My first approach

someone_678 · 2021-08-26T09:14:01+00:00

damn, you describe it like you just came back from a full blown war

EU-Howdie · 2021-08-26T09:22:04+00:00

Congratulations, the first time of everything is the most difficult. Now you did it, just go on, and it will become easier and easier ....

DestroyerOfNuts95 · 2021-08-26T08:45:34+00:00

I salute you brother, it´s not easy and it´s for no one, there are just folks where this sorta thing seems easy and effortless but trust me on that one - everyone is nervous in a cold approach even the girl you talking to. There is no magic pill there you can gain overnight confidence the thing with cold approaches is the unpredictable nature of it, so you can practically never be prepared for the outcome. What I want to convey to you is that you just go with the flow, feel this and dont be ashamed of it. Many girls find that cute by the way or should I say it`s my experience so far. At the begin of everything we dont know, we all look the same - like fools and there is nothing wrong that, to be better at something we must practice, it is said that you need to practice something atleast 10000 times to be good/a master in it. So try again and again and you will feel better and better doing it. But please take this advice and dont copy anyone stay your trueself, women can smell that shit a mile away. So good luck on your next adventure.

Piratemely · 2021-08-26T07:36:17+00:00

As a woman, I salute u man because it takes guts to get past that first interaction. In this case, u have set yourself up to where u left it open for further interactions which is good thing!

Given how shy u are, keep the interactions short and simple. A "hey, how are u today" or "i hope u kick ass" (given that you're in the gym) to 1) keep u at the forefront of her attention, 2) it gives u the time to adjust and get used to talking to her, and 3) it builds up the excitement and anticipation along with the increased curiosity about the other person.

Since u said, u both caught each other's attention then, clearly, she is interested. Especially because she smiled at u when u introduced yourself. That is a great sign and hold on to that! She is comfortable that u approached her and was willing to communicate with u besides just asking if u are done with the machine. Keep taking it slow with your interactions and building up your confidence so that u don't feel uncomfortable approaching her as it will make her more interested.

Bottom line, just be yourself and everything will fall into place. If she likes u the way it seems like she does, then u have no issue except just u being comfortable talking to her. Also consider, if she does turn u down, u got through the hardest part... approaching her. U got this!!

froze_gold · 2021-08-26T13:49:28+00:00

Have you been back to the gym since? A piece of advice circulating round is that approaching in the gym is not a great idea.

Hopefully it goes beyond pleasantries for you two and don't fall back into just eye balling each other ;)

DankSarthakg · 2021-08-26T16:27:49+00:00

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Devolution20 · 2021-08-26T17:38:40+00:00

Says Hi. Runs away.

What girl isn't going to chase you. They love that shy shit man.

Say what you want to say. Be who you want to be. If she's not onboard then she ain't good for you brotha!

Tell her quit literally what you've told us....she's a cutie...you've been really interest in getting to know her, but your really shy.

Giannis2024 · 2021-08-26T17:40:12+00:00

I’m proud of you man, keep up the good work 👏

I’ve only done one approach this year- it was also at my gym. It was awkward as hell and I didn’t get to ask for her number, but I’m still happy that I at least tried and did something.

When you see another girl you like, you’ll know that you’re capable of talking to her- you’ve proved it to yourself before.

Automatic_Beautiful9 · 2021-08-26T19:14:47+00:00

Idk how good u look. But if u r average like me, expect to be rejected a lot. But it’s a numbers game

M0dsRGay69 · 2021-08-26T21:12:44+00:00

Your next step is to get physical. When you see her, let her know you’ll spot her and she can spot you. Keep the touches light. But by letting throwing in touch, you can gauge her reaction. If she seems uncomfortable then you know to back off a bit. If she doesn’t seem to mind then you’re already half way there.

perpetualdriven · 2021-08-27T01:50:34+00:00

dawg just some advice - make sure you comment on something. You were at the gym, so you should talk about some fact about the gym. Some ideas - it's been so crowded lately! I've haven't been so consistent with my workout routine hahahaha etc..

RedEyeBlackEye1 · 2021-08-26T07:40:46+00:00

1) haircut for your face shape, fades work.

2) stubble or short beard and keep it trimmed to 4-6mm(sweet spot for aesthetics and attraction). Keep the sideburnlines, cheeklines, and neckline edged up. Remember angles can make or break it.

3) fix your posture and walk with masculine swagger. ALWAYS LEAD WITH YOUR CHARISMA... EVERYTHING ELSE IS JUST THE BAIT.

"LOOK good, FEEL good, PERFORM good."

good luck.

Title	My first approach
Author	DankSarthakg
Upvotes	143
Comments	36
Date	August 26, 2021 6:08 AM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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