I’ve been chatting to a girl who replies every 3-4 days to set something up then disappears and returns with a vague excuse then disappears them returns etc

It made me realise I often do the same thing with girls, often without even intending to.

I realised I had one girl who I had been chatting to for almost 6 months, like she’s a captive in my basement. When I asked myself why the fuck I hadn’t met her It became obvious that it’s because I didn’t want to. So I finally grew the balls to tell her that she seems lovely but I’m not really in a place to be dating, happy to be friends with her though, and she said ok thanks for the chats and that was that.

But I like keeping options in my back pocket. I like the dopamine hit of seeing them reply to me and I like the vague fantasy of being able to meet up with them If I chose to.

Essentially it’s just wasting my time and energy, their time and energy, and it’s just a cuntish thing to do to someone. Even if they’re doing the same thing.

Do you guys do this?

How do you stop yourself from doing this?