole "they're really interesting, they do a lot, I do fuck all, I've got nothing to say!" You are absolutely crippling yourself with these negative thoughts, as you'll just be wanting to walk away because you feel awkward.

I'm an introvert. Often mistaken for an extrovert because of how I dress and look. But I don't need validation, reassurance, or the need to present myself.

I just think, I'm here, I'm interested in what you've got to say for I'm talking to you now. You'll be a very likeable person for it, and people will like to talk to you who've maybe observed you speaking with somebody else, and it appeared the conversation flowed.

[Edit] damn autocorrect

FlanneryODostoevsky · 2021-09-16T21:15:34+00:00

Do shit. Have some hobbies that youre genuinely into. Not some shit you think is cool. And read or at least make sure some form of art is experienced on a regular basis. Watching movies or going to galleries or something.

TypicalArmy8 · 2021-09-16T14:51:02+00:00

Reading and hobbies help. Picture what you consider an interesting person and work to become that

Kartikey15 · 2021-09-17T10:33:08+00:00

Just do stuff and have opinions. And when you talk to someone try to find a middle ground, something you have in common and talk about it. Like I'll tell you what I did yesterday. There's some trainer in my gym and his shift is in the evening. I go in the morning so he's not there at that time. I met him once, he somehow came in the morning to do his workout that one time. So he saw me doing my exercise and corrected my form. Weeks later, I saw him yesterday evening (wasn't able to go in the morning yesterday, so went in the evening). I met him, he greeted. He said he doesn't see me much. I said yeah thats coz i come in the morning. Then i asked him does he see any change in my physique (given he saw me in such a long time). So we talked about that, then we moved onto exercises, workouts, and then onto diet, and we had a big long talk. Now there's no "tension" b/w us and i can talk to him freely anytime I want and go personal as well.

P.S. - I'm a boy, trainer's a boy and No I'm not gay.

EU-Howdie · 2021-09-18T19:31:25+00:00

When you are interested in "basic"things, and study and practice them, is always good too. Like cooking and massage. Everybody loves when somebody does that to him / her. But too, certainly cooking is a nice subject to talk about, to do for somebody, to invite a person at your place. What you lie to eat, become a good cook for these "kitchen" lie Italian, Greece or cajun or Chinese, Indonesian, Polnish. Even when you cannotcook a lot but are really good in making pancake (all kinds, I know a pancake restaurant with 99 kind of pancakes; fruits, meat, vegetables, sweet, spicy. Just my experience ......

Title	How do I improve my personality
Author	Youthful25
Upvotes	19
Comments	10
Date	September 16, 2021 1:55 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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