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How do you guys keep up with all the dates?

OGWarlock · 2021-08-03T04:47:08+00:00

No, seriously. Since I started getting better with women this year, I'm now at the point where I have a good rapport with more of them than I can possibly...

OGWarlock

August 3, 2021

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Title	How do you guys keep up with all the dates?
Author	OGWarlock
Upvotes	5
Comments	15
Date	August 3, 2021 4:47 AM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/oww5rd/how_do_you_guys_keep_up_with_all_the_dates/
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[–]Matt_guyver 9 points10 points11 points 5 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link

[–]OGWarlock 1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

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[–]OGWarlock 1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link

Honestly, from your comment that's what it sounds like. As much as you want to attract women, first and foremost you should just be enjoying being around others and meeting interesting people. That means just being yourself, and some people will like it but others won't. That's perfectly okay and it happens to all of us. I used to be so worried about everyone liking me, but that made me a pushover and lack boundaries. Now that I'm more self-assured, sure, some people I come across will find a reason to dislike me, but it doesn't matter to me anymore unless they're someone I really care about.

As long as you're being you, there will be no "too" agressive or "too" timid. Whatever comes out will be fine, because it's really you. All these other guys put on a facade to try and impress women, and so literally by just expressing who you actually are and not who you think people want you to be, it'll put you way ahead of these guys, even before learning the specifics like kino, push-pull, etc.

If there is one specific technique I'd recommend using right out of the gate though, it'd be eye contact. The eyes communicate a lot, and by just looking at her you can give her all kinds of thoughts in her head like "what is he thinking?", "Does he like me?", etc. And that keeps her excited which is super important in attraction

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[–]OGWarlock 1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Lol honestly, I'd say as much as I consider myself successful with women compared to in the past, I'm still very much an amateur when it comes to this. Women definitely notice my newfound confidence but there's a difference between getting female attention and actually being successful. A lot of this is a numbers game and since a lot of women like my personality, I've been able to pull a few but my rational of interest to closing is like 10 to 1 or even less. The secret is it's not about success though it's about having fun. So to get to my level all it'd take is more self-love and less doubt honestly.

As far as tips to let your personality shine through around women, similar to what I just said, stop focusing so hard on getting her in bed and learn to just enjoy meeting an interesting person who you just happen to be attracted to as well. I was expanding my circle and learning to be more social in general, and that's when I noticed my opportunities with women start opening up naturally. The more you're around them hanging out and joking, the less nervous they'll make you.

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[–]OGWarlock 2 points3 points4 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Honestly, a lot of it for me has been social circle game and just having an interesting personality on social media, so women want to chat with me. I've had some success in online dating but not as much as the other two, and even though I hang out at bars and clubs honestly I'm still a little shy to just pull off direct approaches anywhere.

I'm working on that by starting random convos and I'll occasionally approach when I'm out partying, but I haven't been able to master those aspects of game yet. Not gonna lie though, being more social in general and my other successes help a lot with making me less nervous with actually approaching.

For example, last party I went to I actually asked a random girl to dance for the first time. She kinda rejected me halfway through the song but I was enjoying myself and still feeling good from actually going through with it that I didn't care at all about the rejection itself.