How do I get over my fear of approach?

BluePsychosisDude2 · 2021-08-03T15:04:47+00:00

Experience. How do you get better at driving a car? By driving one. The more you talk to girls you are attracted to, the easier it will get.

UniverseCatalyzed · 2021-08-03T16:01:16+00:00

Cold approach is hard. It wouldn't work as well as it does if it didn't (if every guy found it easy to cold approach, everyone would do it.) Guys don't cold approach because approach anxiety makes it difficult, but that's what makes you stand out when you do approach!

Like most things in game the best way to get over AA is to internalize the idea that you are valuable, you are enough, and therefore you are not an interruption, an imposition, or a burden. Internalizing those ideas ensures you do not fear cold approach because you can be confident you are adding value to this woman's life, not sucking it away. But beyond internalizing those ideas there are a few tricks to get over AA.

First and best is just progressive desensitization. Start by asking girls for the time, progress until you're making a full approach and followup conversation, and get 20-30 approaches under your belt and you'll start feeling pretty normal doing it. It gets much easier as you go.

The second way which was the most helpful for me is to convince yourself that the pain of not approaching, not risking anything, and just being a boring useless chode is more painful than the anxiety of approaching. When you start to hate your cowardice and anxiety around approaching more than the approach itself, approaching suddenly becomes much easier.

Hope this helps!

1keentolearn12 · 2021-08-03T15:22:46+00:00

By approaching and learning from your mistakes

thelambofdeth · 2021-08-03T15:27:04+00:00

I'm the same height, dk if I'm conveniently attractive, but I'm not ugly and I'm in shape and I've struggled with approach anxiety for years. I have found nothing to get me over that hump and allow me to actually approach. I just over-think and never wind up doing it.

realtripper · 2021-08-03T17:00:18+00:00

I’m in the same boat. I’m good at flirting but without realizing it. Once it becomes apparent a girl is trying to get with me I lock up and get in my head.

Try to prepare scenarios to ask her leave with you. Once you climb that mountain the rest becomes so much easier because you know your in.

Title	How do I get over my fear of approach?
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Date	August 3, 2021 2:59 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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