27/M - Genuinely at the point where I feel like something is seriously wrong with me

thethrowowoy · 2021-08-15T14:52:39+00:00

Forget about girls
Track your food intake (download myfitnesspal)
Find out how many calories you eat each day
Increase your calorie intake by 10-20%
Go to the gym and work on progressive overloading weights, sticking to a programme you enjoy
Take some photos of what you look like now, so that you have a reference point to look back on
Keep working at it, see/feel the improvements (not only physically, but mentally as well)

Your issue is that you think girls are the route to proving you have nothing wrong with you. Trust me, if you don't love/care for yourself, you'll just enter a relationship with the wrong girl who'll likely take advantage of you, making you feel worse than you do now.

Girls aren't the fix. You hold all the tools to increase your self worth. Work on that first, then you'll feel just how valuable you are. The gym/muscle isn't the only route to feeling self-worth, but it has certainly helped me.

Good luck.

Western-Bite1759 · 2021-08-15T14:57:47+00:00

It's harder for a lot of people since Covid. I don't know where you live, but some restrictions don't make it easy for dating at all. Or you could have lost social skills during the pandemic. It happened to me. I was at peak confidence before the Covid and I walked like ten steps backwards. I need to work on it.

If all of this doesn't apply to you well I don't really know what you could do except improving yourself. You know the regular stuff. Working out, finding new hobbies, improving your social life (with anyone not just potential dates), expending your social circle and making more money sure helps like you mentioned. If you take two exact same versions of yourself and one has more money, well that one will be more attractive. It's just the way it is. As long as you aren't a jerk about it lol.

Anyways good luck!

moderndayfez · 2021-08-15T15:11:57+00:00

Your are too focused on the outcome. You shouldn't have remade you account just because your weren't get result at that time. Honestly homie just take a step back and get some hobbies. Gym, going to the park, beach etc and if you happen to see something you want try to go get it. Personally I'm not a fan of date site because it's more focused on superficial value vs genuine value. Also you can't convey tone or body language via messages. Which why I personally like in person interaction

BakerSufficient5655 · 2021-08-15T19:52:32+00:00

I can relate to you’re going through. Right now the dating apps are a total rip offx as they’re more scammers and women selling content than normal women doing what they do, so you’ll have to hit the streets when and where possible. The super markets, morning walks, etc and strike up some conversation.

Still speaking from experience, the solutions above won’t work if your not comfortable in your personality. Focus on approaching in the real world, keeping that woman’s attention for 2-4 minutes, judge if she’s interested, flirt, and give her your number. One last thing, never pass up an opportunity, be a dog. Sometimes a German Shepard other times a French Bully

PompousSchmuck · 2021-08-15T20:58:22+00:00

Love yourself, be awesome, be a leader, and show confidence. Women eat this shit up like crazy. Also, go for dancing - if you're good looking in comparison to others, youll notice them gravitate towards you.

Title	27/M - Genuinely at the point where I feel like something is seriously wrong with me
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Date	August 15, 2021 1:55 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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