Had my first tinder date Sunday. Pretty nice considering I’ve been getting flaked on consistently for quite some time. I posted a few months ago asking why I get flaked on so often, and the consensus was that I am not decisive enough when setting the dates, and I’m spending too much time trying to build rapport over text when I should be using the date to do that. So I tweaked these things and things started looking up for me pretty fast, it’s funny how much better “Let’s go bowling Sunday, I’ll pick you up around 6?” Works rather than “you free to hangout Sunday?” Or “let’s link”.

Anyways. The date went pretty well, I was surprisingly not as nervous as I figured I’d be, though I was still a lil nervous in the beginning. We talked and found we had a lot of things in common like having 5 siblings of the opposite sex, and one pair being fraternal twins. She seemed like a really smart person, I was clearly a moron in comparison honestly but she was pretty cool about it lmao. Honestly, she looked pretty different in person than online, but not drastically; I assume that’s the norm anyways. So I honestly didn’t want to do anything sexual. To be quite honest, my goal being on tinder is to get laid, I’ve been feeling more urgent about it since I am turning 20 in about a week. But she was so cool I wasn’t even bummed out, I actually really just liked talking to this girl. I’m honestly hoping she feels the same way about me because I’d like to keep her as a friend; she was that cool.

So I didn’t lose my virginity like i wanted, but this date kindof helped solidify in my mind it’s not about that at all for me , meeting dope people is really satisfying.

Later in the date there was just some silences while we were at a view smoking weed, I was freaking out in my head of how she probably likes me and it’ll sting if I reject her. Then I realized she’s a pretty girl on tinder, she could get railed by a way more attractive dude right after I leave if she wanted so I chilled out.

Just wanted to share this for folks in a similar position to me or others who have experienced this; get out there bros! Don’t focus on fucking, or atleast don’t spaz out if that doesn’t happen. It’s pretty cool to just meet girls with good vibes and talk. Oh and stop saying “let’s link” or “wanna hangout Thursday?” I think being decisive about making plans sets you apart from the other 20 dudes asking her out; unless you’re hot, then anything you say is gold.